An escort has changed my whole perception on Transwomen

[Flaco]

On Monday I went to see an escort I've been wanting to see for the longest. I always pick the escorts I want to see very carefully. If I think they'll be attracted to me as much as I'm attracted to them then I go for it. Anyway, I set up an appointment with this chick and took the trip to her place. Before we started the session we talked, joked, laughed for about 15-20 minutes, just a really friendly conversation. And then we started making out, we made out for a really long time. And then we got into sex. The sex was mindblowing, she throat fucked the crap out of me which I loved. And she rode my cock so wildly, my orgasm was so intense I was actually afraid I was going to pass out. I'm cutting the sexual part of this short because it's not the main point. After we were done having sex, we continued to cuddle and talk. I know a lot of guys want "GFE" but this was way more than that, this was WIFEY experience.

We started having a deep convo in which we talked about our lives, and really got to know each other on a personal level. After that we made out some more. When I held her, looked into her eyes and kissed her I could feel her passion, her pain, her innocence, her strength all in one. If you've been in a situation like this you'll know exactly what I mean. She is just such a beautiful person. We cuddled for so long after, and then we watched a movie. It just felt so real being with her, I told her afterwards that I don't even care about the sex anymore I just want to see her again. I would love to take her to the movies or out to eat. She told me she's usually bored and always lonely and that she really liked me but that I'm just a baby. (I'm 22 and she's 34, but she doesn't look it at all). We chatted some more (I was at her place for about 4hrs) and she started telling me she wanted me to sleep over. I wanted to but it was late, I was exhausted from the sex and I had work the next morning so I had to decline. She walked with me out of her place, and when I was about to leave, me and her shared one last, deep, passionate kiss. I heard some guys walking past who were saying "Well, Daaamn!" LOL

At this point I would be willing to date her in a heartbeat, I know she likes me and I like her a lot but then again she's an escort. How can I date someone who has sex for a living, no matter how much I like her that seems like a deal breaker. How would I be able to make that work? It made me feel bad because she told me she had to start escorting when she lost her job. I don't really know what to do, but for now I def plan on taking her to the movies whenever I get the chance. I miss her a lot. She made me realize exactly how beautiful Transwomen can be both on the outside and inside. She wanted me to call her today, so I will shortly :)

[GrimFusion]

Hot damn, escorts are real people?!? </sarcasm>

It sounds as though you might be a little too into the chick assuming the two of you only spent one evening together, but despite my opinion it seems like the two of you certainly enjoy each other's company. That doesn't necessarily mean you need to have a deep, meaningful relationship with her considering you seem uneasy about the thought of her escorting at the same time. Unless you can come to terms, that's likely a setup for failure anyway. Why can't it be as simple as ringing her up during off hours and inviting her out with you somewhere? Eventually (if she's chill with it), invite her to crash at your place if it's more convenient. It'd be far easier and less complicated to value her as a good friend than to try to become involved with her in any regard. Just don't be too clingy.

[killerkkz]

interesting story....this might sound like a dumb question but how open are transwomen to a conventional relationship with a man that could be essentially a de facto marriage, i.e. the lady is happy to be dependent on the man in a conventional man/wife type of way.

[Rusty Eldora]

It can work, I have a gg girlfriend that is a provider, mostly FBSM but I am sure she does FS with some clients, just I don't really want to know. OK I am still in a LTR so I have multiple women in my life, that can change my perspective.

She arrives tomorrow for 2 weeks, we have been together for about 8 weeks a year for the last few years. A great side benefit is she shares me with her friends also, often in duos. It works for us.

She escorts for her job, not much different than being a therapist or nurse. If she can separate the heart from the sex (and you can) and she uses protection is it that bad. Not perfect, but what is. The journey could be fun even if the destination is unknown.

One adage is that escorts cost less than girlfriends, GF's less than wives, and the most expensive is ex-wives. I would recommend for now to separate the sex session from the friend time. Pay for the sex session and let her manage the off the clock time, that avoids the feeling of trying to get 'free' stuff. As the friendship goes forward, that will change.

Good luck and have fun.

[littletwink]

You kissed a whore? WTF?!

j/k, just keep hitting it until she tires of you. And like Grim said, don't be clingy or she'll be done with you sooner rather than later.

[syla]

Some very good valid points coming out of all three comments.. Mine is this; I would like to think that they can get lonely as escorts and we present that window of them getting to forget about having sex for a living. We're like an escapism but only for a short while, which is why past the sex they're (escorts trans and gg) can be happy to feel "normal" in society and just be treated as how any working person would like to be treated.

[syla]

I currently find myself in a similar situation..just less intimate...I'd say. All the best with what you make of it.

[GrimFusion]

interesting story....this might sound like a dumb question but how open are transwomen to a conventional relationship with a man that could be essentially a de facto marriage, i.e. the lady is happy to be dependent on the man in a conventional man/wife type of way.

Kinda varies on a per-chick basis. Most escorts are aware that conventional relationships don't work out too well in the majority of cases and it takes a very rare and exceptional kind of man to be secure enough to sustain a relationship with an escort. More often than not, guys who say they're chill with the idea later change their minds and many of the men who say they're interested in a relationship are often just looking for free sex and an emotional outlet.

Your best bet is to always start out as friends and keep it genuine so both you and her can get a good feel for each other before you consider throwing the relationship card out there. Otherwise, you probably won't be taken seriously and the request will likely raise a lot of red flags in her mind; as it should. I mean, how would you take to a chick asking you to be involved with her in a relationship when you barely know her? That's awkward.

[bluesoul]

On Monday I went to see an escort I've been wanting to see for the longest.

if you paid for this experience then that's your answer right there.

btw: can someone explain how they consider "escorts to cost less than girlfriends"? do you equate time spent with someone you love in monetary value?

[GrimFusion]

interesting story....this might sound like a dumb question but how open are transwomen to a conventional relationship with a man that could be essentially a de facto marriage, i.e. the lady is happy to be dependent on the man in a conventional man/wife type of way.

Err... you weren't talking about escorts, were you? The same principal applies anyhow. Some transchicks are open to the idea of conventional relationships pre-transition and some aren't; preferring to be post-transition before trying to seriously date men to skip most of the drama involved. Orientation and relationship preference come into play, too as it can't be inferred that every transsexual prefers monogamous or straight relationships... or relationships at all for that matter. There's really no straight answer.

[GrimFusion]

if you paid for this experience then that's your answer right there.

btw: can someone explain how they consider "escorts to cost less than girlfriends"? do you equate time spent with someone you love in monetary value?

That's not necessarily true. You shouldn't assume all escorts are just money-grubbing, soul-less, emotionally manipulative cheats. If not for the expenses incurred by transitioning, many transsexuals would prefer not to escort at all and everybody needs a few close friends they really meld with no matter their profession.

[bluesoul]

That's not necessarily true. You shouldn't assume all escorts are just money-grubbing, soul-less, emotionally manipulative cheats. If not for the expenses incurred by transitioning, many transsexuals would prefer not to escort at all and everybody needs a few close friends they really meld with no matter their profession.

no assumptions necessary: it is a byproduct of working in the escorting business. in order for it to work (and as many have mentioned), a person has to separate their heart from the "work"

i also don't subscribe that "many would prefer not to escort". it's almost vogue now

[GrimFusion]

i also don't subscribe that "many would prefer not to escort". it's almost vogue now

Ha ha ha ha... wait, that was a joke, right?
I'd assume it's hard to overcome the reality that escorting is likely the most feasible option while transitioning because there aren't very many regular jobs that pay enough and would be willing to hire a transitioning transsexual. I know a chick who's dealing with that now; she never thought she'd be reduced to a cam model (no offense to avid cam models; it's just her opinion) and even that doesn't bring in enough income to pay all the bills and afford her all the hormones, treatments, and counseling she needs, but she's been looking for a normal 9-5 for the last four years and has come up empty-handed mostly due to discrimination. I've been trying to help her set up a membership site so she doesn't have to consider escorting, but she's still faced with the fact that she may have to as a last ditch option.

I'm a little worried that if she's forced to choose between postponing her transition or escorting, she'd sooner choose escorting. I mean, you do what you gotta do, but once you get used to that lifestyle and get over the initial "what the fuck am I doing", it's hard to give up and scale back especially when not changing anything ensures financial comfort, but it's rare that anybody can escort long-term without ending up at least a little psychologically screwed afterward; especially where ideas of consensual and intimate sex are concerned.

It's also good for business to paint a happy face on and pretend it's all gravy even if introspectively life seems more like a disaster and realistically, escorting is anything but comfortable (lol... "butt comfort"). An escort who's honest about their feelings is probably an escort who doesn't see much business because clients don't want to hear about any of that. They just wanna get their rocks off and leave.

I'd assume part of the problem is that clients aren't comfortable with penny-pinchers either. They'd sooner prefer an escort who spends her income on nice clothes and lingerie, breast augmentation, reshaping surgeries, ass-fat injections, and expensive makeup (basically focusing on everything but the eventual end of their transition) to the homely type that save all their money for SRS (or to escape escorting and finish their transition) and to appeal to their own self-image rather than the expectations of their clients. Eventually, enough exposure to that likely makes spending money feel like second-nature. It's a double-edged sword, as I'm sure there are a few escorts that are just in it for the money and glamour. I just don't see how any of this could be considered glamorous unless the chick's intentions are all ass-backward and completely screwed.

I regress; maybe you're just in with a different group of transgirls who think differently and would sooner agree with your view. I'm just throwing my perspective and experience out there.

[Dino Velvet]

Nice to hear things went well with this girl. I've broken the rules with escorts having my share of "What if?" kind of thoughts. Just remember by occupation she cannot be monogamous and other men are being intimate and sexual with her too. Have fun but watch out for yourself.

[GroobyKrissy]

If you're not an escort, then you've got no right to talk about escorting (or something like that). Oh wait, that was a different thread.

Anyway. To the OP...

Good for you :)

My current relationship is an actual transition from a escort / client relationship that happened over several months, so it does actually happen.

I suppose it is nice that we only see each other for a few days each month or so because he travels for work, so I guess you could debate the term, 'relationship'. But, we consider each other BF/GF. So, hang in there... you just never know what kind of chemistry can develop over time.

[GrimFusion]

If you're not an escort, then you've got no right to talk about escorting (or something like that). Oh wait, that was a different thread.

You're right. I admit it. I talk to quite a few girls who don't post around here and seem to feel that way, but it's not my place to speak for them. :footinmouth

[bluesoul]

Ha ha ha ha... wait, that was a joke, right?

nope.


If you're not an escort, then you've got no right to talk about escorting (or something like that). Oh wait, that was a different thread.

not sure if this was a joke (and/or directed towards myself)- it's another mindset or philosophy i don't subscribe to. i don't have to be x to talk about x.

i've always found this type of logic to be held most dear to those that cannot articulate themselves clearly enough for someone else to understand their situation.

[GroobyKrissy]

not sure if this was a joke (and/or directed towards myself)- it's another mindset or philosophy i don't subscribe to. i don't have to be x to talk about x.

i've always found this type of logic to be held most dear to those that cannot articulate themselves clearly enough for someone else to understand their situation.

Totally a joke...connecting it to a different thread where the 'if you're not X then you can't say X' line of reasoning came into play. I don't subscribe to that belief either but when it comes to escorting, I do think some of the vicarious living is rather amusing sometimes.

[GrimFusion]

Totally a joke...connecting it to a different thread where the 'if you're not X then you can't say X' line of reasoning came into play. I don't subscribe to that belief either but when it comes to escorting, I do think some of the vicarious living is rather amusing sometimes.

Not my intention at all, but I saw what you did there and had a good chuckle. I guess you do have a sense of humor. Thanks for the laugh.

[OrlFla89]

In response to the OP, I wish you all the best.

I had a similar experience with a ts girl a few years back and have met some real cool girls I seemed to mesh well with. Perhaps she was attracted to you and deeply enjoyed her encounter with you

Escorts or not, they're people with feelings too. I actually met a couple at work once and the woman admitted to me (she was a GG) that she escorted and that's how she met her bf, he was a client. Honestly, they seemed happy

In my opinion though, I would take this slow and proceed with extreme caution. Dating an escort (TS or GG) can be very tricky, I dated one and it was a very bad experience. Hope thats not the case with you, but do take caution and see where it goes. Start as friends, and have some fun

[doctor screw]

Javik-Stupid humans,you'll believe anything

[Flaco]

Thanks for the input everyone, I'm gunna take things slow and see how things go.

[nysprod]

Was Leslie Rose the girl you were with?

[natina]

you took the bait

hook ,line and sinker

next will be a sad story of needing some money.

do you have money?

is this a "pretty woman" encounter?
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[amberskyi]

i would never ever date a client.no offense the girl sounds desperate lol.any ways werent you on here a few weeks ago talking about how you might be falling in love for some other girl? lmao
i have a funny story tho.i saw one of my regular clients tonight.ive been seeing him semi regularly for about a year.he's a pretty decent guy who owns his own company.he's always trying to take me out socially for drinks and what not.of course i always decline politely.he totally let it slip tonight tho that he has a wife! omg this is why any girl with a lick of sense would never cross the client/escort boundary.

[amberskyi]

plus shouldnt you be scared that she could form just as strong of a "bond" or "connection" with another client since she obviously doesnt know how to keep her emotions and real life separate from escorting

[GrimFusion]

plus shouldnt you be scared that she could form just as strong of a "bond" or "connection" with another client since she obviously doesnt know how to keep her emotions and real life separate from escorting

Who knows, though. They might both be on very different pages. After all, we only have his interpretation of the event to go off of. I'm not saying he's lying, but she could simply think he's chill enough to spend some of her free time hanging out with. It's speculative.

:shrug

[ILoveGG&TS]

You are in your early twenties and have a lot to learn aoout the manipulative nature of people. Reading your commentary makes me think of two phrases. The first one is "there is a sucker born every minute." The second is "a fool and his money are soon parted."




On Monday I went to see an escort I've been wanting to see for the longest. I always pick the escorts I want to see very carefully. If I think they'll be attracted to me as much as I'm attracted to them then I go for it. Anyway, I set up an appointment with this chick and took the trip to her place. Before we started the session we talked, joked, laughed for about 15-20 minutes, just a really friendly conversation. And then we started making out, we made out for a really long time. And then we got into sex. The sex was mindblowing, she throat fucked the crap out of me which I loved. And she rode my cock so wildly, my orgasm was so intense I was actually afraid I was going to pass out. I'm cutting the sexual part of this short because it's not the main point. After we were done having sex, we continued to cuddle and talk. I know a lot of guys want "GFE" but this was way more than that, this was WIFEY experience.

We started having a deep convo in which we talked about our lives, and really got to know each other on a personal level. After that we made out some more. When I held her, looked into her eyes and kissed her I could feel her passion, her pain, her innocence, her strength all in one. If you've been in a situation like this you'll know exactly what I mean. She is just such a beautiful person. We cuddled for so long after, and then we watched a movie. It just felt so real being with her, I told her afterwards that I don't even care about the sex anymore I just want to see her again. I would love to take her to the movies or out to eat. She told me she's usually bored and always lonely and that she really liked me but that I'm just a baby. (I'm 22 and she's 34, but she doesn't look it at all). We chatted some more (I was at her place for about 4hrs) and she started telling me she wanted me to sleep over. I wanted to but it was late, I was exhausted from the sex and I had work the next morning so I had to decline. She walked with me out of her place, and when I was about to leave, me and her shared one last, deep, passionate kiss. I heard some guys walking past who were saying "Well, Daaamn!" LOL

At this point I would be willing to date her in a heartbeat, I know she likes me and I like her a lot but then again she's an escort. How can I date someone who has sex for a living, no matter how much I like her that seems like a deal breaker. How would I be able to make that work? It made me feel bad because she told me she had to start escorting when she lost her job. I don't really know what to do, but for now I def plan on taking her to the movies whenever I get the chance. I miss her a lot. She made me realize exactly how beautiful Transwomen can be both on the outside and inside. She wanted me to call her today, so I will shortly :)

[giovanni_hotel]

i would never ever date a client.no offense the girl sounds desperate lol.any ways werent you on here a few weeks ago talking about how you might be falling in love for some other girl? lmao
i have a funny story tho.i saw one of my regular clients tonight.ive been seeing him semi regularly for about a year.he's a pretty decent guy who owns his own company.he's always trying to take me out socially for drinks and what not.of course i always decline politely.he totally let it slip tonight tho that he has a wife! omg this is why any girl with a lick of sense would never cross the client/escort boundary.


What if he didn't have a wife, Amber??

IMO tgirls who escort or work in porn can 'date' civilians, but there's never really any chance for a LTR unless they're in a different line of work.

From my experience if you aren't willing to embrace an alternative lifestyle, sharing your woman with at least another partner, or are able to make her an honest woman by financially supporting her so she doesn't have to escort, or help her to find a regular 9-5 job, you are gonna get your heart ripped out.

There's nothing really casual about sex IMO, although we all play that game.:party:

[amberskyi]

No cause he's still a client.i'm super big on a separation between my personal life and the sex industry.
I've only dated "civilians" (all of them lasting more than a year) and yes there are issues but once they've gotten to know me they realize this is truly a job for me.
I know this is a weird concept for most but when i'm escorting it's more like acting to me than sex.I see clients regularly but if you ask me I haven't been laid since October lol

[natina]

last night an escort changed my life

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[Prospero]

The responses to the OP here veer between cynicism about the girl's motives, castigating him for being naive,comments from other girls who admit they'd never date a client and those who wish him well.

I fall into the last category. But with some serious reservations. I sincerely do hope that what you experienced wasn't just the rapture and exhileration at having a wonderful sexual encounter (clearly one shared by your partner) and intimations of something deeper.

I think your later remark - about taking it slowly - is the correct one. But that would be true of any utterly wonderful encounter in any context. You sound like you've almost fallen for this girl. Fair enough. But step back, keep a cool head and ask yourself if either you want her to be your exclusive partner in which case you might be asking her to undergo a radical change - to give up her chosen profession (chosen for whatever motive... Because she enjoys it? Because she needs to make the money for transition? Whatever.) or whether you want simply want to date - and accept what she does for a living. The latter is a tough call. It is human nature to be jealous - and the idea of a girl you love having sex with strangers is hard for most of us to deal with. And remember until you walked through the door and had a wonderful time you were just another stranger.

I think you have some questions to ask and find answers to for yourself. Perhaps the best step would then to see this girl in a different and perhaps non sexual context. Take her out for a meal or to a bar or to a movie or out for the day - or whatever you and she think might be fun. Get to know more about her. Get to know her. Beyond sex is really someone you might get along with. (And then there is the age thing.... she is gonna be a lot more emotionally mature than you). Lots to think about. Go slow. Take care of your feelings.

[danthepoetman]

Hot damn, escorts are real people?!? </sarcasm>
It sounds as though you might be a little too into the chick assuming the two of you only spent one evening together, but despite my opinion it seems like the two of you certainly enjoy each other's company. That doesn't necessarily mean you need to have a deep, meaningful relationship with her considering you seem uneasy about the thought of her escorting at the same time. Unless you can come to terms, that's likely a setup for failure anyway. Why can't it be as simple as ringing her up during off hours and inviting her out with you somewhere? Eventually (if she's chill with it), invite her to crash at your place if it's more convenient. It'd be far easier and less complicated to value her as a good friend than to try to become involved with her in any regard. Just don't be too clingy.

Nice to hear things went well with this girl. I've broken the rules with escorts having my share of "What if?" kind of thoughts. Just remember by occupation she cannot be monogamous and other men are being intimate and sexual with her too. Have fun but watch out for yourself.

In response to the OP, I wish you all the best.
I had a similar experience with a ts girl a few years back and have met some real cool girls I seemed to mesh well with. Perhaps she was attracted to you and deeply enjoyed her encounter with you
Escorts or not, they're people with feelings too. I actually met a couple at work once and the woman admitted to me (she was a GG) that she escorted and that's how she met her bf, he was a client. Honestly, they seemed happy
In my opinion though, I would take this slow and proceed with extreme caution. Dating an escort (TS or GG) can be very tricky, I dated one and it was a very bad experience. Hope thats not the case with you, but do take caution and see where it goes. Start as friends, and have some fun
^^^These are very good advices, Flaco. I'm glad to see you got over your reservations and scruples, and seem to now agree with your own desires and feel comfortable with them. I think that's the most important for you. Be happy! But also be careful. Don't get over excited, take your time, assess the situation step by step and don't set your hopes too high not to be hurt if it fails, because it often does, unfortunately. Good luck! I wish you the best in this!

[Flaco]

i would never ever date a client.no offense the girl sounds desperate lol.any ways werent you on here a few weeks ago talking about how you might be falling in love for some other girl? lmao
i have a funny story tho.i saw one of my regular clients tonight.ive been seeing him semi regularly for about a year.he's a pretty decent guy who owns his own company.he's always trying to take me out socially for drinks and what not.of course i always decline politely.he totally let it slip tonight tho that he has a wife! omg this is why any girl with a lick of sense would never cross the client/escort boundary.

Amber, I think you're really cool and everything but I wonder sometimes...if you would never date a client that's fine, everyone is different. And when did I say I was "Falling in Love" with the other girl? WTF? I said I was thinking of going into a relationship with her, little did I know she would start acting crazy over little things a few days after. Maybe you should go back and read the thread.

[Flaco]

You are in your early twenties and have a lot to learn aoout the manipulative nature of people. Reading your commentary makes me think of two phrases. The first one is "there is a sucker born every minute." The second is "a fool and his money are soon parted."

LOL how exactly did she manipulate me ? By asking me to sleep over at her house ? By showing me a good time ? You people kill me smh lmaoo

[amberskyi]

Amber, I think you're really cool and everything but I wonder sometimes...if you would never date a client that's fine, everyone is different. And when did I say I was "Falling in Love" with the other girl? WTF? I said I was thinking of going into a relationship with her, little did I know she would start acting crazy over little things a few days after. Maybe you should go back and read the thread.

Hey I just call things as I see them.some people like that about me and others don't *shrugs*.
Don't most people get in relationships because they're falling in love with that person?

[HarajukuDollxoxo]

On Monday I went to see an escort I've been wanting to see for the longest. I always pick the escorts I want to see very carefully. If I think they'll be attracted to me as much as I'm attracted to them then I go for it. Anyway, I set up an appointment with this chick and took the trip to her place. Before we started the session we talked, joked, laughed for about 15-20 minutes, just a really friendly conversation. And then we started making out, we made out for a really long time. And then we got into sex. The sex was mindblowing, she throat fucked the crap out of me which I loved. And she rode my cock so wildly, my orgasm was so intense I was actually afraid I was going to pass out. I'm cutting the sexual part of this short because it's not the main point. After we were done having sex, we continued to cuddle and talk. I know a lot of guys want "GFE" but this was way more than that, this was WIFEY experience.

We started having a deep convo in which we talked about our lives, and really got to know each other on a personal level. After that we made out some more. When I held her, looked into her eyes and kissed her I could feel her passion, her pain, her innocence, her strength all in one. If you've been in a situation like this you'll know exactly what I mean. She is just such a beautiful person. We cuddled for so long after, and then we watched a movie. It just felt so real being with her, I told her afterwards that I don't even care about the sex anymore I just want to see her again. I would love to take her to the movies or out to eat. She told me she's usually bored and always lonely and that she really liked me but that I'm just a baby. (I'm 22 and she's 34, but she doesn't look it at all). We chatted some more (I was at her place for about 4hrs) and she started telling me she wanted me to sleep over. I wanted to but it was late, I was exhausted from the sex and I had work the next morning so I had to decline. She walked with me out of her place, and when I was about to leave, me and her shared one last, deep, passionate kiss. I heard some guys walking past who were saying "Well, Daaamn!" LOL

At this point I would be willing to date her in a heartbeat, I know she likes me and I like her a lot but then again she's an escort. How can I date someone who has sex for a living, no matter how much I like her that seems like a deal breaker. How would I be able to make that work? It made me feel bad because she told me she had to start escorting when she lost her job. I don't really know what to do, but for now I def plan on taking her to the movies whenever I get the chance. I miss her a lot. She made me realize exactly how beautiful Transwomen can be both on the outside and inside. She wanted me to call her today, so I will shortly :)


I think anything's possible if you want it enough. Maybe she saw that you were genuine and was attracted to it. I doubt she asks alot of clients to sleep over, as that's VERY risky etc. I think it's safe to say she felt the same about you. :party:

[Flaco]

The responses to the OP here veer between cynicism about the girl's motives, castigating him for being naive,comments from other girls who admit they'd never date a client and those who wish him well.

I fall into the last category. But with some serious reservations. I sincerely do hope that what you experienced wasn't just the rapture and exhileration at having a wonderful sexual encounter (clearly one shared by your partner) and intimations of something deeper.

I think your later remark - about taking it slowly - is the correct one. But that would be true of any utterly wonderful encounter in any context. You sound like you've almost fallen for this girl. Fair enough. But step back, keep a cool head and ask yourself if either you want her to be your exclusive partner in which case you might be asking her to undergo a radical change - to give up her chosen profession (chosen for whatever motive... Because she enjoys it? Because she needs to make the money for transition? Whatever.) or whether you want simply want to date - and accept what she does for a living. The latter is a tough call. It is human nature to be jealous - and the idea of a girl you love having sex with strangers is hard for most of us to deal with. And remember until you walked through the door and had a wonderful time you were just another stranger.

I think you have some questions to ask and find answers to for yourself. Perhaps the best step would then to see this girl in a different and perhaps non sexual context. Take her out for a meal or to a bar or to a movie or out for the day - or whatever you and she think might be fun. Get to know more about her. Get to know her. Beyond sex is really someone you might get along with. (And then there is the age thing.... she is gonna be a lot more emotionally mature than you). Lots to think about. Go slow. Take care of your feelings.

Thanks a lot, Prospero. And my plan really is to get to know her, even if I didn't date her, me and her could still be really close friends. In my personal life my best friends tend to be girls, usually because girls tend to really appreciate guys that genuinely care about them. And what people don't seem to understand in this thread is that she's a new escort and just started escorting because she lost her job. Her circumstances are different from a typical escort who has been making a living off this occupation for years. She's still looking for a normal 9-5 but for now she has to do something to survive. But it is what it is I guess.


^^^These are very good advices, Flaco. I'm glad to see you got over your reservations and scruples, and seem to now agree with your own desires and feel comfortable with them. I think that's the most important for you. Be happy! But also be careful. Don't get over excited, take your time, assess the situation step by step and don't set your hopes too high not to be hurt if it fails, because it often does, unfortunately. Good luck! I wish you the best in this!

Thanks Dan, I feel like you're always supporting me. I appreciate it. The biggest thing this girl did for me was that she really made me see Transwomen as beautiful and complete women. I've always struggled with being insecure about liking TS, or questioning myself about liking them, or just seeing them as a fetish. After my experience with her I KNOW they're women now, just a different type of women. Even if me and her end up as just friends, I will always appreciate her for making me see transwomen in that light.

[Flaco]

Hey I just call things as I see them.some people like that about me and others don't *shrugs*.
Don't most people get in relationships because they're falling in love with that person?

No worries, I still think you're awesome that post just kind of rubbed me the wrong way...And I've always thought people get in relationships because there's an attraction that they're trying to build on. People get Married because they're falling in love, or have fallen in love.

[nysprod]

No worries, I still think you're awesome that post just kind of rubbed me the wrong way...And I've always thought people get in relationships because there's an attraction that they're trying to build on. People get Married because they're falling in love, or have fallen in love.

Hi Flaco, maybe you didn't see my question...was Leslie Rose the girl you were with?

[Jericho]

She's good.
Kerching...See ya next week! :shrug

[alyssaluxor]

Im an escort and honestly I do get attracted and fall intimate and emotionally to a client sometimes. I dont know but i cant control sometimes if i like the client I feel very attached to them and cant sleep well that night thinking of them. Maybe because as an escort life is very lonely and having a boyfriend is impossible so whenever I encounter that I easily fall in love lol

[amberskyi]

She's good.
Kerching...See ya next week! :shrug

lmaoooo

[jamiethewild]

Im an escort and honestly I do get attracted and fall intimate and emotionally to a client sometimes. I dont know but i cant control sometimes if i like the client I feel very attached to them and cant sleep well that night thinking of them. Maybe because as an escort life is very lonely and having a boyfriend is impossible so whenever I encounter that I easily fall in love lol

Oh girl ..... we are complete opposites ..However, i used to be like you and i think you been longer than 3 yrs in the industry. I don't get emotional anymore because after all is just a transaction so in their mind and in mine it can't work because the venue they found me in. IMO, i don't think the guy that had paid me and found me in an escort site would have respect for me if we happen to be in a serious relationship,it just wont work plus i wouldn't be dating a guy that found me in an escort site either because that means his out there hooking up with other ones and thats not the right guy i want to date or be serious with other than a client/friendship level, so i get over it.

Srry to say but i just think if you fall to easily that means danger because men can play you, i only got in love once in my 3 yrs of escort and it was painfull. I seriously recommend you alyssa to associate with strong business minded girlfriends (me) they will teach you to suck it up and leave the emotional out the door. Life is a game know how to play it ...be a hard cookie girl !!!!!

[ILoveGG&TS]

I am attracted to Amberskyi and would enjoy having sex with her but I would never fall in love with her. I definitely would not want her as a companion knowing she is being fucked and sucking the cocks of strangers for a living. Men with low self esteem, date and fall in love with escorts.

I used Amberskyi as an example not to pick on her but only because I am attracted to her and could not think of another transgender woman that escorts.

[giovanni_hotel]

I can see a guy becoming infatuated or crushing on an escort. You just had sex with a hot chick you've probably been fantasizing about for weeks if not months, she's cool with you and she just made you nut hard. For most guys that's how their 'normal' dating relationships with most women start to begin with!lol

But the situation is too fucked up to really develop into anything serious, unless the guy AND the girl are committed to moving their emotional and physical connection towards something serious.

If you aren't ready or prepared to help a former escort find alternative means of financial support, or support her yourself, it's not gonna happen IMO.

All the girls who escort aren't talking in this thread, but I know some have had serious relationships develop from escorting, even if they didn't last.

[MdR Dave]

I don't think we choose who we love- just what we do about it.

[ILoveGG&TS]

The girls that escort don't give a fuck about their clients, their only concern is $$$. The sooner men realize this, the less likely they will get manipulated and used by these money hungry whores.

[RyderMonroe]

The girls that escort don't give a fuck about their clients, their only concern is $$$. The sooner men realize this, the less likely they will get manipulated and used by these money hungry whores.

?? u wouldnt go to the dealership and call them "money hungry" for not giving you a car for free so why do you feel so entitled to do so with escorts? bizness is bizness and the sooner men realize that the sooner lames like u wont have ur feelings hurt.

[amberskyi]

this thread is way too many things and after reading some of the response i hope i never come across some of yall in my real life.
way too many creeps out there which is why im finally taking real steps to move beyond escorting.

[ILoveGG&TS]

I do not expect anything free from an escort. As I stated earlier, I would never fall in love with an escort and will not delude myself into believing there is the possibility of love. I am a realist and see escorts as manipulative and money hungry whores that should make lots of money manipulating weak men that pay for sex. The smart ones will make all clients feel very special and needed to ensure repeat sales and free gifts.


?? u wouldnt go to the dealership and call them "money hungry" for not giving you a car for free so why do you feel so entitled to do so with escorts? bizness is bizness and the sooner men realize that the sooner lames like u wont have ur feelings hurt.

[amberskyi]

I do not expect anything free from an escort. As I stated earlier, I would never fall in love with an escort and will not delude myself into believing there is the possibility of love. I am a realist and see escorts as manipulative and money hungry whores that should make lots of money manipulating weak men that pay for sex. The smart ones will make all clients feel very special and needed to ensure repeat sales and free gifts.

your clearly an awesome human being....**sarcasm**

[ILoveGG&TS]

You're clearly a sarcastic human being.


your clearly an awesome human being....**sarcasm**

[londonpirate]

Im an escort and honestly I do get attracted and fall intimate and emotionally to a client sometimes. I dont know but i cant control sometimes if i like the client I feel very attached to them and cant sleep well that night thinking of them. Maybe because as an escort life is very lonely and having a boyfriend is impossible so whenever I encounter that I easily fall in love lol

No offense but it would freak me out to visit you. By visiting an escort i m looking for a professional experience with a provider.
I think it s incredibly naive to fall in lov e with an escort just because you had grat sex and she said she liked you.

Get fucking real.

[londonpirate]

your clearly an awesome human being....**sarcasm**

I actually think you guys are saying the same thing, i.e. that meeting someone through an escort experience is not great foundation for a relationship.
Amber has always struck me as being the most mature and professional of all the escorts that contribute to this forum. I like that she doesnt try to con us into believing she could fall for us. Many do, which is pure bs.

[amberskyi]

I actually think you guys are saying the same thing, i.e. that meeting someone through an escort experience is not great foundation for a relationship.
Amber has always struck me as being the most mature and professional of all the escorts that contribute to this forum. I like that she doesnt try to con us into believing she could fall for us. Many do, which is pure bs.

thats cool and all but theres a way to express that without being degrading.i have very strong opinions about everything but i try to get my point across without have to stoop to name calling and degrading.
also thanks for what i assume are compliments lol

[londonpirate]

thats cool and all but theres a way to express that without being degrading.i have very strong opinions about everything but i try to get my point across without have to stoop to name calling and degrading.
also thanks for what i assume are compliments lol

I agree, and yes it was a compliment. ;)

[RyderMonroe]

I think it s incredibly naive to fall in lov e with an escort just because you had grat sex and she said she liked you.

Get fucking real.

yep..

[doctor screw]

I do not expect anything free from an escort. As I stated earlier, I would never fall in love with an escort and will not delude myself into believing there is the possibility of love. I am a realist and see escorts as manipulative and money hungry whores that should make lots of money manipulating weak men that pay for sex. The smart ones will make all clients feel very special and needed to ensure repeat sales and free gifts.

Most of these guys are suckers,it's pointless to say this.....
The OP will have to learn the hard way

[nysprod]

Flaco still hasn't answered my question...was Leslie Rose the girl you were with?

[undercvrslut]

Entertaining story Flaco, thanks for sharing. Goodluck to ya

[Flaco]

The girls that escort don't give a fuck about their clients, their only concern is $$$. The sooner men realize this, the less likely they will get manipulated and used by these money hungry whores.

lols

[Flaco]

Entertaining story Flaco, thanks for sharing. Goodluck to ya

Thanx man

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