First time is the hardest?

[Chaos]

Why is it so hard to meet a girl that isn't turned off by being your first?
As soon as they find out I've never been with anyone but GG's I find myself pretty much branded and cast off.... :confused:

[TS Evelyn Summers]

I tell ya why its hard.....




Cuz things aint what they use to be....


people simply dont care or have the time anymore.


and ya know what...that fucking sucks! and its not just with trying to find girls or guys. Its EVERYWHERE.



Fucking service sucks....customer service sucks.......build quality of things fucking sucks......business and business policy sucks....



Ya know what and it just will CONTINUE to get worse! I was kinda looking forward to the whole myan end of the world thing.....


but the world even fucked that up by saying the calendar just starts over!



Can you believe that! I was looking forward to that!



Eve,

xoxo

[Chaos]

Oh I get that.....but I've been looking for around 10 years....and absolutely no dice...Nothing....I always seem to hear the same thing too... "You're sweet but you wouldn't want me if you knew me..." WTF?? I thought at least that part was up to me....Pretty sure I know what I like and want....

[GoddessAthena85]

Oh I get that.....but I've been looking for around 10 years....and absolutely no dice...Nothing....I always seem to hear the same thing too... "You're sweet but you wouldn't want me if you knew me..." WTF?? I thought at least that part was up to me....Pretty sure I know what I like and want....
I know everyone is different. For me it varies. Alot of times it's just about the way the guy makes me feel. If I have the connection and I know first time or not he we can just tell it's going to be the kinda experience we both want then I go with my gut. fool around don;t take it to far to soon and give it it's chance to see if we actually mesh that way. But hey a girl gets to many notches in her bed post and it won't be anything more then a tooth pick. but that's just me
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[youngblood61]

I tell ya why its hard.....




Cuz things aint what they use to be....


people simply dont care or have the time anymore.


and ya know what...that fucking sucks! and its not just with trying to find girls or guys. Its EVERYWHERE.



Fucking service sucks....customer service sucks.......build quality of things fucking sucks......business and business policy sucks....



Ya know what and it just will CONTINUE to get worse! I was kinda looking forward to the whole myan end of the world thing.....


but the world even fucked that up by saying the calendar just starts over!



Can you believe that! I was looking forward to that!



Eve,

xoxoI agree With some of what you say Evelyn especially service. Seems like everybody is trying to pass the buck.:)

[BellaBellucci]

It's the same reason that most women would be turned off by a male virgin. Because he probably doesn't know what he's doing, and having to teach him is no fun for someone who transitions to female and prefers the passive role.

Add to that the sheer number of guys with no experience and the frustration rate increases exponentially.

~BB~

[Chaos]

I'm not in a hurry...I would prefer to take it slow,and see if there is a connection. I had a one nighter once...I didn't find out it was one until after....I felt awesome after that... :mad: :loser:
The part that bugs me is the fact that I get along REALLY well with them...UNTIL they find out I've never been....then all of a sudden I'm Godzilla....everyone runs. And I'm not as frustrated as it may sound....I just really wanted to know...After so many tries you start blaming yourself...and just expect people to tell you no.
As far as experience goes....it's not like I've never had sex....I'm not going to stick it in their ear...I'm not stupid...Nor am I in it only for me.
And honestly? Every GG I've been with is different,and they have no problem telling me what I can or can't do...and EXACTLY how to do it.

[Chaos]

Also note that this is not a complaint,just have always wondered based on my experiences,and this seemed like a good place to ask and learn...

[BellaBellucci]

You asked, I answered. If you don't like the answer, well, there's nothing I can do about that.

I will add, though, that a lot of transsexuals also dislike one-night-stands as much as you do, and when you're the target of so many men's fetishes, and then they get to fulfill their fantasies (milk without the cow, so to speak), well... you do the math.

~BB~

[Chaos]

It's all good,I appreciate the answers...better than the no answers I usually get.
I've never approached it as a fetish,I always approached the same way I'd approach anyone I wanted to see in the long term....Maybe they didn't see it that way though. Of course looking back at the exes I picked....maybe I just pick the wrong ones....

[Willie Escalade]

It's like looking for your first job...everyone wants you to have experience, but no one is willing to GIVE you experience because they figure you'll take that given experience and use it somewhere else...

[BellaBellucci]

It's all good,I appreciate the answers...better than the no answers I usually get.
I've never approached it as a fetish,I always approached the same way I'd approach anyone I wanted to see in the long term....Maybe they didn't see it that way though. Of course looking back at the exes I picked....maybe I just pick the wrong ones....

It sounds like you're a nice enough guy and genuine and sincere. I'm sure you'll find someone eventually. Just make sure you don't them you're a n00b up front. ;)

~BB~

[Chaos]

It's like looking for your first job...everyone wants you to have experience, but no one is willing to GIVE you experience because they figure you'll take that given experience and use it somewhere else...

I swear....McDonalds has their hands in EVERYTHING!! :pissed: :whistle:

[Chaos]

Just make sure you don't them you're a n00b up front. ;)

~BB~

In other words don't lie,don't tell the truth, just shut up? :D

[BellaBellucci]

In other words don't lie,don't tell the truth, just shut up? :D

Any of the above.

~BB~

[Chaos]

I suddenly feel like Schroedinger's Cat....

[bluesoul]

Why is it so hard to meet a girl that isn't turned off by being your first?
As soon as they find out I've never been with anyone but GG's I find myself pretty much branded and cast off.... :confused:

practice makes perfect

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[Chaos]

Ah well,it sucks,but it isn't the end of the world.
I should be grateful Karma still fucks me on a regular basis.... :whistle:
If only she wasn't so vindictive about it...

[amberskyi]

Personally I don't like dealing with the insecurities and awkwardness allot of first timers have.
With my first two boyfriends I was the first trans girl they dated and there were allot of issues as far as them being comfortable with their sexuality (and my gender).my last and somewhat current boyfriend has been dating trans girls since high school and even married one before.so far he's been the only one to treat me completely like a normal girl socially (like bring me around family and friends with no issue).

[Chaos]

I have no insecurities about what I want. As for meeting the family? I wish I never met them... I never introduced any of my exes to them either...My family was never very supportive of anything I've done and they still treat me like I'm someone they HAVE to put up with...

[amberskyi]

Meeting family and friends are kinda a deal breaker for me know.of course I don't mean right away but if it's not even a possibility no matter how serious we get than i'm not wasting my time.

[hwbs]

ill assume u are being honest and not trying to start a flame thread.....dont say anything......i didnt give the first gg i had sex with the pleasure of knowing it was my first time......say nothing and admit to less

[livepersona]

Sounds like you need to move to a new state or take a vacation to a TS friendly spot which would increase your chances.

[Lovecox]

And if you've been with another TS you're branded a 'tranny chaser'. Right?
There are only two types of men in the world: those who have been with a TS and those who have not. Both are getting laid. It has nothing to do with having or not having experience.

[nevada64]

Yes, go to Thailand for two or three weeks. Fuck your brains out, come back to the US a new man...

[Dino Velvet]

My first time with a TS I got a nice, well-reviewed escort and was completely honest about it. She was very understanding and helpful and I felt comfortable in no time. After her I wasn't a first-timer anymore.

[Chaos]

Meeting family and friends are kinda a deal breaker for me know.of course I don't mean right away but if it's not even a possibility no matter how serious we get than i'm not wasting my time.

So if you actually liked me,you'd force me to let you meet the abusive,violent Ex-Marine that calls himself my father....OR the mother that ditched me at age 3,robbed me for over 5000$,and left me to deal with the police after she robbed theplace I worked at,while I was on vacation?

That doesn't sound like something you do to someone you like/possibly love....

[kaiser1one]

That's a problem with the inexperience rate, nobody wants to help give the experience.

[BellaBellucci]

So if you actually liked me,you'd force me to let you meet the abusive,violent Ex-Marine that calls himself my father....OR the mother that ditched me at age 3,robbed me for over 5000$,and left me to deal with the police after she robbed theplace I worked at,while I was on vacation?

That doesn't sound like something you do to someone you like/possibly love....

That's awful, and unfortunately, all too familiar to me.

~BB~