Hello everyone!

[Questioneer]

One night I was up late :jerkoff

I decided to go onto a webcam site that I visit when I'm treating myself. I navigated to the "shemale" section of the site, and looked through the hosts.They were all so attractive, it was hard to choose. Luckily, fate chose a woman that was as beautiful as she was kind and understanding. Instead of jerking off to her, I asked her for advice on my road to sexuality.

Recently, I have finally started to question why I enjoy looking at transsexuals (3 years running, about time eh?). I don't know if I am gay, bisexual, or straight with a passion for plump penises.

The caring woman told me a bit of her own experience as a transsexual, and lent me advice. Firstly, she said don't be afraid of your sexuality, nothing is wrong with it. Secondly, she told me to come here, and this group could help me on my journey.

So, I am here, hoping to hear something that will help me grow, help me understand my feelings, or to stare at some of the jaw dropping photos of my favorite type of woman :tongue:

I can't wait to hear from the community!

Sincerely,

Hopeful

[south ov da border]

Welcome and feel free to ask anything, lots of good ppl here...

[Mari_Mar]

Hi!

Regarding your sexuality, I would ask, leaving transpeople out of it, do you find yourself attracted to women, men, or both?

[bte]

If after 3 years you don't know why you like looking at transsexuals, then you may need to re-evaluate your life. Also I don't know how you can be straight with a passion for "plump penises".

[Questioneer]

@Mari: both, it depends on the person.

@bte: My sexuality has always been the last thing on my mind. I think I may have blocked it out, somehow. I think the brain is astounding. It can block out reasoning when one is conditioned in the opposite direction of their life path. That's my hypothesis.

[MissBStar]

hmmm Who gave you that advice?

[Questioneer]

hmmm Who gave you that advice?


Well, it was a mysterious woman. She had short black hair that framed her face perfectly, a long gaze, and a smile that could cheer up eeyore.

Maybe I'll meet her again :p

[Mari_Mar]

BTE: As a transexual, I can't help but believe that genitalia doesn't define gender. And since sexual identity hinges on what gender you are attracted to, I believe that a man can be straight while still being attracted to women who happen to have penises (plump or otherwise.) ;)

[bte]

BTE: As a transexual, I can't help but believe that genitalia doesn't define gender. And since sexual identity hinges on what gender you are attracted to, I believe that a man can be straight while still being attracted to women who happen to have penises (plump or otherwise.) ;)

I was referring to plump penises on a guy not a pre-op transsexual. I used to know a guy who claimed he was straight, but yet he like to suck guys dicks.

[Questioneer]

BTE: As a transexual, I can't help but believe that genitalia doesn't define gender. And since sexual identity hinges on what gender you are attracted to, I believe that a man can be straight while still being attracted to women who happen to have penises (plump or otherwise.) ;)

That makes a lot of sense, Mari. I recall MissB saying something like that when we talked.

[Mari_Mar]

I was referring to plump penises on a guy not a pre-op transsexual. I used to know a guy who claimed he was straight, but yet he like to suck guys dicks.

Ok, yeah... That definitely screams "bi" at the very least, to me.

[yodajazz]

Sexual attraction is based on secondary sexual characteristic more that primary sexual organs. Nature designed us to be attracted to outward physical characteristics, since everyone has one of two sexual organs, a penis or a vagina. I say the vast majority of those attracted to t-girls are because of their feminine secondary features.

[Questioneer]

I'm off for the night.
Goodnight everyone!

[TSMichelleAustin]

I agree with Mari

[LaCosa]

If after 3 years you don't know why you like looking at transsexuals, then you may need to re-evaluate your life. Also I don't know how you can be straight with a passion for "plump penises".

At the risk of incurring wrath from all or most members here, and T-Girls in particular, I'm going to give my view on this.

(1) I think human sexual attractions, our capacity to gain arousal and have sex with other humans, is less a two-value system of logic where there is either right or wrong, black or white, gay or straight, two separate dots that don't connect. I view our sexuality as more of a horizontal line with the two far end points being heterosexual and homosexual, the median being bisexual. I don't think anyone is totally at the tip of either points, few people hit dead center, but most humans tend toward further end spectrum of heterosexual.

(2) I think with respects to the physical phenotype of humans, specifically the physical, all humans are heterosexual with our body plan evolved for sexual reproduction of the species. From this point alone we might question the ethical or moral dimensions of engaging in homosexual activity or becoming transsexual. That's if we isolate the physical from psychological phenotype. The latter being a much more speculative game.

(3) I doubt most heterosexuals, homosexuals, bisexuals, and transsexuals know themselves very well. This includes me. This not to suggest we don't discover or learn more about ourselves the longer we live in this world.

(4) I think people make too much out of the genitals isolated from the rest of the human (or organism if you prefer) body plan. The body structure. Most of us never see 99.9% of other men and women's genitals as they pass us by on the street or as we associate with them through, work, school, and other institutions and social settings. Yet, we are still attracted to opposite sex without seeing the object of our attraction, genitals right off the bat.

(5) I'm looking at an image on an ad atop of this screen right at this moment, it is off the transsexual Ashley George. She immediately strikes me as a girl, attractive, and not a boy. Yet, somewhere in my mind I'm cognitive of her having a penis and testicles. The contradiction in this - in her physical phenotype - increases my arousal, and not because I am attracted to men and dicks per se, but because of something else. I know enough about me to know this has been an acquired taste, fetish of mine. But most humans develop some sort of fetish as they age.

(6) In contemporary times we like not just to acknowledge our own choices or fetishes but we seek the public at large to validate them. Heterosexuals into promiscuity or BDMS do this, homosexuals, transsexuals, pan-sexuals, and even gay pedophiles who join NAMBLA or whatever it is called. But it may very well be that our sexual addictions are ethically or morally disordered. Presuming there does exist a morality outside of ourselves, independent of our existence, in other words a moral objective truth. Many would like to say there is not, but then it would follow rape or even racial lynchings or gay bashing are only wrong through moral subjectivity. Ethically of course, is a bit different, because ethics are derived from status quo or even majority rule (e.g., college educated people, in the upper socio-economic ranks of society, working in the legal system, say it is unethical for doctors or lawyers to sleep with their patients or clients).



Conclusion:

Basically I don't subscribe to the notion of everything being black and white with regards to human sexuality. I think it is possible to be heterosexual, and like the guy that started this thread, have a thing for transsexuals with "plump penises." I also don't necessarily assume his fetish - my fetishes either - are de facto morally ordered simply because I like them. Nor do I assume there are clear cut rights and wrongs in this. There are I believe gradients (e.g., a heterosexual serial rapist or serial killer is much more gravely morally disordered than a male-to-female transsexual or a "tranny chaser" operating with autonomy but respecting the human dignity and freedoms of others - I think most of us intuitively understand that)

[Questioneer]

LaCosa,
Thanks for the perspective on the shades of sexuality. I understand the feeling you get when you see a girl like Ashley George, whew, it strikes me as a beautiful contrast; the soft curves compared to the hard rigid penis, an unbreakable line projecting from circles.

[yodajazz]

@LaCosa Great post! I want to say that I have long agreed with your point #1. Sexuality is a spectrum, not just black and white, (straight, bi, and gay). Most people seem to thing that bisexuals like men and women equally, when that is rarely the case. And I don't think anyone on this forum is entirely gay, though people often accuse others here of being so. But mainly, I too believe that almost no one is 100% straight.