Why do you want to date a TS?

[marcelloNYC]

This is sought of an extension of the thread, "Would You Date a TS?"

Reading some of the responses in that thread made me think of some questions. None of these questions are written to insult or pass judgement on any person, just written out of genuine curiosity.

Q. What is your attraction to a girl whom is transexual and what would your ideal relationship be like?

A. My attraction is their overall beauty and their strength to undertake a transformation to make them feel outside how they feel inside. I am also a bisexual male and enjoy anal sex as much as anyone. I am versatile and would hope that the girl I date, either, TG/GG/Guy would be versatile also. The enjoyment in sex for me comes from the chemistry that two people possess when together. If someone is uncomfortable doing a particular activity then that act becomes less enjoyable for me. I dated a girl that loved fucking me with a strap-on, that made it so much hotter, but I also was in a relationship with a TG that did not top, and that was ok with me. I loved her for her. I wanted anal sex, and she would use toys etc and we had a great sex life.

I also find that transexual women are more affectionate in a relationship. If we were driving in a car, she would run her fingers through the back of my hair. We would playfully feed each other food if vegging out on the couch. And we loved kissing. We would kiss any chance we had. She always thought about me and did nice things for me. Not that GG I have been with haven't, but it was different with her, maybe because the feelings were stronger. As per guys, I haven't experienced real feelings, only sexual attraction.

Lastly, and this is for TG whom enjoy topping. There is a genuine beauty and attraction to a Sexy Girl with a cock, THAT ENJOYS HAVING IT, it is not the sole attraction, it is only a part of it—at the end of the day it is based more on personality and chemistry than what is between the legs.

Any thoughts, want to add a question etc?

Let's keep this mature and intelligent.

:D

[marcelloNYC]

No one? huh?

[T-girl hound]

I'ma get you a response tonight, I gotta run

[LilWyte]

durrr cuz i like her

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

I never read the other thread. IMO it was started by a TS so I considered it a test to men on the board to reply to it.

I will chime in on your thread though. If I upset anyone with what I'm about to type I apologize, it's just my opinion.

If you'd asked me this 5 or 6 years ago when I came on HA I'd probably have told you something along the lines of "gee buddy you're sooooooo right, TS women are the way to go, they never get their period and the sex is sooooo much better blah blah blah..." but this ain't 5 or 6 years ago.

The reality as far as I'm concerned nowadays is that EVERY person you decide to get involved with is UNIQUE (whatever gender, religious belief, nationality, etc.) I don't care what anyone tells you there is no transgendered woman out there that acts the same as another, and I know 2 sets of TS twins THEY DON'T ACT THE SAME IN ANY REGARD!!!!!!!!

Dating a TS is the same as dating a GG, they might not get a visit from their Aunt once a month but once a month they find a thing to bitch about; personally I'd rather put up with the Aunt than a chick who's hormones are almost always off balance because she's sharing hormones with someone else, which I've learned is done ALOT.

To the ladies that are TS on here who don't frequent parties, I'd like to apologize for that, I know most of you are doing your best to live a somewhat normal life and I shouldn't include you in what I typed above, but let's face it alot of you know the type of chicks I'm talking about, you've seen them and walked away from them.........

Back on topic, the most honest answer I can give is to find someone you like and likes you and spend alot of time just getting to know them. I've had a few chicks (some from this very site) I've met who i thought were cool and they turned out to be nothing more than losers chasing every dick they could find for the next drug or surgery, and I've had a few chicks from this site I can honestly say I'm prou to have met, they're really getting their lives together and want to find true happiness........

sorry I wrote a book, I've been waiting to get that off my chest
JWBL

[hwbs]

i read your post and mostly the whole post was to do with sex.... i don't have a good answer and to be honest when i hear guys with their well thought out Theseus on dating a ts i just see pure bullshit...i am not saying u are that started the topic ...just my 2 cents


i have dated many a ts and the reason i stayed around wasn't cause of good sex....i can get that without trying to mess with some girls head...when i hear stuff is that ts girls are more concerned with being sexy...spend a couple days @ my gym and u might change your mind....i have dated a lot of hot ts and gg...the only real reason i would give u is that at this point and moment i know a lot more ts....sorry no romance novel reply here , hehe

[jaycanuck]

Back on topic, the most honest answer I can give is to find someone you like and likes you and spend alot of time just getting to know them. I've had a few chicks (some from this very site) I've met who i thought were cool and they turned out to be nothing more than losers chasing every dick they could find for the next drug or surgery, and I've had a few chicks from this site I can honestly say I'm prou to have met, they're really getting their lives together and want to find true happiness........

+1

Although not the same circumstances, I've been in similar spots. I think I've just learned a lot in the last 2 years and have a much thicker skin when dating in general.

Why I date TGs? It would follow the answer of why I like them? I don't know. I just do. So obviously I date them.

But as stated by Johnny. Be careful.

[marcelloNYC]

RE: JWBL Good Response
- I agree each person, relationship is unique and no two people in any race/sex etc are the same. I have been with many TS girls also, but only two in relationships and those two were total opposites. One I wrote about above and the other was psychotic—one day completely normal and the next crazed with jealousy etc. Now the interesting thing is that the girl whom was normal I met in bookstore in Atlanta, she was 9-5. normal life etc. The sought of crazy girl was some one I met at a party. We hit it off and dated for a few months, but there was no real feelings there, just sex.

RE: hollywoodbuckstrap Good Response, but I want to clarify...
-The post wasn't all about sex and definitely not a BS thesis. My point was that for me, physical anatomy is second and chemistry and personality are first. And like you, I agree—never mess with anyone's head for sex—It is wrong and honestly I don't need to. As per girls in gyms; in my honest opinion, a woman's body should be toned, but curvy. I do not like athletic type bodies on a woman. I do not think that TG's are more concerned with being sexier than a GG—never wrote that.

[fred41]

The reality as far as I'm concerned nowadays is that EVERY person you decide to get involved with is UNIQUE (whatever gender, religious belief, nationality, etc.) I don't care what anyone tells you there is no transgendered woman out there that acts the same as another, and I know 2 sets of TS twins THEY DON'T ACT THE SAME IN ANY REGARD!!!!!!!!

Dating a TS is the same as dating a GG

Back on topic, the most honest answer I can give is to find someone you like and likes you and spend alot of time just getting to know them.


Sorry for cherry picking..but - Yup..very well said!!



..the only real reason i would give u is that at this point and moment i know a lot more ts....sorry no romance novel reply here , hehe

Yup..'nother very good answer because it's something that doesn't get brought up much: People date and socialize with what they know and are familiar with...and we might have all started with different reasons at one time or another..but years later ..sometimes these are the people you get to know and become comfortable with and so that sometimes becomes your dating pool by default and etc.etc.etc....anyway..yeah.. good point.

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

amazing how this thread has mainly been an East Coast responding one so far

[jaycanuck]

I'd do some some sort of "represent east coast" hand sign thingy..but....I'm just too white.

[jjhill]

durrr cuz i like her

short and to the point, i agree

[Legend]

I'm the majority in this thread,the same reasons i would with any other girl cause i like her.I don't think there is anything deep about it.

[T-girl hound]

It's all about who catches my eye, can keep me interested and shares similiar values. I was not open to TS women for awhile until I met someone that totally floored me and was down to earth. A person is a person so if a girl has a good heart, is attractive to ME, and is attracted to me, if she got a dick so be it

[jjhill]

damn legend who's the redhead with the spider man tat? lol

[raiku9909]

Sometimes I wonder if I actually want to date a TS or if i'm just attracted to some conception of what I think it would be like to date the right TS.
The one TG girl that I was involved with I really loved because she was really feminine in all the right ways, but also enjoyed spending the occasional weekend night drinking beer and doing something nerdy like playing video games or watching Lost.
She ended up leaving to go to SF and have her unit wacked off, and I had to stay in Boston for various reasons. I have to echo the OP though--part of what makes a TS attractive to me is the primordial appeal of the masculine/femine combo. I want my TS to enjoy having her dick, and that probably isn't fair to a lot of people who are in transition. So, who knows. I'll keep looking.

[jaycanuck]

damn legend who's the redhead with the spider man tat? lol

I think that'd be Mary Jane from the comic. Cool picture!

[fred41]

Yeah..what he ^^^^said.

Really cool artwork and avatar Legend!! (now ya have to stick with those drawings for a while otherwise these comments will look silly..lol)

[marcelloNYC]

It's all about who catches my eye, can keep me interested and shares similiar values. I was not open to TS women for awhile until I met someone that totally floored me and was down to earth. A person is a person so if a girl has a good heart, is attractive to ME, and is attracted to me, if she got a dick so be it

My sentiments excatly

[marcelloNYC]

Sometimes I wonder if I actually want to date a TS or if i'm just attracted to some conception of what I think it would be like to date the right TS.
The one TG girl that I was involved with I really loved because she was really feminine in all the right ways, but also enjoyed spending the occasional weekend night drinking beer and doing something nerdy like playing video games or watching Lost.
She ended up leaving to go to SF and have her unit wacked off, and I had to stay in Boston for various reasons. I have to echo the OP though--part of what makes a TS attractive to me is the primordial appeal of the masculine/femine combo. I want my TS to enjoy having her dick, and that probably isn't fair to a lot of people who are in transition. So, who knows. I'll keep looking.

Good response and I totally agree.

Side Note. I will be in Boston in August for a wedding. Can you recommend any cool spots to go out. Cool Bars and a club to go dancing.

[TommyFoxtrot]

This is sought of an extension of the thread, "Would You Date a TS?"

Reading some of the responses in that thread made me think of some questions. None of these questions are written to insult or pass judgement on any person, just written out of genuine curiosity.

Q. What is your attraction to a girl whom is transexual and what would your ideal relationship be like?

A. My attraction is their overall beauty and their strength to undertake a transformation to make them feel outside how they feel inside. I am also a bisexual male and enjoy anal sex as much as anyone. I am versatile and would hope that the girl I date, either, TG/GG/Guy would be versatile also. The enjoyment in sex for me comes from the chemistry that two people possess when together. If someone is uncomfortable doing a particular activity then that act becomes less enjoyable for me. I dated a girl that loved fucking me with a strap-on, that made it so much hotter, but I also was in a relationship with a TG that did not top, and that was ok with me. I loved her for her. I wanted anal sex, and she would use toys etc and we had a great sex life.

I also find that transexual women are more affectionate in a relationship. If we were driving in a car, she would run her fingers through the back of my hair. We would playfully feed each other food if vegging out on the couch. And we loved kissing. We would kiss any chance we had. She always thought about me and did nice things for me. Not that GG I have been with haven't, but it was different with her, maybe because the feelings were stronger. As per guys, I haven't experienced real feelings, only sexual attraction.

Lastly, and this is for TG whom enjoy topping. There is a genuine beauty and attraction to a Sexy Girl with a cock, THAT ENJOYS HAVING IT, it is not the sole attraction, it is only a part of it—at the end of the day it is based more on personality and chemistry than what is between the legs.

Any thoughts, want to add a question etc?

Let's keep this mature and intelligent.

:D

Turned on by their femininity, maybe the way some dudes are turned on by little japanese girls?? The ones who really know style like Khloe Hart and Celeste are just real flashy and hot...umm They still have male genes and so they're horny as hell. I don't know.

I think I'm a little out of place here though, it seems most of the dudes are gay guys who just appreciate the female look. It seems like most of the stuff is dudes getting fucked by TS or sucking them. I really don't have any interest in that and I just avert my gaze or fastforward when that stuff pops up in a movie. I think Allanah Starr (sp) said in an interview there are four types of guys who like TS the last one is a dude who's just seen a LOT of porn and gets turned on by something different.

I don't watch other extreme stuff though, like pissing, fisting, bukakke, Bondage or whatever...pretty much this. Unless you count DPP and the occasional DAP as extreme.

[The Azmun]

I guess I feel like I want someone who can understand me...having been poor my entire life, I feel a lot of anger for the elements of society who are responsible for blocking my way upwards, so to speak...and as such I tend to identify with people in society who have suffered similarly...so if somebody wants to psychoanalyze that to death, ok, whatever. But I have a highly diversified social and ethnic background, and I guess I just look for love in the ways I was raised to do so, by the way that someone else will love me. I think that's basically it. I just want to be with someone who appreciates me. Wherever that comes from, as long as the whole mental/physical/philosophical connection is there, we're golden

[NeedBlackup]

I think Allanah Starr (sp) said in an interview there are four types of guys who like TS the last one is a dude who's just seen a LOT of porn and gets turned on by something different.

I saw the post where she said that, and that describes me perfectly. Really no interest in dating tgirls for me, it just stimulates a part of me that I didn't know existed before.

[phobun]

Really no interest in dating tgirls for me, it just stimulates a part of me that I didn't know existed before.
Your cock?

[NeedBlackup]

Your cock?

It took several long hours searching with a magnifying glass and a pair of tweezers, but I finally found it!

[dunkiex]

You date someone because you find them attractive..intellectually, personally, sexually.... You date them because there is something special about them that attracts you. I date a TS. She is one of the most beautiful and intelligent ladies I know. Her personality, well she is a classic lady. She dresses and acts like a classy lady from the '40s. Why do I date her? She is so beautiful, so special, and so sexy.

[Danielle Foxx]

I don't want to date a TS... who says I do?

Only 2 TS Girls I was attracted to:

1) Vicki Richter
2) Vivian ( Gina )

[jaycanuck]

I don't want to date a TS... who says I do?

Only 2 TS Girls I was attracted to:

1) Vicki Richter
2) Vivian ( Gina )


^ Wants to date that tgirl.

[JelenaCD]

not sure if i would , to please me yes yet there are family considerations , date yes never marry , we are not just individuals , its not about me , i need to respect the family ! some may disagree yet just what i think .

[CORVETTEDUDE]

'Cuz I wanna get laid!!!

[Jim Brown]

'Cuz I wanna get laid!!!

exactly, the same reason you date a GG...to fuck some pussy. There are no deep philosophical or psychological reason. Youre attracted to tranny...you want some tranny pussy. Youre attracted to only GG you want some GG pussy. Youre attracted to rottweilers and chihuahuas...your gonna get some dog pussy. Its that simple.

Why are you attracted to TS?...now that's the deep philosophical and psychological shit.

[JamesHunt]

Why are you attracted to TS?...now that's the deep philosophical and psychological shit.

There's nothing deep & philosophical bout fancying a super passable girl with a beautiful cock :wink:

[rickinoc]

I guess this is a pretty common question, and every TS I date usually asks me the "so why are you into TS's?". And I give them all the same answer; yes the plumbing may be different but I see you as a woman and am going to treat you as such. If I find you attractive and you have a good personality of course I'm going to want to get to know you!!!
So in the end they are just like GG's, no different!!

[MacShreach]

Really no interest in dating tgirls for me, it just stimulates a part of me that I didn't know existed before.
Your cock?

Fuck! Another coffee in the keyboard! ROFL.

[ChicagoTbone]

Well, first I like being submissive, second I think Ts offer the best of both worlds ..... they can relate to a man on a mans level at the same time offer them curves, breast and then cock.