My dad contacted me today

[Danielle Foxx]

This is a huge chapter of closure in my life and I just wanted to share this feeling with all of you who are reading this.

I have always felt a tug and an empty space in my heart without the approval of my father and I have always wanted to hear him say some of these words to me. Now in this new chapter of my life it seems that all of those huge hills and moutains are like distant lands.

Much love and Please do share your love!

Dear ***** ( my legal name )

Since the last time we spoke, that time you were here at Rosanne's house and I brought you your boxes, I have been trying to get in contact with you. I called you phone about 54 times, sent you 596 emails, etc.
I'm sorry if I wasn't ready for you at that time. It was such a drastic change that I kind of tried to block it unconsciously. I'm sorry. It was a stupid thing to do to someone that you love.
And the next day when you wanted to go out, I made some kind of dumb excuse, I can't remember. The only thing I remeber is that you were crying on the phone. I'm sorry for that too.
Please forgive me for the pain. Can we pick up where we left off?
You look fantastic. I can accept that now.
One thing we have to clear up, though. I never prohibited you from seeing your Grandfather. That was not my decision. His wife had the say on that one. He died without regaining consciouness after 10 days in the ICU. Even before that, he was having deliriums in the hospital. He didin't recognize me or Wlacyra. But he had a very full and productive life.
Alba never told me not to talk to you. Remeber when you stayed at our house? You and her had your differences, but she never tried to put me against you. someone on the outside might have that impression, but trust me, it never happened.
Anyway, I think that those days are long gone and we can put it all behind us. I love you, wether you are E*** or E****. Inside you are still the same person, I hope. No one here wants us to be apart, on the contrary.
Please don't think I'm dissing your Mom. I would never do that. She is entitled to her opinions and beliefs. I don't want her to be a wall between us. She has her new life, and I have mine. We can all be civil and get along, right?
If all this I've told you can compensate for my mistakes with you, please contact me.
I love you,
Dad

[Sunny Dee-lite]

Hi Danielle,

Parents non acceptance can be very painful and effect a lot in LIFE! You are very lucky and blessed! Iam so happy for you and hope it does close that former chapter of your life!

The pain I have felt and endured due to my mother and father's seperation from my life is something I will ever understand! Something i have coped with and made my own amends with...

Really appreciate it and embrace all the love you get! It is a beautiful thing! And once again CONGRATULATIONS!!!! :lol:

[beavisimo]

I'm really happy for you. That's great.

[Alyssa87]

and that's what life is all about!

beautiful. just beautiful.

[ef9hatchman]

This is a huge chapter of closure in my life and I just wanted to share this feeling with all of you who are reading this.

I have always felt a tug and an empty space in my heart without the approval of my father and I have always wanted to hear him say some of these words to me. Now in this new chapter of my life it seems that all of those huge hills and moutains are like distant lands.

Much love and Please do share your love!

Dear ***** ( my legal name )

Since the last time we spoke, that time you were here at Rosanne's house and I brought you your boxes, I have been trying to get in contact with you. I called you phone about 54 times, sent you 596 emails, etc.
I'm sorry if I wasn't ready for you at that time. It was such a drastic change that I kind of tried to block it unconsciously. I'm sorry. It was a stupid thing to do to someone that you love.
And the next day when you wanted to go out, I made some kind of dumb excuse, I can't remember. The only thing I remeber is that you were crying on the phone. I'm sorry for that too.
Please forgive me for the pain. Can we pick up where we left off?
You look fantastic. I can accept that now.
One thing we have to clear up, though. I never prohibited you from seeing your Grandfather. That was not my decision. His wife had the say on that one. He died without regaining consciouness after 10 days in the ICU. Even before that, he was having deliriums in the hospital. He didin't recognize me or Wlacyra. But he had a very full and productive life.
Alba never told me not to talk to you. Remeber when you stayed at our house? You and her had your differences, but she never tried to put me against you. someone on the outside might have that impression, but trust me, it never happened.
Anyway, I think that those days are long gone and we can put it all behind us. I love you, wether you are E*** or E****. Inside you are still the same person, I hope. No one here wants us to be apart, on the contrary.
Please don't think I'm dissing your Mom. I would never do that. She is entitled to her opinions and beliefs. I don't want her to be a wall between us. She has her new life, and I have mine. We can all be civil and get along, right?
If all this I've told you can compensate for my mistakes with you, please contact me.
I love you,
DadSounds like it may be the most wonderful day in your life?

[breedrwnted]

DANIELLE,THAT IS SUCH A BIG STEP TO HAPPYNESS IN LIFE TO HAVE A CONNECTION WITH YOUR FATHER. I HOPE YOU TWO PATCH ALL THE DIFFENENCES CAUSE LIFES TO SHORT. YOU SURE LOOK AMAZING BY THE WAY. IM VERY HAPPY FOR YOU IN YOUR NEW BEGINING. LOVE YA

[Coroner]

Great news for you, Danielle.

[dan_drade]

Well in my opinion, parents never really hate you. They will always love you. The may hate what you do, but they still love you. But it must feel good to you that he actually said it.

[ef9hatchman]

Well in my opinion, parents never really hate you. They will always love you. The may hate what you do, but they still love you. But it must feel good to you that he actually said it.
Well said.

[SXFX]

cheers! Big hugz

[unctrld1]

This world can be a dark place.

Thank you Danielle for the ray of sunshine.

[Oli]

Yeah Dad...for finally being what good parents should be...loving and accepting of their children.

Congratulations Danielle :claps :claps

[hondarobot]

That's awesome, Foxx. Your dad sounds like a good person.

[PeteIsHere]

I'm very happy for you Danielle. The gift of our parents love is beautiful and can never be replaced.

[blckhaze]

Good for the both of you.
Always nice to see Parents come around.

[Willie Escalade]

Excellent! I wish both of you nothing but the best. No matter how many changes happen, you will always be his offspring and he will always be your father. :D

[Realgirls4me]

Very poignant, Danielle. Thank you for sharing. May the two of you be the best of friends for the rest of your lives.

[wankmaster]

Does he know about all the porn?

[simianantics]

(Sigh!).........

[LovinFur69]

Does he know about all the porn?




open mouth
insert foot

[chanel_girly]

awww Iam so pleased to hear!
Iam so happy for you miss e**** :D lol
miss u!
xoxo

[tsntx]

its nice to hear a girl has support from family members

was the lack of his, and im guessing your moms, bc of the work you do or bc of your transition?

[Distance]

It is really touching to read this. There is a lot of sensitivity in this little letter. A lot of whispered love too. It's very sweet and almost naive when your dad says 'I hope you are the same person'. That's how he loved and loves you. No matter the changes, we always stay true to our heart.


On a lighter note, he seems to have sent you quite a few emails. :lol: :lol:

[londonrussianblond]

im soooo happy for you danielle,, new year fresh start sounds like he really wants to make an effort this time with you,,hey babe,,, i miss u fish,,, remember thailand lol!!! hope ur doing well much love xoxoxoxo

[mishadark]

Does he know about all the porn?
Makes no difference.

My mum is very reserved & old fashioned, & would be mortified to see a site like this, let alone know I post on it.
Last mothers day, mum looked around to make sure dad was downstairs,
then closed the bedroom door and said
"About your job, Clearly you are successful, happy & financially well off.
But I don't think you do sales, nor have done for a long time."
what do you think I do?
" I think you work in the adult sex industry & with
Ipswich prostitutes, murders trial verdict on the news, (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/2006_Ipswich_murder_investigation)
I'm just worried for your safety"

I talked a little about what I do generally (no details) & explained my safety precautions, again in general terms.
She suggested my career direction best kept from the rest of the family.
& told me she loved me.

This has drawn us even closer together.

[Sonja.bebe]

thats great news for you danielle .. *hugs*

[DL_NL]

Great to read that, missing your parents in your life leaves a large hole.

[muhmuh]

congrats... is that the right thing to say in this situation? dunno whatever it is consider it said

[trish]

I know it’s a very intimate and personal part of your life and I’m sooo happy you shared it with us. I’m a bit teary eyed here. No one can know another’s despair but I just want to offer that I too struggle with the gulf that divides us all too often from our families. Your post has granted me hope.

[Will Riker]

Danielle,

I´m happy for you. A new chapter in life.

Parabéns e beijos

[baileyandkc]

Great news and glad you shared it with others too! Hope everything works out for the best!

[Star Angel 86]

Danielle,this is extremely great news,I'm glad to hear that you have your fathers approval,having your parents love and approval is so important,what a great way to start off the new year.

[Nowhereboy]

Danielle,

I am very happy for you and hope that your father and you can rebuild your relationship. As a father of a young lady, we have our moments, believe me, there have been times that we were not as close as I would like. It is painful to me when we are distant and I know it is painful for her. The point is, neither of us really want to have this distance yet we both let it happen. As the adult, I take full responsibility and I am willing to bet that your father feels the same way. Let this re-opening be but the first step of a long journey. Remember, it took a long time for this distance to develop, give the repair of the relationship a good amount of time as well.

[phobun]

Great to read that, missing your parents in your life leaves a large hole.
No, the surgeon did that.

[justatransgirl]

Hi Danielle,
Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm happy for you that you have reconcilled with your Father. Sometimes these things take time.

I think perhaps actually having surgery can be a factor too. I think by that time relatives and former friends finally realize this isn't a "phase" you were going through, and the ones with character eventually come through.

I think a big problem also is that while we as transsexuals usually have some kind of support network of understanding people, our relatives and friends often get taken by surprise and have no place to turn to get information. (Yeah, right - I was wearing a girls top in my high school senior picture...)

Anyway, glad things are improving in our relationship.

Hugs,
TS Jamie :-)

[Bee]

So Sweet! :) We're all happy for you! :wink: