Could you date a tranny that escorts?

[JamesHunt]

Could you deal with the fact that your soulmate is being sucked & fucked by a complete stranger, and in some cases, actually enjoying it?

[slinky]

I've dated plenty of GG working girls, so I don't see why I couldn't date a TG working girl.

[JamesHunt]

I've dated plenty of GG working girls, so I don't see why I couldn't date a TG working girl.

Have you ever spent any of their money?

[BlkJewels]

A date, 2 me, is just havin a good time, enjoying sum1's company. So yeah, I could.

[RangeHova]

I have had casual friends, even close friends that were working girls but things never got serious. I can't say that the fact that they were working girls is the reason why thing didn't get serious.

I have wondered if thing got serious if i could handle it. I don't know. The friends that I have known that have escorted seem to really be able to separate that from real life. So it really seems possible for me.

But on the other hand, the serious relationships that I have had with TS women were very intense. I don't know if I can be intense and in love with a woman and know that she was having sex with other men. Love changes everything for me.

[slinky]

I've dated plenty of GG working girls, so I don't see why I couldn't date a TG working girl.

Have you ever spent any of their money?

In most cases, they wouldn't let me pay for anything (well, that may be a little strong; with some of them if I quickly grabbed the check they let me pay). But usually, they would be waiting at the theater, tickets in hand, or grabbing the check (one would sneak off at some time and tell the waiter not to even bring the check to the table). One got very upset with me because she thought I spent way too much money on her birthday present (the one I never got over and probably never will). Probably the only clothes I own which were bought retail were gifts from them. I don't wear jewelry, so that's a non-issue.

But as far as "spending their money", I never charged anything on any of their credit cards or took cash out of their wallets or anything like that.

Of course, this is talking after I mostly left the business. When I was the boss it was me who paid.

[DC]

Yes

[wombat33]

Yes,


Not a problem for me.

[flabbybody]

here's the age old dilemma of dating an escort:
cell phones, hair weaves, pedicures, clothes, shoes, handbags, surgeries, 'mones.... and I won't even count recreational drugs and her mom in the Bronx who's always short the rent money.
When you start caring for someone you desperately want them to stop working but the brutal cost of transitioning doesn't go away just cause your doing the Don Quixote routine

so the only practical thing is to let them continue doing the hooker thing and eventually that starts eating away at you, just like it eats away at her every day regardless of weather you're in her life or not.

and that's why it hardly ever works

[Jane Marie]

ITs all how you start a relationship in alot of ways. Even those comfortable with a polyamorous or open relationship arent pleased that their partners do escort either. I see alot of guys that assume all of us tgirls are the same shallow stupid masochistic retards but we are very different some of us actually enjoy being in the sex industry. Every job there is has its good days and not so good days. With every client I have eventually we establish some form of friendship depending on how discreet he needs it. Some who are single I eventually start dating personally and If a guy wants me all to himself then he knows that there are people still asking me to pay rent and utilities and I live in alabama where the employment of a tgirl is still pretty much a sin. So thats it if you want her to yourself atleast be willing to make porn with her that she can sell online. eh? lol
Hugs everyone we are all different girls

[blckhaze]

sorry. couldnt do it.
Im selfish.

[Solitary Brother]

I've dated plenty of GG working girls, so I don't see why I couldn't date a TG working girl.

Why did you date so many?
Was it looks?

[Solitary Brother]

here's the age old dilemma of dating an escort:
cell phones, hair weaves, pedicures, clothes, shoes, handbags, surgeries, 'mones.... and I won't even count recreational drugs and her mom in the Bronx who's always short the rent money.
When you start caring for someone you desperately want them to stop working but the brutal cost of transitioning doesn't go away just cause your doing the Don Quixote routine

so the only practical thing is to let them continue doing the hooker thing and eventually that starts eating away at you, just like it eats away at her every day regardless of weather you're in her life or not.

and that's why it hardly ever works



I guess I was right when I say I COULD NOT ever date a tranny escort.
I take it you have been through the whole routine,no?

[tsntx]

here's the age old dilemma of dating an escort:
cell phones, hair weaves, pedicures, clothes, shoes, handbags, surgeries, 'mones.... and I won't even count recreational drugs and her mom in the Bronx who's always short the rent money.
When you start caring for someone you desperately want them to stop working but the brutal cost of transitioning doesn't go away just cause your doing the Don Quixote routine

so the only practical thing is to let them continue doing the hooker thing and eventually that starts eating away at you, just like it eats away at her every day regardless of weather you're in her life or not.

and that's why it hardly ever works

flabby ure a mod now... time to get w/ classier prossies ;)

[keepingitreal470]

here's the age old dilemma of dating an escort:
cell phones, hair weaves, pedicures, clothes, shoes, handbags, surgeries, 'mones.... and I won't even count recreational drugs and her mom in the Bronx who's always short the rent money.When you start caring for someone you desperately want them to stop working but the brutal cost of transitioning doesn't go away just cause your doing the Don Quixote routine

so the only practical thing is to let them continue doing the hooker thing and eventually that starts eating away at you, just like it eats away at her every day regardless of weather you're in her life or not.

and that's why it hardly ever worksLMAO. Her mom in the bx short on rent money. BWHAHAHAHA Fucking classic Flabby. But yeah, you hit on just about every obstacle that a man faces in those situations. What would piss me off is the fact that I'm paying for all of this and WHAT THE FUCK IS SHE DOING WITH HER MONEY. Sadly, chasers will still go this route and be made an absolute fool of everytime. They'll also end up filing for bankruptcy. There are exceptions though. Not many. Usually girls who are a little older and more successful. The breakdown Flabby provided applies to your basic bottom feeder trannie.

[slinky]

I've dated plenty of GG working girls, so I don't see why I couldn't date a TG working girl.

Why did you date so many?
Was it looks?

a) Why not? What's wrong with dating beautiful, intelligent, highly sexed women?

b) Because I have no opposable thumb.

c) You date those who you are in contact with.

[slinky]

I think some of you are confusing dating a working girl with being a favorite client.

[SemperFiGuy]

I dated a girl when I was about 20, who was not a WG, then, after a long absence, I dated a girl who I met while she was performing in her WG role. I just wanted to get back into it, and all the girls I found through other channels turned out to be men in wigs.

Personally, I didn't like it. The first time was a professional visit, then the 2nd time she initiated it, and offered 1/2 off, then it turned into her and I hanging out, dating, and no $ changed hands. She liked me, was attracted to me, and vice versa.

Not that all WG are this way, but she just had a certain mentality. To me, the whole TS girl issue is no different than any other relationship between a man and a woman. And... she had a bit of the street hustler mentality. I wanted more the romance, and living heavily ever after.

[Baron Of Hell]

I don't consider it a safe thing to do physically so no. Even beyond that I would probably worry about them to much while they were working. I wouldn't want to be in constant state of fear for someone.

[sockmonkey]

In terms of a proper relationship, absolutely not. I'm a totally monogamously-minded dude. I don't even fantasize about other women when I'm in a relationship. Maybe I'm old-fashioned; maybe I'm just a sucker. :D

[neverforget]

here's the age old dilemma of dating an escort:
cell phones, hair weaves, pedicures, clothes, shoes, handbags, surgeries, 'mones.... and I won't even count recreational drugs and her mom in the Bronx who's always short the rent money.
When you start caring for someone you desperately want them to stop working but the brutal cost of transitioning doesn't go away just cause your doing the Don Quixote routine

so the only practical thing is to let them continue doing the hooker thing and eventually that starts eating away at you, just like it eats away at her every day regardless of weather you're in her life or not.

and that's why it hardly ever works

very well said. im in the situation and have seen that things wont change. im in the process of moving on. that pain is just to severe. she has never asked me for a dime and i know she truly loves me. but the life she leads i just cant accept and be a part of. its true it slowly starts to eat away at you. a little each time. when you see her walking away to meet a client with a tear in her eye, its pain that cant be described. when its love it can only be one way. 1 on 1.

[Bluejay]

9 years and still going strong!

I think the issue here is the ability to seperate love and sex,in my eyes to differant things.Not an easy thing to do,I admit but it is possible.

[Remy757Photog]

9 years and still going strong!

I think the issue here is the ability to seperate love and sex,in my eyes to differant things.Not an easy thing to do,I admit but it is possible.

I have to go with Blue jay here, although I've been the outsider looking-in at situations like Flabby mentioned and know it does exist. I wonder how many of the guys who would date a "Porn Star" but not an escort? I feel so long as she is handling business and not getting caught up in the 'fast life' (as admittedly some 'escorts' do) Im kosher with it.

[Simonross]

Yep, have done it twice, and nope, I won't ever do it again

TS relationships can be tough enough to maintain without the added complications of dating a Tgirl that escorts, and the compromises it forces you to accept emotionally.

Now in my 3rd major relationship with a TS, the lovely Racheal, who thankfully has nothing to do with the adult industry, and thats just how I like it these days

Regards

Simon

[MrF]

For those who can compartmentalize love versus sex and succeed in a relationship with an escort, more power to you. To some extent I can relate to that compartmentalization, but I would still find it tough to date an escort. Friendship is possible, but not romance. There are so many other choices for romantic partners and I would prefer to avoid the issues associated with that line of work.

BTW, I knew a stripper girl who complained that sometimes guys would try harder to stick with her just because she made a lot of money, i.e. their interest soared when they found out she was a stripper. (These would typically be young, good-looking, but impoverished guys.) I wonder if that happens to escorts ?

[Deepdarkfucker]

Yes

[Ts CinthyaNY]

9 years and still going strong!

I think the issue here is the ability to seperate love and sex,in my eyes to differant things.Not an easy thing to do,I admit but it is possible.


You are really smart. I been 7 years with the same guy , it wasn't easy the first couple years but eventually we have come to a understanding. My man do not really mind my line of work, because he know that I do not get involved emotionally with any of my clients.

It's important for me to make sure I separate love and sex, and I do . But what it's more important it is that he trust me on that.

I enjoy sometimes, there are certain things he will not do and my dates do so it's all about to balance what i do and separate from my personal life.

He loves me being very honest to him always and independent of him financially and he spoil me as much as he can , but to me , just the knowledge of having someone waiting for me home and tell me he loves me no matter what it's more than I bargain for.

So I guess it is possible for a guy to be with someone who escort , GG or TS as long as he is open to any possibilities and strong minded(which it's rare in some guys), open you mind, trust and love .

[Simonross]

9 years and still going strong!

I think the issue here is the ability to seperate love and sex,in my eyes to differant things.Not an easy thing to do,I admit but it is possible.


You are really smart. I been 7 years with the same guy , it wasn't easy the first couple years but eventually we have come to a understanding. My man do not really mind my line of work, because he know that I do not get involved emotionally with any of my clients.

It's important for me to make sure I separate love and sex, and I do . But what it's more important it is that he trust me on that.

I enjoy sometimes, there are certain things he will not do and my dates do so it's all about to balance what i do and separate from my personal life.

He loves me being very honest to him always and independent of him financially and he spoil me as much as he can , but to me , just the knowledge of having someone waiting for me home and tell me he loves me no matter what it's more than I bargain for.

So I guess it is possible for a guy to be with someone who escort , GG or TS as long as he is open to any possibilities and strong minded(which it's rare in some guys), open you mind, trust and love .

Think you have pretty much hit the nail on the head Cinthya, it does take a certain type of individual to be able to do that.

In my case, I found I had to 'shut off' so many areas emotionally within myself, that the relationship suffered to a point where it could no longer be maintained. We both found ways to deal with the issue of escorting, neither of us very well, thankfully we both seem to be happier people then we once were.

Simon

[doasuwill]

I have in the past, and that's not what ended the relationship, so from experience I say YES.

[melissacarter]

here's the age old dilemma of dating an escort:
cell phones, hair weaves, pedicures, clothes, shoes, handbags, surgeries, 'mones.... and I won't even count recreational drugs and her mom in the Bronx who's always short the rent money.

I like how you steered clear of any sterotypes. Why not just call her a spic and be done with it

[phobun]

Could you deal with the fact that your soulmate is being sucked & fucked by a complete stranger, and in some cases, actually enjoying it?
You'd have to be pretty desperate, or have really low self-esteem.

[mcaextreme69]

You know a few years back, I had a series relationship with a TS working girl. We dated for over 2 years. It was hard on me. Her customers always came first. So spending any quality time together was hard, and our sex life was a joke. I was lucky if I got laid a couple times a month. I trusted her with everything including my wallet, my mistake. I was forced to file for bankruptcy. I was also young and naive. If I did it again, I would man up and set the guidelines for the relationship. If the guidelines weren't followed I would walk. Plus I would keep finances completely separate. No exceptions to this rule. That's how my parents do it, and they've been happily married for over 20 years. And, Yes I've taken home my TS girlfriend to meet momma. I'm always proud of my girlfriends. Just my 2 cents.

Respect.....

[phobun]

here's the age old dilemma of dating an escort:
cell phones, hair weaves, pedicures, clothes, shoes, handbags, surgeries, 'mones.... and I won't even count recreational drugs and her mom in the Bronx who's always short the rent money.

I like how you steered clear of any sterotypes. Why not just call her a spic and be done with it
Nothing to do with being a "spic"... could substitute trailer park for Bronx just as easily. The image he paints is an all too common one, regardless of ethnicity, that no reasonable person can deny exists...

There are classy transsexuals who don't do sex work for money, who don't waste money on drugs, who are educated, who save their money in the hope of a better future, so why settle for less if you don't have to?

[mcaextreme69]

Her customers always came first.

No pun intended! But seriously, sorry you got conned.

You don't need to tell me, I learned the hard way. You should actually say I got screwed.....

[melissacarter]

here's the age old dilemma of dating an escort:
cell phones, hair weaves, pedicures, clothes, shoes, handbags, surgeries, 'mones.... and I won't even count recreational drugs and her mom in the Bronx who's always short the rent money.

I like how you steered clear of any sterotypes. Why not just call her a spic and be done with it
Nothing to do with being a "spic"... could substitute trailer park for Bronx just as easily. The image he paints is an all too common one, regardless of ethnicity, that no reasonable person can deny exists...

There are classy transsexuals who don't do sex work for money, who don't waste money on drugs, who are educated, who save their money in the hope of a better future, so why settle for less if you don't have to?

OK, I agree there's a legitimate pattern. But what about: I'm a college graduate, educated and an artist, I've had a few careers, I'm a former addict recovering successfully, I consider myself classy I guess, I wanna save money for a better future, AND I do sex work, where do I fit in? No wait, where do I fit in, Popeeee?

[flabbybody]

I was just summarizing some common themes in the handful of girls I've been involved with. I was not in any way suggesting that ALL tg escorts are like that.
and the fault could be mine in seeking out a certain type of person without even knowing I'm doing it. that's about all I'll say about it

[celticgrafix]

no

[dreaming in dog years]

No, I would not be ok with it. I have no problem with anyone who escorts, its there decision, if they want to use there body in that way so be it. But if someone is looking for a serious relationship (dating being the first step) escorting may not be the best occupation to withhold. If the person you are dating isn’t satisfying your needs (sexually or financially, the main reasons for escorting) then look elsewhere if your serious about finding someone. By escorting while dating me, you are showing me that you don’t trust that I can support you and/or satisfy you. Word.

[jjhill]

Yes, I dont view guys that have to pay for sex as a threat.

[fred41]

I dated a working T-Girl, knew the deal going in... Hell I would marry this woman right now... I blew it, hard to go into the details but I do want her back and will do anything! She was articulate, intelligent, had a prior life/career and had goals beyond the escorting. I knew she did it for the money and transition costs, etc... I tried to help and will do so if she lets me back into her life.

I knew we 'clicked" the first time I saw her, and she stated the same. Yes I did see her as a client. There was passion beyond the sex from both sides... It has been a few months now and I cannot stop thinking of her. So it is POSSIBLE... depends upon the girl like the aforementioned quote...BTW a guy would be lucky to have you...

Sorry for the rambling... excellent topic-DAMN thing hit home for me HARD!

Sorry about your situation Chitown..I hope it works out for you in the future...and if you can't get back together..I hope you find the time to heal..and maybe find someone new.

Your post points out something that might not be so obvious to people: You can have all these threads such as - "would you date a TS escort?" or "would you date a Tranny Chaser?" (might as well tie these threads together since that might very well be the inevitable dating combo).but after all the debates and all the "expert" advice and opinions and warnings and tongue clucking and so on......
....the heart wants what the heart wants.
...sometimes you just fall in love....sometimes hard...and if it's mutual..then you have no choice BUT to try as hard as you can to make it work (..if it's mutual)..'cause when you're really in love (as opposed to a crush), the alternative of being without each other is more intolerable than any of the obstacles thrown in your paths. So you try and learn to work out and get around the problems ..( just as in any other relationship)...cause you NEED each other. Then, if after a long time the relationship still doesn't work? Well , you gave it your all...and it breaks up, but that doesn't mean that it wasn't worth having in the first place.

....and yes, trust makes all the diffence in the world in this type of relationship. That means you have to be willing to invest time...because trust ONLY comes with time. After you develop trust , I think, it becomes much easier to work out any other problems.

I find it interesting that a lot of guys post that they wouldn't ever consider dating an escort...but they have no problem at all practically "living" on forums such as this. :D

[MrF]

One of the posters said he didn't feel threatend by "guys who have to pay for sex".

That's fine, but the escorts see a whole range of different guys, including some pretty desirable ones who just want a NSA experience. It is likely that if an escort "clicks" with you, they're probably clicking with a lot of other guys. I'd take it for what it is, and we may become friends, but I have to admit I'd be a little jealous, which would prevent me from taking things too seriously. (And I'd expect to be treated the same way in reversed roles.)

Also, far as I can tell, many escorts develop a kind of "stress disorder" and develop a low opinion of men because it's a tough job. Some escape relatively unscathed, but I think many (most ?) become unhappy. So that's another potential inhibiting factor to watch out for.

[jjhill]

If he paid the first time, and she tells him the second one is free, then I would worry lol

[droog]

Could you deal with the fact that your soulmate is being sucked & fucked by a complete stranger, and in some cases, actually enjoying it?

who could?

[OEMEnemyNum1]

I would say possibly

[LilWyte]

no unless im sleeping with other women at the same time as well

[russtafa]

i lived with a tgirl for 8 years who escorted but she kept her job out of our life together

[imwithstupid]

lets just say i lasted not too long, it drove me crazy. Of course i wasnt a former client. I was 21 fucking stupid and in love at the time. Now im 23 and would probably stay away from escorts, cause ive been there and back.

[Solitary Brother]

I've dated plenty of GG working girls, so I don't see why I couldn't date a TG working girl.

huh? :oops:

[slinky]

I've dated plenty of GG working girls, so I don't see why I couldn't date a TG working girl.

huh? :oops:

I don't see what's so difficult to comprehend about the statement. Why would dating a TG that escorts be that much different different than dating a GG that escorts.

I'm almost dating a TG that escorts now. But it' not really "dating" yet; it's odd, but it's not dating. I'm not sure what it is (and no I don't give her $ or buy her stuff, at least not anything substantial. I don't count paying for the bacon and eggs she cooked for breakfast).

[jimbobw2]

why would anyone want to date a hooker?

[T-girl hound]

I couldnt do it

[alyssats]

why not?

[sockmonkey]

I don't see what's so difficult to comprehend about the statement. Why would dating a TG that escorts be that much different different than dating a GG that escorts.


So you don't have much of a problem with anybody on the face of the earth plowin' your broad?

[TheLongChodeAhead]

hell no, I wouldn't.... I have standards and not banging other guys is one of them

[Simonross]

In a word ... No

Have done it twice, escorting doesn't make someone a bad person, it just requires their partner to have an ability to seperate their working life from their personal life, something I don't think I was ever able to do sucessfully in either relationship.

Regards

Simon

[LTR_Seeker]

For me i couldnt totally love a woman & it would getto me she sleeping with other im very serious 1 on 1 type it wouldnt feel right i couldnt seprate the 2 sides

[Simonross]

For me i couldnt totally love a woman & it would getto me she sleeping with other im very serious 1 on 1 type it wouldnt feel right i couldnt seprate the 2 sides

If I am honest, that is exactly what does happen. You have to shut off certain feelings and emotions to cope with the situation you are dealing with. Once you are doing that, you are ALWAYS holding something of you back and never really commiting fully to the relationship anymore. In the end, a level of resentment does build up, especially if the partner who is escorting demands total fidelity on your part. Eventually, something does break.

Simon

[kensterling]

As long as she is cool with me escorting too!

[LTR_Seeker]

As long as she is cool with me escorting too! Then it wouldnt be realtioship at all if there no love no contact just working all the time i cant like said previsuly i cant love a women all the way if she with many guys through the day or night to earna living then i feel like im just the last stop for the night.

[kensterling]

I'ts a little more complicated then that. If you are in the sex business you learn how to deal with it. Plus, you are not working all the time, you basicly work the same hours, so it works out. Plus there is alot of down time too.
It is nice to get back to the person you love after a call, the intimacy and sex seems almost better. I think people in this business are more open sexually as well. I can understand how it would be a problem for you. Just a sex worker's opinion.