What to do when....

[AllanahStarrNYC]

Another girl's boyfrend comes to see you as a client and tells you after the fact!

:shock:

[sexyshana]

send your regards to the gf?

[AllanahStarrNYC]

send your regards to the gf?

LOL

[Kimber James]

Another girl's boyfrend comes to see you as a client and tells you after the fact!

:shock:


it's happened to me mannnnnnnny times, infact with one veerrrrrry well known girl.

[AllanahStarrNYC]

It's personally never happened to me-
but the stories are scary!

I mean why would they EVEN tell you?

"Shade, shadu, you are shady!"-RuPaul

[cstslover]

fuck, iv'e been that guy

[joey1980]

xxxxxxxxx

[foolish99]

hmmm --- I imagine that would be quite a dilemma.

would the gf be understanding and cool about it or probably not? i suppose it would probably depend on what kind of girl she was.

[joey1980]

xxxxxxxxx

[foolish99]

well, it probably depends whether the girl is a friend or not. Allanah --- was this guy's gf a friend of yours or not?

[sexyshana]

Its shady for the guy to put a girl in that predicament knowing everything comes out in the end and knowing it will hurt his partner.
The worse part is him disclosing her name and usually personal information about their relationship.

[AllanahStarrNYC]

[quote="foolish99"]well, it probably depends whether the girl is a friend or not. Allanah --- was this guy's gf a friend of yours or not?[/quote


HMM I said it had not happened to me darling.

If the girl was a friend I would feel awful, but if she was an evil, nasty person, well I would feel nothing.

[hwbs]

:popcorn :popcorn :popcorn

[tsntx]

hes a client and unless youre refunding his cash in full

keep ur mouth shut and delete the thread

[AllanahStarrNYC]

Its shady for the guy to do put a girl in that predicament knowing everything comes out in the end and knowing it will hurt his partner.
The worse part is him disclosing her name and usually personal information about their relationship.

Yes, very shady.

[sexyshana]

Refund? I think a very large tip is more like it!
Its not the escorts fault he cant keep his mouth or legs closed.

[foolish99]

what does it say you should do in the TS escort code of ethics?

[Justawannabe]

I probably have nothing useful t add here but...

Don't understand guys who do that... bad bad things due to the inevitable discovery. (and yes, it's not really inevitable... just likely... secrets being tough to keep when folks all know each other)

If your the provider, and you don't know your girlfriends man... seriously look at whether she's really your girlfriend (gender pronouns kept easy to use... could be any mix).

If she is, and the person did this, I would say tell the friend. Doesn't always work out, but if the secret comes out later... say during the break up fight... your friendship is a dead fish anyway. Keeping intimate secrets from you friends is always sketchy at best.

You don't ever want to put someone in the place of thinking they have something (exclusive knowledge of who their partner is) when really they don't. Embarassment is more damaging to most people than a punch in the throat. Add in the loss of trust in friendships... might as well just stab your friend and cut out all the slow build up.

Sean

[sexyshana]

call him a fag, a cum slut then set up another appointment for the following week?

[foolish99]

in all seriousness, for the girls --- if you have ever had a serious bf, have you ever had him cheat on you? what did you do? (this probably deserves a thread of its own)

[sexyshana]

in all seriousness, for the girls --- if you have ever had a serious bf, have you ever had him cheat on you? what did you do? (this probably deserves a thread of its own)


I would have to consult my attorney before I can answer this and disclose what I did to him. :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil:

[AllanahStarrNYC]

This is why I believe and practice open relationships, or engae in couples fun-

Monogamy is impossible!

[sexyshana]

I dont beleive in open relationships, at least not at this point but sharing someone with your lover can be fun and something I may be into.
Honesty is best! I think once you cheat on someone you 'love' the trust is lost and therefore everything else.
If you are in a serious relationship and truly love your partner but feel the need to be with others, be honest and give that person the chance to make up his/her mind wether to accept it or move on.

[foolish99]

hmmm -- well, perspectives of Allanah and SexyShana on this subject are interesting to me. I have been in relationships with both types of girls -- I suppose anything works --- but if you do have a monogomous relationship, I think you have an obligation to keep it monogomous (absent informed consent).

anyway, anyone dating a ts who then sleeps with/fools around with another ts is asking to get damaged. there is nothing these queens like better than to tell another girl that her bf was unfaithful.

[sexyshana]

hmmm -- well, perspectives of Allanah and SexyShana on this subject are interesting to me. I have been in relationships with both types of girls -- I suppose anything works --- but if you do have a monogomous relationship, I think you have an obligation to keep it monogomous (absent informed consent).

anyway, anyone dating a ts who then sleeps with/fools around with another ts is asking to get damaged. there is nothing these queens like better than to tell another girl that her bf was unfaithful.

Im glad you feel that way!
I've been on both ends of this and both are awful for obvious reasons.

[AllanahStarrNYC]

Pasame el Krazy glue querida....

[sexyshana]

Krazy glue es lo que le va hacer falta si me pega un tarro .. porque lo voy a destrozar por pato!!!

[thx1138]

Was the girl friend an escort too? What if the client was married? Should the wife be informed?

[Justawannabe]

I need to learn this strange language the girls keep drifting into...

Not sure monogamy is possible either... but if you say your doing it, do it until you can't and stand up and say you can't. The behind the back stuff is just hurtful for all involved.

Open relationships never seem to work, much like triangles and such... the commitment always becomes lopsided, jealousy wedges in and then it all goes to crap.

I've not shared a person I 'loved' so can't really say whether I could do that, I would need a lot of re-assurance before I would try it with someone whom I wished to build a life with.

That said, I've had friends I've shared and it can be a lot of fun, but it almost precludes really trusting the person to always want you most.

And Shana is right... once someone cheats its over, you'll never trust them again.

Sean

[DL_NL]

Monogamy is impossible!
Naah, I'm lazy. Polygamy is too much work. I prefer to stay honest, it's too much trouble to remember all the lies.

[Castor_Troy05]

Well ethically the right thing to do if the girl was a friend would be to refuse the guy and tell the girl. However ethics seem to fly out of the window when coin is involved

[yodajazz]

Monogamy is impossible!
Naah, I'm lazy. Polygamy is too much work. I prefer to stay honest, it's too much trouble to remember all the lies.

Yeah I know what you mean. Once I got tangled up with a much younger woman at work. I ended up with a routine of picking up her kids from the sitters and then getting them some take out. Then I would have to go home and do the same thing for my own kids. Then I was doing other stuff, like taking her across town the hairdressers and swinging back across town to pick up her kids, and take the babysitter grocery shopping, plus other emergencies. Plus trying to figure out excuses why I was leaving home. And I never had sex with her. By the time she finally called me to get some in the middle of the night I was too tired. But at least when I got busted I could honestly say, “I never had sex with that woman”.

[JANIRA]

Call the girl up and tell her : MOMMA,, YOUR MAN JUST CAME BY FOR A SESSION, HOW MUCH OF A CUT YOU WANT???....

[happyjack]

just keep the secret between the 2 of you Allanah

[BBaggins06]

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[ts-lover.com]

Krazy glue es lo que le va hacer falta si me pega un tarro .. porque lo voy a destrozar por pato!!!
shana, just trying to learn spanish here, and can't quite translate what you said here. Here is what I come up with, "

:roll: Krazy glue is what will be needed if I snag a jar.....because Im going to smash a duck."

[sexyshana]

I said that he (my lover) will need Krazy glue if he cheats on me , I will destroy him for being a fag... all written in perfect cuban slang of course... but I think I like the other translations better...lol

[tsntx]

lol omg u said fag

now every faggot on here is gonna go apeshit

replace it with duck while you still can lol

quack quack mother quack

and i still think if you were paid you should keep your mouth shut and not even be talking about it here as it is likely he can read "his story" and get pissed if not do real harm to you

goes for anyone getting paid

keep ur mouth shut, thats what the "donations" for

[tsmandy]

Jen is right, its business and that's just a boundary to maintain at all times.

Just because you know someone doesn't mean the rules of the game change. In fact, that's when they really apply.

It's a tough situation, damned if you do, damned if you don't.

[sexyshana]

this thread is not about me or anyone I've slept with so I could really care less.

[tsmandy]

This is why I believe and practice open relationships, or engae in couples fun-

Monogamy is impossible!

Non-monogamy gets such a bad rap, but when done honestly and well its awesome.

[tsntx]

lol we know girl hence why it wasnt aimed at you lol

love the hair still ;)

[RubyTS]

call him a fag, a cum slut then set up another appointment for the following week?

lmfao

[dan_drade]

Aren't most of the guys "Another girls boyfriend"? LOL

Oh, unless he is her husband. LOL