Escorting is easy?

[baileyandkc]

Rather than followup on Vanessa's thread about escorts, relationships, etc, I had to ask on a different thread, is escorting easy money?
it's probably been dealt with on a different thread before but it would seem to me that while it's good money in just an hour, you gotta be a helluva actor/actress (guess that's where the drugs come in at times)
I meant, you ain't running into nothing but Brad Pitts and Angelina Jolies (sorry, the first two that came to mind)..The majority have to be people that, at best, don't turn you on physically/emotionally and, at worst, are a major turnoff! Either way, how do deal with that day in, day out, week in, week out, if not for the drugs.
I'm sure some clients provide some physical spark or an emotional pick me up but aren't most neutral or flat out negative experiences? Unless it's a total loser (an abbreviated session) how do you handle a negative physical or emotional situation if the client wants to rent ya for the entire weekend? Good money but how do put on a good act for 24-48 hours?
Not to mention the ripoffs, the dangers, etc, etc, etc...

Not sure of the burn out rate but unless you are at such a point where you can only pick the clients who physically, or emotionally, provide a spark, and decline all the rest, it would seem to me that escorts EARN their money, least the good escorts. Certainly might explain horror stories on reviews about this one having a drug problem, this one acting bored...

[Legend]

Sorry i don't know why i stated that but this kind of stuff doesn't even interest me.

[baileyandkc]

Post was a question, not a statement lol...

:roll:

[SexxxyJade]

Its kinda funny that we made fairly similar posts at the same time, I just posted a poll about escorts and relationships etc.
Anyway I must say, after years of escorting (almost 10) that it has really taken a toll on me. You are absolutely right about the acting and such because I try to provide every single client with the same fantasy, no matter how they look. And of course I come across some Brad Pitts, but there are also some Frankinsteins. Honestly, being an escort for so long has affected my personal life so much that I am not able to fuction a real personal relationship. I'm sure many ladies feel the same way. For example, when dating someone personally its hard to trust them, because we see so many men coming to see us cheating on thier wives and gf, its also hard for me to date a man who isnt doing anything for me, I guess having guys come to spend money for so long when I meet a guy in my perosnal life I just always expect something from him constantly, gifts, etc. Theres also the issue of sex, as escorts we have sex so much at times that If we are trying to fuction a real relationship its hard to have a regular sex life ( unless your just a str8 uo freak) your mate and you should have sex regularly but being an escort its hard because sometimes your tired or just fed up with sex and alot of times there are no feelings there because ur so use to faking it with clients that all sex seems the same. Its like a person whose been working at McDonalds for 10 yrs, they are tired of eating big Macs and wont touch em.
Escorting can truly corrupt a person, its kinda inevitable in my opinion because your whole percetion on men, sex and about life as a whole can be changed and your no longer able to fuction as a regular human being after seeing some of the things we've saw and definatley not after doing some of the things we've done.
As far as it being easy money, yea its easy, compared to other jobs, but definately not worth whats comes in the long run.

[baileyandkc]

Again, not knowing anything about it personally, I'd have to guess there are days you really don't want to work. I realize you can do your own scheduling but moods come up out of nowhere, like " oh no, not another one !" lol..

Think it'd be easier to find a relationship with someone who was not a client and knows absolutely nothing about you? No agendas to worry about..

I wondered if you could live a certain lifestyle for years and then simply switch whenever you choose..Course, LTR's ain't for everyone and no one ever said LTR's are the only satisfying life out there.

My post was phrased as a question, and I'm sure every escorts experiences are different but it really does strike me that it's a job that can be fun at times, and satisfying at times, but overall has to be tough quite often..therefore, not always "easy " and get paid accordingly. Hey, at McDonalds, you just flip the burgers, you don't have to perform for someone you may not really like!

[TsVanessa69]

Its kinda funny that we made fairly similar posts at the same time, I just posted a poll about escorts and relationships etc.
Anyway I must say, after years of escorting (almost 10) that it has really taken a toll on me. You are absolutely right about the acting and such because I try to provide every single client with the same fantasy, no matter how they look. And of course I come across some Brad Pitts, but there are also some Frankinsteins. Honestly, being an escort for so long has affected my personal life so much that I am not able to fuction a real personal relationship. I'm sure many ladies feel the same way. For example, when dating someone personally its hard to trust them, because we see so many men coming to see us cheating on thier wives and gf, its also hard for me to date a man who isnt doing anything for me, I guess having guys come to spend money for so long when I meet a guy in my perosnal life I just always expect something from him constantly, gifts, etc. Theres also the issue of sex, as escorts we have sex so much at times that If we are trying to fuction a real relationship its hard to have a regular sex life ( unless your just a str8 uo freak) your mate and you should have sex regularly but being an escort its hard because sometimes your tired or just fed up with sex and alot of times there are no feelings there because ur so use to faking it with clients that all sex seems the same. Its like a person whose been working at McDonalds for 10 yrs, they are tired of eating big Macs and wont touch em.
Escorting can truly corrupt a person, its kinda inevitable in my opinion because your whole percetion on men, sex and about life as a whole can be changed and your no longer able to fuction as a regular human being after seeing some of the things we've saw and definatley not after doing some of the things we've done.
As far as it being easy money, yea its easy, compared to other jobs, but definately not worth whats comes in the long run.
Very well said. I'm glad to know I am not the only one. On the flip side, I interviewed for a job today and got the job!!!

[SexxxyJade]

Its kinda funny that we made fairly similar posts at the same time, I just posted a poll about escorts and relationships etc.
Anyway I must say, after years of escorting (almost 10) that it has really taken a toll on me. You are absolutely right about the acting and such because I try to provide every single client with the same fantasy, no matter how they look. And of course I come across some Brad Pitts, but there are also some Frankinsteins. Honestly, being an escort for so long has affected my personal life so much that I am not able to fuction a real personal relationship. I'm sure many ladies feel the same way. For example, when dating someone personally its hard to trust them, because we see so many men coming to see us cheating on thier wives and gf, its also hard for me to date a man who isnt doing anything for me, I guess having guys come to spend money for so long when I meet a guy in my perosnal life I just always expect something from him constantly, gifts, etc. Theres also the issue of sex, as escorts we have sex so much at times that If we are trying to fuction a real relationship its hard to have a regular sex life ( unless your just a str8 uo freak) your mate and you should have sex regularly but being an escort its hard because sometimes your tired or just fed up with sex and alot of times there are no feelings there because ur so use to faking it with clients that all sex seems the same. Its like a person whose been working at McDonalds for 10 yrs, they are tired of eating big Macs and wont touch em.
Escorting can truly corrupt a person, its kinda inevitable in my opinion because your whole percetion on men, sex and about life as a whole can be changed and your no longer able to fuction as a regular human being after seeing some of the things we've saw and definatley not after doing some of the things we've done.
As far as it being easy money, yea its easy, compared to other jobs, but definately not worth whats comes in the long run.
Very well said. I'm glad to know I am not the only one. On the flip side, I interviewed for a job today and got the job!!!congrats girl, ive tried that route but didnt work out for me. After so long of doing nothing and being my own boss its hard to transition. Maybe ill try school or something. Who knows.

[baileyandkc]

Congrats Vanessa!

Hope it's a satisfying job, no matter what it pays...Money is great but peace of mind is even better..Ya can't take money with you when its all said and done...

On Jade's earlier post, really great that she can be so honest and sincere about escorting...speaks volumes about her

[daleach]

Its kinda funny that we made fairly similar posts at the same time, I just posted a poll about escorts and relationships etc.
Anyway I must say, after years of escorting (almost 10) that it has really taken a toll on me. You are absolutely right about the acting and such because I try to provide every single client with the same fantasy, no matter how they look. And of course I come across some Brad Pitts, but there are also some Frankinsteins. Honestly, being an escort for so long has affected my personal life so much that I am not able to fuction a real personal relationship. I'm sure many ladies feel the same way. For example, when dating someone personally its hard to trust them, because we see so many men coming to see us cheating on thier wives and gf, its also hard for me to date a man who isnt doing anything for me, I guess having guys come to spend money for so long when I meet a guy in my perosnal life I just always expect something from him constantly, gifts, etc. Theres also the issue of sex, as escorts we have sex so much at times that If we are trying to fuction a real relationship its hard to have a regular sex life ( unless your just a str8 uo freak) your mate and you should have sex regularly but being an escort its hard because sometimes your tired or just fed up with sex and alot of times there are no feelings there because ur so use to faking it with clients that all sex seems the same. Its like a person whose been working at McDonalds for 10 yrs, they are tired of eating big Macs and wont touch em.
Escorting can truly corrupt a person, its kinda inevitable in my opinion because your whole percetion on men, sex and about life as a whole can be changed and your no longer able to fuction as a regular human being after seeing some of the things we've saw and definatley not after doing some of the things we've done.
As far as it being easy money, yea its easy, compared to other jobs, but definately not worth whats comes in the long run.
Very well said. I'm glad to know I am not the only one. On the flip side, I interviewed for a job today and got the job!!!

Congrats, Vanessa. What will you be doing?

[TomSelis]

Its kinda funny that we made fairly similar posts at the same time, I just posted a poll about escorts and relationships etc.
Anyway I must say, after years of escorting (almost 10) that it has really taken a toll on me. You are absolutely right about the acting and such because I try to provide every single client with the same fantasy, no matter how they look. And of course I come across some Brad Pitts, but there are also some Frankinsteins. Honestly, being an escort for so long has affected my personal life so much that I am not able to fuction a real personal relationship. I'm sure many ladies feel the same way. For example, when dating someone personally its hard to trust them, because we see so many men coming to see us cheating on thier wives and gf, its also hard for me to date a man who isnt doing anything for me, I guess having guys come to spend money for so long when I meet a guy in my perosnal life I just always expect something from him constantly, gifts, etc. Theres also the issue of sex, as escorts we have sex so much at times that If we are trying to fuction a real relationship its hard to have a regular sex life ( unless your just a str8 uo freak) your mate and you should have sex regularly but being an escort its hard because sometimes your tired or just fed up with sex and alot of times there are no feelings there because ur so use to faking it with clients that all sex seems the same. Its like a person whose been working at McDonalds for 10 yrs, they are tired of eating big Macs and wont touch em.
Escorting can truly corrupt a person, its kinda inevitable in my opinion because your whole percetion on men, sex and about life as a whole can be changed and your no longer able to fuction as a regular human being after seeing some of the things we've saw and definatley not after doing some of the things we've done.
As far as it being easy money, yea its easy, compared to other jobs, but definately not worth whats comes in the long run.

This was one of the realest posts I've ever read here. :claps

Thank you

[slinky]

Very well said. I'm glad to know I am not the only one.

I really don't know how you can say that and also what you are claiming elsewhere. It's pretty much a contradiction.

[slinky]

There's a difference between being "an easy job" and being "easy money". Just like dealing drugs. Just because it's easy money, doesn't mean most don't end up dead or in jail. You pay for everything one way or another. A lot of times you get to choose which way, but if you think you aren't making a choice, you're deluding yourself. No, you can't have everything.

[blckhaze]

There's a difference between being "an easy job" and being "easy money". Just like dealing drugs. Just because it's easy money, doesn't mean most don't end up dead or in jail. You pay for everything one way or another. A lot of times you get to choose which way, but if you think you aren't making a choice, you're deluding yourself. No, you can't have everything.

agreed. If you take any job lightly you'll either get fired or lose money. Escorting, especially for the bigger names, isnt as glamorous as it may seem.

[slinky]

Escorting, especially for the bigger names, isnt as glamorous as it may seem.

Going to new and interesting places and staying in expensive hotel rooms........ and never leaving the room and seeing anything, just getting room service, watching pay-per-view and waiting for clients to no-show you, or worse... showing up ;).

[blckhaze]

Escorting, especially for the bigger names, isnt as glamorous as it may seem.

Going to new and interesting places and staying in expensive hotel rooms........ and never leaving the room and seeing anything, just getting room service, watching pay-per-view and waiting for clients to no-show you, or worse... showing up ;).

well since you put it that way....

*remembers Mimi Live in Chitown*

horrible. glad it aint me :P

[TsVanessa69]

Its kinda funny that we made fairly similar posts at the same time, I just posted a poll about escorts and relationships etc.
Anyway I must say, after years of escorting (almost 10) that it has really taken a toll on me. You are absolutely right about the acting and such because I try to provide every single client with the same fantasy, no matter how they look. And of course I come across some Brad Pitts, but there are also some Frankinsteins. Honestly, being an escort for so long has affected my personal life so much that I am not able to fuction a real personal relationship. I'm sure many ladies feel the same way. For example, when dating someone personally its hard to trust them, because we see so many men coming to see us cheating on thier wives and gf, its also hard for me to date a man who isnt doing anything for me, I guess having guys come to spend money for so long when I meet a guy in my perosnal life I just always expect something from him constantly, gifts, etc. Theres also the issue of sex, as escorts we have sex so much at times that If we are trying to fuction a real relationship its hard to have a regular sex life ( unless your just a str8 uo freak) your mate and you should have sex regularly but being an escort its hard because sometimes your tired or just fed up with sex and alot of times there are no feelings there because ur so use to faking it with clients that all sex seems the same. Its like a person whose been working at McDonalds for 10 yrs, they are tired of eating big Macs and wont touch em.
Escorting can truly corrupt a person, its kinda inevitable in my opinion because your whole percetion on men, sex and about life as a whole can be changed and your no longer able to fuction as a regular human being after seeing some of the things we've saw and definatley not after doing some of the things we've done.
As far as it being easy money, yea its easy, compared to other jobs, but definately not worth whats comes in the long run.
Very well said. I'm glad to know I am not the only one. On the flip side, I interviewed for a job today and got the job!!!congrats girl, ive tried that route but didnt work out for me. After so long of doing nothing and being my own boss its hard to transition. Maybe ill try school or something. Who knows.
Momma you are too pretty and from what I know about you thru friends and even clients we share, you are a very kind and caring person. Please don't get sucked in to this thinking its all you can do. School is a good start. You can still be your own boss, just don't throw life away.

[TsVanessa69]

Very well said. I'm glad to know I am not the only one.

I really don't know how you can say that and also what you are claiming elsewhere. It's pretty much a contradiction.
Its the same thing I say, only I have met somebody I feel is worth me giving a relationship and trust a shot. And yes I did go to an interview today, only as a formality, as the job was mine when they called me about the position

[TsVanessa69]

Congrats Vanessa!

Hope it's a satisfying job, no matter what it pays...Money is great but peace of mind is even better..Ya can't take money with you when its all said and done...

On Jade's earlier post, really great that she can be so honest and sincere about escorting...speaks volumes about her
I was hired to be a trans peer educator for Vida/Sida, a program sponsored by The Puerto Rican Cultural Center of Chicago. The program is geared towards educating the Puerto Rican community on a whole about safer sex practices and getting EVERYONE to be tested for HIV and STD's. HIV does not discriminate age, race or gender. As a transwoman who is a sex worker, show girl and living full time, I will also be facilitating a support group for woman in transition, an open forum where trans woman of many different ages will share life stories and network on hormone therapy, therapist, doctors or other needed services for trans woman. And as a special "treat" I will be given a half page in "La Voz" a straight newspaper which is published for the Humbolt Park area of Chicago. My articles will be written to share the trans expierence with the straight world. About the struggles of a trans woman to live and function in straight society, apart from the gay community! Before I had any "work" done I was employed with this agency, I received extensive training in STD and HIV prevention and have 3 certificates of acheivement from Mayor Daley and The American Red Cross. I am very excited about this new challenge! I start Monday!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Justawannabe]

on topic...

yeah, I've always worried about the emotional impact on the providers. When my ex wanted to get involved I tried to talk her out of it because of what it would do to her personnel life (we weren't together at the time).

Thank you Jade for putting up that post.

off topic...

Vanessa - Congrats! I always felt great starting a new job... need to try that working thing again myself. Living off the family fortune has it's done sides emotionally too.

Jade - Going from boss to employee is tough, I feel for you there, done that and it sucked. School might be a good thing to try, though securing funding for education/living expenses is tough nowadays.

Sean

[baileyandkc]

Good luck with the new gig Vanessa..sounds interesting and IMPORTANT!

I agree, Jade's initial post in the thread was one of the most honest and meaningful posts I've read, in my short time here. I had wondered what escorts thought about the day to day grind. Had to figure it wasn't easy being " on " for each and every outing, apart from all the other pitfalls.

Gotta be difficult however giving up that kind of money, especially once you've made adjustments, to put up with the negative aspects of escorting...

I'd say by the looks of Jade's website she can always go into the IT field!

[shay]

Escorting, especially for the bigger names, isnt as glamorous as it may seem.

Going to new and interesting places and staying in expensive hotel rooms........ and never leaving the room and seeing anything, just getting room service, watching pay-per-view and waiting for clients to no-show you, or worse... showing up ;).

well said, there is nothing glamorous about this. nothing, my dearest friend does this and is well off financially, but when we get together i always see that ever present sadness in her eyes. it kills me everytime. she wont quit. once she said if u only knew what i have done. that statement haunts me everyday. i only hope and pray that somehow it ends. think real hard everyone before u make that step. crossing over remains with u forever.

[Shining Star]

Laying with someone for money is probably "easy", I mean one can sit there and recite the "ABCs" mentally or think of England. It is what comes afterwards which is the hard part.

Knowing that everything one has from the food one eats to the roof over one's head depends upon being intimate with strangers, some of whom one wouldn't even speak to on the street, much less look at, has to get to one's mind sooner or later.

Then of course there are the stares, rude comments and such from society and persons looking down their noses at you because of your career "choice".

T'aint easy McGee.

[tsmandy]

On the good days its the best job ever and on the bad days it makes me feel hopeless about the future.

It is a good way to fund the lifestyle I enjoy living: plenty of time to practice music, garden and visit with friends. I would kill myself if I had to work a job with a boss, drain my life away making someone else money doing something that I don't care about.

Of course I've set my business and life up in a unique way that doesn't represent the experience that most other girls have. I have a loving and supportive partner who has been a sex-worker on occasion with and without me in the past, I have a low mortgage so I can pay my bills with a small amount of clients, and I really don't give a shit about getting rich so I never push myself.

Not that there aren't stressful moments in my life, but I have a really strong community of friends who don't look down on me for being in the sex industry. I think without the support and love that I'm surrounded by, that escorting would take a much harder toll.

[hondarobot]

All work is like any work.

It sucks at times, but it's better then not having something interesting to do.

:wink: