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MrsKellyPierce
02-19-2008, 11:05 AM
Stop Oppression. We can do it if we just be ourselves with out word slinging and violence. Why is it we transpeople feel we need to talk back to a group of guys that clocked us in public. Why do we need to esculate it so its another transsexuals death in vain. A beautiful individual working her/his way down the path of peace within her/his self. The peace they will never be allowed over an esculated argument or dating a man or woman under false pretenses. I'll go more into this topic later.

It's a minute out of our day that we were name called, but we have 23:59 to keep on your path and the rest of our lives. I say lets bury our pride and worry about ourselves and safety first. Too many transsexual deaths come from esculating the issue of hate. We think standing up and yelling back at the person/persons emotionally abruising us is going to make them change their mind or change what was said that made us so mad. I can tell you it wont. I have always believed you can always catch more bees with honey. When we decide to take part in the wordslinging it esculates the hate more. it gives them the catalyst to make it easier to physically harm us. Who knows if that day it will be a beating or death. Why play with fire people?


I don't get why we give these people filled with hate so much power over our lives? We should worry more about what we think of ourselves and what our loved ones think, before instigating a mob of haters. So they called us a fag, a man, a woman, a dyke, a pervert, or whatever lame attempt they can throw at us let them have it. In the end we know who we are and what path we are on. Let him have his view, if thats what it takes to keep us safe for another day. We still have our view, he has't taken it from us. The media hasn't stripped us of who we are, like they've done to so many of us. Hold dear to things in our life we value and love. Remember that tomorrow we most likely wont even remember the incident the day before. This keeps us safe and gives us the time we need to achieve our genders we need to be viewed as, live as, and love as. Esculating hate in an instant we can have this ripped away from us. Remember time is precious, life is precious, and lying on a morgue table still pre-operative is not a wish I have for myself. My wish is to get these men and women that have beat us and murdered us not have the option of a slap on the wrist with a thing called a sanity plea. That judicial systems finally start seeing these crimes as hate crimes. We need to stop giving these people the angle they need to be set free for our deaths.


Lastly with ladies and gentleman that go around tricking men and women on dates. I beg you to think of your actions before you keep practicing this habit. I realize you need to be treated as your gender, and maybe you think in your head you can't be treated solely as that gender if they know. I assure you this isn't true! Lets remember our dead. Lets remember the beautiful teen Gwen Araujo who played with fireand in the end was burnt. No she did not deserve this, she was a teen girl wanting to do what every teen girl does her age. It would be great that we were blessed in that way, but we as transwomen have limitations we need to understand this and embrace this. To protect ourselves. To stop our murders. Lets stop giving these people of hate an excuse to dismiss who we are so easily by killing us.I am sure I'll get many debaters on this, saying this is cowardly, but dear it's smart. Why throw away your life so easily? Why do you feel the need to give these people who you only knew of for that instant so much power on who we are? This issue goes on a lot with transmen also tricking women, violence is less in these instances, but please remember Brandon. Another young transperson wanting to be viewed as what he was. A man. He wanted to fall in love like everyone does, but loving under false pretenses under any admission will never work out. There are those rare and lucky cases where tricking did turn out good for the transmen and women, but don't base these rare chances on fact or your fate.


Lets talk about what we should do. Lets ignore the people that don't understand us on the streets, and put our anger towards getting our voices heard politically, by openminded supporters, and by each other. Lets stop hating on one another and focus this energy on getting transwomen and men jobs, oppurtunities, and equal rights. Lets try to figure out a plan to make sex work less of a stigma of what transsexuals are and do. Let transwomen and men that have the means open businesses and hire other transpeople. Many are doing this now, lets stick to doing this. Lets work on helping our weak and making them strong, instead of focusing on the people that would rather see us dead. Lets donate money to activist groups that are fighting for our rights in Washington, in our counties, and in our cities. My wish is to become more unified, caring, and helping community. Rather than a community that reads one another, becauase one girl is less transitioned than the next. My wish is the lover of transwomen and men stand with us to battle discrimination and oppression. My wish is to see less transsexuals having money for sex and more mainstream jobs. Even if it's just stripping. My wish is to bring our sisterhood and brotherhood together instead of transmen being on one side and transwomen on the other. Lets stop oppression now. Lets use our voices to uplift, instead of defending all the time. Most of all lets stop our murders, thast my wish.

XoXo

Kelly

GroobySteven
02-19-2008, 11:28 AM
Great post.

Next stop?? Watch out Obama.

MrsKellyPierce
02-19-2008, 12:45 PM
Thanks Steven :)

Hostile
02-19-2008, 12:49 PM
"Can't we all just get along". Nice dream but the worst thing to happen to a TS-girl is to escort and be around other TS-girls. I won't go into it any more so the crybabies don't start crying, but it is a great post. And Kelly I wish you peace in your life. You must have been having a moment, we all get them, I hope you are doing well.

Wombat
02-19-2008, 03:49 PM
I fear it will be a long path before full acceptance for the transgender community, though it is probably easier here in Australia as we have laws in place that protect sexual choice and freedom. It still isn't easy for the girls out here, but it is a start. They have if you will, ridden on the coat-tails of the gay and lesbian community and gained some level of acceptance. I have worked with some transgenders when I have done deskjobs within the Department of Defence (an equal opportunity employer). Our military has in place policy for recruitment of transgenders, but as yet none have chosen to join the military as a career option.

Violence has become an issue over the last few years here in Sydney, and that is due mainly to the 'straight' community coming into the night-club district of Oxford street and causing trouble, rather than deliberate targeting of gays and transgenders, but it is still a concern.
Its not a perfect world out here, like most countries we have our good and bad points, but we have done more than most to protect the rights of our citizens regardless of their sexual choices. There is still some way to go though.

My wish is to see less transsexuals having money for sex and more mainstream jobs. I am happy to say that I know as many transgenders working mainstream jobs as I do that work in the sex industry. Hopefully over the next few years this will trend will continue to increase as more reject being sex-workers for the daily grind the rest of us put up with.

The only way to improve the situation, as you pointed out, is to band together and lobby hard for equal-rights and opportunities. Educating the general population is important too, that crime against the 'queer' community is no less of a crime because they don't fit the norm.

muhmuh
02-20-2008, 12:07 AM
good post that appeals nicely to my idealistic side
sadly im in a bit of a fatalistic state of mind right now so my view atm is that this kind of utopia will never become real

and btw (sry im having a bit of a grammar nazi moment) its escalate kelly

whatsupwithat
02-20-2008, 12:55 AM
kelly...i'm speechless. what beautiful words and sentiments and ideas and calls for action.

and some of the follow up points on transsexual being thought of as a sexuality...bravo! talk about a misnomer. it's transGENDER for a reason. in truth, and if one were to truly look at it objectively, the men (and a few of the women) on this board would be transsexuals as others are bisexual, heterosexual, and homosexual.


once again, kelly...bravo!!! bravo!!!!! :)

whatsupwithat
02-20-2008, 12:57 AM
I just have to add...this thread makes feel all mushy and happy inside. You say you want a revolution? Hells yeah...let's bring it to them!!!

BeardedOne
02-20-2008, 01:28 AM
Whuf! :shock:

Really not sure what to say here.

In all honesty I tend to skip over a lot of your threads because they have historically been proven to be drivel (Please don't take offense at that, they just are, and I am sometimes guilty of the same). Yet, I read the first few words of this one and was stricken by the truth and feeling of your thoughts.

Your mention of Gwen Araujo and Brandon Teena were especially touching. Having had an intersexed lover at one time, such words hit particularly close to home. He was used and abused both from within and without his community. :cry:

I've been to a couple of the March on Washington events and Stonewall 25. I've walked The Mall and seen the quilts of friends I'll never know again. It's a grand dream and someday, hopefully in our lifetimes, we'll see it happen.




And, being the badass that I am: I agree with muhmuh, it's 'escalate'.

Arc-Angel
02-20-2008, 01:32 AM
:claps good stuff.

yodajazz
02-20-2008, 01:37 AM
Excellent post Kelly! I agree with all that you have said. I will it like this: How can we ask for greater acceptence from society, when we don't accept others similar to ourselves, or other who love us as we are?

It starts with the individual, and the individuals who feel something in common make up the community.

Nowhere
02-20-2008, 03:04 AM
I agree on it all, but you're going to need some politicians (and not trans-hating gays like Barney Frank) to champion this for anything to get done.

Personally, i'm amazed it's never been brought up. With the RAMPANT discrimination forcing girls to work the streets where they're protected by no one, including the police, where they're commonly murdered by clients, who the murderers then get off (often completely on a lesser charge), it's SO sellable (in a PR / political sense).

Anyway, it's good to hear more people passionate about it. All we need is one politican who has a heart (honestly, I have a searing hate for Barney Frank for being the first open abandoment of the t community by the lgb community in history), and it should work out fine.

One day...

trish
02-20-2008, 04:31 AM
thank you Kelly, for your thoughtful and heartfelt words. i think many of our hearts felt them. ignoring insults and slander is a tough row to hoe, as we all know from the hundred page dramas that unfold here at HA; but it's a sensible strategy.

MrsKellyPierce
02-20-2008, 07:03 AM
Thank you everyone. I'm glad you took something from it, even it it was bits and pieces. Yeah when I typed it I didn't proof read it, I typed it and hit submit. Like any of my other posts. I just wrote what was coming out of my head. It just all sort of came together.

And Eric I had the idea after we talked in the chatroom last night. :P

justatransgirl
02-20-2008, 10:59 AM
Hi Kelly - thank you for some wonderful comments.

Hugs,
TS Jamie :-)

ezed
02-21-2008, 07:34 AM
Kelly,
That was a great post! It should be read and re-read and taken to heart!
Your heart is a good one.

a994
02-21-2008, 07:45 PM
Stop Oppression. We can do it if we just be ourselves with out word slinging and violence. Why is it we transpeople feel we need to talk back to a group of guys that clocked us in public. Why do we need to esculate it so its another transsexuals death in vain. A beautiful individual working her/his way down the path of peace within her/his self. The peace they will never be allowed over an esculated argument or dating a man or woman under false pretenses. I'll go more into this topic later.

It's a minute out of our day that we were name called, but we have 23:59 to keep on your path and the rest of our lives. I say lets bury our pride and worry about ourselves and safety first. Too many transsexual deaths come from esculating the issue of hate. We think standing up and yelling back at the person/persons emotionally abruising us is going to make them change their mind or change what was said that made us so mad. I can tell you it wont. I have always believed you can always catch more bees with honey. When we decide to take part in the wordslinging it esculates the hate more. it gives them the catalyst to make it easier to physically harm us. Who knows if that day it will be a beating or death. Why play with fire people?


I don't get why we give these people filled with hate so much power over our lives? We should worry more about what we think of ourselves and what our loved ones think, before instigating a mob of haters. So they called us a fag, a man, a woman, a dyke, a pervert, or whatever lame attempt they can throw at us let them have it. In the end we know who we are and what path we are on. Let him have his view, if thats what it takes to keep us safe for another day. We still have our view, he has't taken it from us. The media hasn't stripped us of who we are, like they've done to so many of us. Hold dear to things in our life we value and love. Remember that tomorrow we most likely wont even remember the incident the day before. This keeps us safe and gives us the time we need to achieve our genders we need to be viewed as, live as, and love as. Esculating hate in an instant we can have this ripped away from us. Remember time is precious, life is precious, and lying on a morgue table still pre-operative is not a wish I have for myself. My wish is to get these men and women that have beat us and murdered us not have the option of a slap on the wrist with a thing called a sanity plea. That judicial systems finally start seeing these crimes as hate crimes. We need to stop giving these people the angle they need to be set free for our deaths.


Lastly with ladies and gentleman that go around tricking men and women on dates. I beg you to think of your actions before you keep practicing this habit. I realize you need to be treated as your gender, and maybe you think in your head you can't be treated solely as that gender if they know. I assure you this isn't true! Lets remember our dead. Lets remember the beautiful teen Gwen Araujo who played with fireand in the end was burnt. No she did not deserve this, she was a teen girl wanting to do what every teen girl does her age. It would be great that we were blessed in that way, but we as transwomen have limitations we need to understand this and embrace this. To protect ourselves. To stop our murders. Lets stop giving these people of hate an excuse to dismiss who we are so easily by killing us.I am sure I'll get many debaters on this, saying this is cowardly, but dear it's smart. Why throw away your life so easily? Why do you feel the need to give these people who you only knew of for that instant so much power on who we are? This issue goes on a lot with transmen also tricking women, violence is less in these instances, but please remember Brandon. Another young transperson wanting to be viewed as what he was. A man. He wanted to fall in love like everyone does, but loving under false pretenses under any admission will never work out. There are those rare and lucky cases where tricking did turn out good for the transmen and women, but don't base these rare chances on fact or your fate.


Lets talk about what we should do. Lets ignore the people that don't understand us on the streets, and put our anger towards getting our voices heard politically, by openminded supporters, and by each other. Lets stop hating on one another and focus this energy on getting transwomen and men jobs, oppurtunities, and equal rights. Lets try to figure out a plan to make sex work less of a stigma of what transsexuals are and do. Let transwomen and men that have the means open businesses and hire other transpeople. Many are doing this now, lets stick to doing this. Lets work on helping our weak and making them strong, instead of focusing on the people that would rather see us dead. Lets donate money to activist groups that are fighting for our rights in Washington, in our counties, and in our cities. My wish is to become more unified, caring, and helping community. Rather than a community that reads one another, becauase one girl is less transitioned than the next. My wish is the lover of transwomen and men stand with us to battle discrimination and oppression. My wish is to see less transsexuals having money for sex and more mainstream jobs. Even if it's just stripping. My wish is to bring our sisterhood and brotherhood together instead of transmen being on one side and transwomen on the other. Lets stop oppression now. Lets use our voices to uplift, instead of defending all the time. Most of all lets stop our murders, thast my wish.

XoXo

Kelly


Great post, Kelly.