(For the Gentlemen) Would you be able to handle a....

[JANIRA]

Relationship with a Tgirl who is a escort /adult business ? This thread arose , because I was asked "What will or what does your boyfriend think of you doing this"? I answered honestly, i am single, "By choice" , and i have been in relationships and it has cause some sort of chaotic episode,and also have been with someone who was totally accepting , because he knew how to separate " MY JOB, FROM MY PERSONAL LIFE" I know this is a very touchy subject for some of you, but i would love to hear some different point of views on this.

[Night Rider]

I wouldn't like it but I could deal with it. If it didn't ruin our sex life then I could tolerate it.

[JamesHunt]

Relationship with a Tgirl who is a escort /adult business ? This thread arose , because I was asked "What will or what does your boyfriend think of you doing this"? I answered honestly, i am single, "By choice" , and i have been in relationships and it has cause some sort of chaotic episode,and also have been with someone who was totally accepting , because he knew how to separate " MY JOB, FROM MY PERSONAL LIFE" I know this is a very touchy subject for some of you, but i would love to hear some different point of views on this.

Janira hun, I have re-logged into the forum to answer your question. If I hit it off with a GG/TG, who escorts, fucks 4 money etc... she would have to pack it in immediately. If she came out with the excuse that I my income couldn't support her lifestyle, she'd be dumped immediately. Hope this helps 8)

[xrey]

I would not / could not have relationship with ts or a gg who is in the adult industry. When I am in a relationship it is monogamous. The opportunity / potential for complications in a relationship are difficult but adding the strain of knowing your partner is having sex with someone else would be too difficult to bear.

One man's feelings on the subject. My hat is off to those who can sustain a relationship while in the business.

BTW, my reasoning has nothing to do with a lack of self-confidence or with low self-esteem.

[Night Rider]

I could if they bought me nice things :D

[tall, dark & Handsome]

If I could have sex with other people too it might be okay.

I was enaged to a stripper for two years- I was a stripper myself- and she was not jealous of the women I danced for and I wasn't jealous of the men she danced for. We once had a couple that wanted to sleep with us, but we never did.

after we broke up I kind of "dated" generous older women before my career took off about 7 years ago.

I think my college experience was a little different than most peoples :lol:

Sooo ...yea maybe it wouldn't be a big deal if all things were equal or we had an understanding

[TomSelis]

I'm a stingy mutherfucker, I couldn't do it. I could have a relationship with a girl that used to do it though.

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

I could if they bought me nice things :D

LOL So you mean, you would tolerate her escorting just because she buys you nice things (buying your silence with $)? LOL :?

~Kisses.

HTG

[TJ347]

I could do it, provided I didn't really care about her at all. But then, it wouldn't make sense to me to be involved with someone I didn't care about. So, I guess the answer is no. No, I couldn't do it.

[Fox]

I don't know. It might depend on how often she does it. If she makes her living off of it, probably not. I'm not entirely convinced that it won't interfere with the relationship. I don't like the idea of leaving so some chump can come and screw my girl, sorry. In a relationship like that, I think I'd want the opportunity to see other women while she's doing her thing, otherwise I think I'd feel... slighted. Ultimately, while she's doing it I think I'd be wasting my time.

By the way, I have absolutely nothing against girls who escort to make that paper. Do your thing.

[The Truth]

I tried it once but was not able to handle it. Too stressful on my part. I guess I'm too old to try it again.

[TomSelis]

One other thing, I can't stand condom breath. So that's a double no.

[slinky]

Are we only talking about Tgirls here, or anyone of any gender who is an escort/in the adult biz?

[lust4ts]

Yep, if she is hot, ambitious, cute and sassy, hell yeah!

[muhmuh]

to make it simple... no
if she did any of that in the past it would be a major issue for me as well

[JANIRA]

Are we only talking about Tgirls here, or anyone of any gender who is an escort/in the adult biz? "TGIRLS"

[JamesHunt]

Are we only talking about Tgirls here, or anyone of any gender who is an escort/in the adult biz? "TGIRLS"

Is there a difference, oh wait, LMFAO, this threads a wind up :lol:

[Ecstatic]

This question has come up before on the board, and I'll answer the same now as I have then: the only problem I would have with my girl escorting is with the dangers involved (disease and violence). The sex is a non-issue in and of itself; I don't equate love with sex, and would not feel threatened or inadequate in any way due to her having sex with clients. But I don't think I would ever be able to cope with the risks she would take either at contracting an STD or being physically assaulted.

Porn I would worry less about, so long as all the proper precautions were being taken and she was working with a reputable producer; I think the risks there are much lower.

[blckhaze]

probably not.
I'm can be a very jealous BF. key words are can be. If I see you kickin it a lil too well with another guy, i wont like it. I know you all have your good clients and close friends and i wouldnt try to spoil it, but I'm a aman who like having my girl to my damn self LOL If money isnt a problem for us, i'd ask you to stop.

[catpower]

This is a good question. Generally speaking, I would have to say that I would not date anyone in the adult industry. I just don't think that I could "share" my girlfriend with anyone else. However, this would really depend on how I felt towards the person, and how the person felt towards her job. (Is it all-encompassing? Does she get "attached" to her work? Etc.)

My default answer would be a big "no", but it really all depends on the person and the level of connection that we feel for one another. There are plenty of beautiful women who are not in the adult industry. Having a relationship with one who is would require someone very special.

[slinky]

Are we only talking about Tgirls here, or anyone of any gender who is an escort/in the adult biz? "TGIRLS"

Well, then the answer is "I think so" (if it were anyone of any gender, it would be "I know so and have").

One of the biggest problems dating someone who is an escort is that you almost always end up with this Catch-22: If you want them to leave the business, then you are a controlling asshole. But if you don't want them to leave the business, you are cold and uncaring, because "if you really loved me you couldn't deal with me doing this".

[JamesHunt]

[quote="JANIRA"][quote=Danny partridge]If you want them to leave the business, then you are a controlling asshole.

Not neccesarily, it's what she wants to hear, if you're worth it, LOL

[Floyd R]

I personally could not have a relationship with a woman that escorts.

[alphanumeric]

I would have to say no, I was in two relationships like that and it did bother me, but to honest what really broke us up was their drug use more than anything else.

[mbf]

I have been there.

in fact, after some time you will just ignore all the bad stuff that comes with it, simply bc you like/love your GF. I furthermore had the strong feeling she needed the feeling of beeing loved to balance out all the BS that comes with escorting.

but without an exit-strategy those relationships will NEVER work. the problem, like stated repeatedly before on this board is, an escort SHOULD save money and be planning seriously a career for the time after her prime. will she do it? according to what she says - yes - but in reality it didnt happen.

why? she was used to all the money and the spending, and wasnt able to change that disposition.

an addendum: as long as you havent been actually in a situation like the scenario described by the OP, you cant really asnwer the question meaningfully. you can "imagine" a lot of things, but when those imaginations become reality, its a whole different ballgame.

[gunn]

I would want you all for my self.No shearing

[Bluejay]

I can't be bothered to explain any more, but yes it can be done if you can seperate love and sex in your relationship.

[TheShyGuy]

NO way! A girl like that is for having fun with once in a while, not a relationship. A relationship is way more than just sex. For example, youre at the museum together or a game and she runs into a client or her phone is constantly ringing and each call is someone who's going to do your GIRL. It's not even like it's being "controlling". Just imagine wondering every time you have sex with her if she's been using protection and maybe if she slipped once...now you have it. Not to mention every time you kiss her...uggghh. gross.

[theone]

Honestly, I don't think I could.

I don't wish to be derogatory in my comment, however, I am a strong believer in committed monogamous relationships.

As had been mentioned before, I do not associate love with sex, yet I would be concerned about the potential risk for infection.

This is a very good thread Janira, and people have added some very good comments. Kudos to all.

[Night Rider]

I could if they bought me nice things :D

LOL So you mean, you would tolerate her escorting just because she buys you nice things (buying your silence with $)? LOL :?

~Kisses.

HTG

I was joking, I'd need to love her and all that emotional connection stuff :P But I wouldn't say no to a few gifts LOL

[wombat33]

Relationship with a Tgirl who is a escort /adult business ? This thread arose , because I was asked "What will or what does your boyfriend think of you doing this"? I answered honestly, i am single, "By choice" , and i have been in relationships and it has cause some sort of chaotic episode,and also have been with someone who was totally accepting , because he knew how to separate " MY JOB, FROM MY PERSONAL LIFE" I know this is a very touchy subject for some of you, but i would love to hear some different point of views on this.

I saw an escort a while back. I really really liked her as a person as well as a gorgeous creature.

I we became friends. I told her I would date her in a minute and would proudly walk awith her as my girl if she ever wanted. The escort thing would not bother me much at all except for the possibility of diseases.

Other than that I would be ok with it. I dated a stripper a long time ago. Not much different.

[DJ_Asia]

I dated a stripper a long time ago. Not much different.

Yeah except strippers cell phones arent ringing every two minutes.

[Night Rider]

I dated a stripper a long time ago. Not much different.

Yeah except strippers cell phones arent ringing every two minutes.

..and strippers don't come home smelling of cock

[goldtop]

I absolutely could not deal with it. I suspect my psyche is also too fragile to handle a relationship with someone who even used to escort

[BeardedOne]

I've had relationships with people in the sex industry and don't recall any issues about it. It helps that I am poly to begin with and try to gravitate towards people with a fair amount of intelligence and common sense (Therefore they are careful in their profession). Though these relationships changed and ended in various ways, it was never because of their chosen profession (At least not so far as I was concerned, I can't speak for their thoughts and feelings on the matter).

Of course, there is always a level of jealousy, as much a variety of any that relates to a home/work balance. "You love that job more than you love me!"

As to the phone ringing every five minutes: I'd expect my lover to have the courtesy and good sense to turn the damned thing off when they want some downtime.

[TJ347]

Shy Guy and braveman summed things up nicely, no? Well of course they did. And why hasn't a single man stepped up and said that he'd be willing to have a real relationship with an escort if, as some escorts have claimed, there are so many men willing to?

We didn't even need an episode of Myth Busters to disprove that theory...

[Night Rider]

99% of people that say they wouldn't have a relationaship with a stunning escort are lying....let's keep some reality in the subject.

8)

[GrimFusion]

Relationship with a Tgirl who is a escort /adult business ? This thread arose , because I was asked "What will or what does your boyfriend think of you doing this"? I answered honestly, i am single, "By choice" , and i have been in relationships and it has cause some sort of chaotic episode,and also have been with someone who was totally accepting , because he knew how to separate " MY JOB, FROM MY PERSONAL LIFE" I know this is a very touchy subject for some of you, but i would love to hear some different point of views on this.

Honestly, I don't think I could. I think any QUALITY dude that says he's OK with it is full of shit. There's a laundry list of reasons a dude would say "yes" but really mean "no".
He might think he cares about you enough that escorting wouldn't get in the way.
He may think things are good temporarily and a breakup may be inevitable anyhow, so why not say yes?
He might be so desperate or fetish-drawn that he says "yes" just to keep from losing her.
He might be a quality guy and actually think it just won't get in the way, but shit like that has a way of becoming a problem anyhow.

[redtiger]

I'll answer this question with a couple of questions.

If a TS should eventually find someone to be in a LTR with, chances are she's gonna pull down more money annually [from escorting] than he does at his job. Can the guy she's with handle her pulling down more money than him? Can she handle the idea of him making less money than she does?

[Night Rider]

All I will say is, some of the guys that say they wouldn't have a LTR with an escort, are the same guys drooling over them here.

[Tobe]

All I will say is, some of the guys that say they wouldn't have a LTR with an escort, are the same guys drooling over them here.

There's a big difference b/w drooling over a girl's picture and actually having a relationship with her. In a LTR, a person's personality and other qualities become more important than their appearance. I've known many smoking hot girls with whom I'd be miserable.

As far as having a relationship with an escort... It's hard enough to get a relationship to work well at baseline; the extra baggage is just asking for trouble: Emotional/attachment issues, STD risks, dangers of violence, etc.

Personally, I could not handle my girl being with someone else while also dating me. In this case, I don't believe that work can be separated from one's personal life effectively.

[TJ347]

I'll answer this question with a couple of questions.

If a TS should eventually find someone to be in a LTR with, chances are she's gonna pull down more money annually [from escorting] than he does at his job. Can the guy she's with handle her pulling down more money than him? Can she handle the idea of him making less money than she does?

Right from the start, you're assuming a TS is automatically going to be employed in the lucrative field of escorting, which is particularly interesting to me, but I'll move on with respect to that...

"Can the guy she's with handle her pulling down more money than him?" Obviously, it depends on the guy, and similarly it depends on the woman as to whether she could deal with him making less money than she does, but that's all really irrelevant. What's relevant is that the success of this possible LTR in the scenario you give is based entirely on money, and if the more traditional relationships between GGs and men are anything to go on, LTRs like that don't really work... even in cases where neither one is employed in the sex trade. Thus, we can expect that in a situation such as you've described, it'd be more of the same, though I'd imagine such a relationship would probably disintegrate faster. But then, when you consider the types of guys who get into these "relationships", they're looking to be taken care of anyway, so they'd probably stick around at least long enough to find someone else to mooch off of, rather than let their pride get in the way.

I was also going to reply to Night Rider's comment, but Tobe said it all really, so...

[JamesHunt]

99% of people that say they wouldn't have a relationaship with a stunning escort are lying....let's keep some reality in the subject.

8)

I assume this is a joke?

[Night Rider]

All I will say is, some of the guys that say they wouldn't have a LTR with an escort, are the same guys drooling over them here.

There's a big difference b/w drooling over a girl's picture and actually having a relationship with her. In a LTR, a person's personality and other qualities become more important than their appearance. I've known many smoking hot girls with whom I'd be miserable.

As far as having a relationship with an escort... It's hard enough to get a relationship to work well at baseline; the extra baggage is just asking for trouble: Emotional/attachment issues, STD risks, dangers of violence, etc.

Personally, I could not handle my girl being with someone else while also dating me. In this case, I don't believe that work can be separated from one's personal life effectively.

Maybe your the 1%, but I don't care what the rest say, If the sexiest escort (whoever that is) was to ask them out then they wouldn't decline. That goes for you too James, you're a heavey drooler...

Men don't care about the hang ups, it's in our genes to be shallow and not give a fuck.

[Fox]

All I will say is, some of the guys that say they wouldn't have a LTR with an escort, are the same guys drooling over them here.

There's a big difference b/w drooling over a girl's picture and actually having a relationship with her. In a LTR, a person's personality and other qualities become more important than their appearance. I've known many smoking hot girls with whom I'd be miserable.

As far as having a relationship with an escort... It's hard enough to get a relationship to work well at baseline; the extra baggage is just asking for trouble: Emotional/attachment issues, STD risks, dangers of violence, etc.

Personally, I could not handle my girl being with someone else while also dating me. In this case, I don't believe that work can be separated from one's personal life effectively.

Maybe your the 1%, but I don't care what the rest say, If the sexiest escort (whoever that is) was to ask them out then they wouldn't decline. That goes for you too James, you're a heavey drooler...

Men don't care about the hang ups, it's in our genes to be shallow and not give a fuck.

no u

[Night Rider]

All I will say is, some of the guys that say they wouldn't have a LTR with an escort, are the same guys drooling over them here.

There's a big difference b/w drooling over a girl's picture and actually having a relationship with her. In a LTR, a person's personality and other qualities become more important than their appearance. I've known many smoking hot girls with whom I'd be miserable.

As far as having a relationship with an escort... It's hard enough to get a relationship to work well at baseline; the extra baggage is just asking for trouble: Emotional/attachment issues, STD risks, dangers of violence, etc.

Personally, I could not handle my girl being with someone else while also dating me. In this case, I don't believe that work can be separated from one's personal life effectively.

Maybe your the 1%, but I don't care what the rest say, If the sexiest escort (whoever that is) was to ask them out then they wouldn't decline. That goes for you too James, you're a heavey drooler...

Men don't care about the hang ups, it's in our genes to be shallow and not give a fuck.

no u

I'm afraid you're in the minority, my friend. My statistics might be wrong, because I forgot where I was for a minute. There are a lot of closet homos that think and act like bitches, I'm not saying you're one of them.

[Fox]

Heh, either way, I was just looking for an excuse to post that. ;)

[Night Rider]

Well I'm glad you got that off your chest..

[yosi]

All I will say is, some of the guys that say they wouldn't have a LTR with an escort, are the same guys drooling over them here.

will YOU have LTR with a escort? 8)

[MacShreach]

I dated a stripper a long time ago. Not much different.

Yeah except strippers cell phones arent ringing every two minutes.

..and strippers don't come home smelling of cock

Maybe it's just me but smelling of arse is so much nastier....

But the answer is, yes, I have had relationships with escorts and continue to. I see them, we have a nice time, I fuck them, we talk some, I pay them. There's nothing in the john-whore arrangement says you can't have a relationship. But it will always be a john-whore relationship.

But a SO relationship with a working escort? No, I have never tried and never would. Sorry, she would have to stop.