suckseed
10-28-2007, 01:04 AM
I just got off the phone with my gf (well, she's just a friend now, but we're still close.) I previously mentioned that she told me last week that she was molested by a relative by marriage when she was a little girl. I have been thinking about this a lot this week, and while 35 years may have gone by so that it's too late to bring this guy to the attention of the authorities, when I asked her whether there was any chance the guy might still be in contact with children, she said yes, it's possible. She and her family are not close. They weren't supportive of her at all when she told them at age eighteen. When her father died and she said she didn't want to go to the memorial if Uncle ____ was going to be there they reacted as though she was simply grandstanding. Incredibly.
I'll cut to the chase. What I want to know is whether you all think it's a good idea to email the guy's church and warn them about him. I just feel like it's wrong to just say, "What a shame," and forget about it. What if he's still doing this at 70 or however old he is, and everyone thinks he's this great guy who's always available to watch the neighborhood's kids?
I asked her about it, and her reaction was that she didn't want to have to bring everything up and try to prove her claims, though she did agree with me that it's unconscionable to allow any more kids to be damaged by this creep. She told me that first time that she distinctly remembers another little girl coming up to her and telling her, 'that man just put his fingers inside me," and telling her, "Oh, he just does that." She was five years old.
Fuck, just talking about this is making me feel really angry. That fucking shithead.
So, what do you think? I could email them anonymously easily enough. I don't know his name or anything yet, but could probably get it from her. She's going to think about it and let me know.
And again - if you have kids, or someone you know does, please be aware and don't take any chances with them. I think it's got to be a twofold process - talking to kids about knowing their bodies are theirs alone, and not being sitting ducks for these people, and making sure the parents aren't being stupid about who has access to and privacy with their kids. From what my friend said to me, people are capable of being really naive about this. "Oh, Uncle Fred's a great guy...he'd never do anything like that!" Really? And how do you know? These people don't exactly advertise their thoughts.
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I'll cut to the chase. What I want to know is whether you all think it's a good idea to email the guy's church and warn them about him. I just feel like it's wrong to just say, "What a shame," and forget about it. What if he's still doing this at 70 or however old he is, and everyone thinks he's this great guy who's always available to watch the neighborhood's kids?
I asked her about it, and her reaction was that she didn't want to have to bring everything up and try to prove her claims, though she did agree with me that it's unconscionable to allow any more kids to be damaged by this creep. She told me that first time that she distinctly remembers another little girl coming up to her and telling her, 'that man just put his fingers inside me," and telling her, "Oh, he just does that." She was five years old.
Fuck, just talking about this is making me feel really angry. That fucking shithead.
So, what do you think? I could email them anonymously easily enough. I don't know his name or anything yet, but could probably get it from her. She's going to think about it and let me know.
And again - if you have kids, or someone you know does, please be aware and don't take any chances with them. I think it's got to be a twofold process - talking to kids about knowing their bodies are theirs alone, and not being sitting ducks for these people, and making sure the parents aren't being stupid about who has access to and privacy with their kids. From what my friend said to me, people are capable of being really naive about this. "Oh, Uncle Fred's a great guy...he'd never do anything like that!" Really? And how do you know? These people don't exactly advertise their thoughts.
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