Being turned down..

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

When liking and or wanting to hook up with a guy or girl (escort or not)..Then the guy or girl told you that you werent his/her type. Slams the door on you and or leave in a hurry..

Do you take it personal? Does that hurt your ego and pride and go beserk?

Or do you just walk away feeling "indifferent" and respect the guy's/girl's decision? How do you handle "rejection"?

LOL ;)

~Kisses.

HTG

[Trogdor]

Girl I knew for 4 years online. Had a real nice thing going and we finally agreed to meet.....the week I about to go and see her....she hooks up with some jerk from the army.

Never been so enraged in all my life. If you remember that bit in "Darkman" were Westlake spazes out, and tears up his makeshift lab, you'll get an idea.

Least the bitch paid for it though.....the jerk she eventually married, they got devorced and all she has to show for it is 20 or so extra pounds from the birthcontrol she was taking.

[south ov da border]

I've been turned down from my picture, but it wasn't a good picture. Haven't had any experience in person...

[rockit]

Well, some you win and some you loose

If you really like someone but they don`t like you, it hurts. But most people gets over it. And then we realise what a bastard he/she was for not liking me :wink:

[TomSelis]

Can't comment on the escort thing.

I've never been rejected at the door though, that's kind of tacky. Unless you mean the figurative "door." If I was literally rejected at the door, well that would be kinda fucked up. I can't see how that wouldn't hurt. If you went far enough to let the person get to your doorstep, you might as well go through with it, because you never know.

But if you're talking about the figurative door; that's alittle different. Sometimes you think you're in there and you're not. That could happen to anybody. I can't see how that wouldn't hurt either. Everybody has different standards and things they want out of a mate.

I wouldn't wreck a room or anything. I'd look at it as they did me a favor, because in a way that's better than them stringing you along. Someone being miserable with you can quickly transfer to you being misreable with them too.

[hondarobot]

When liking and or wanting to hook up with a guy or girl (escort or not)..Then the guy or girl told you that you werent his/her type. Slams the door on you and or leave in a hurry..

Do you take it personal? Does that hurt your ego and pride and go beserk?

Or do you just walk away feeling "indifferent" and respect the guy's/girl's decision? How do you handle "rejection"?

LOL ;)

~Kisses.

HTG

I remember a Kelly Shore post awhile back where she did that to some guy. I don't remember the exact details, but that probably did suck for that guy.

What can ya do? Move on and absorb the loss.

[jamesb121]

Go home and cry works for me.....

[slinky]

When liking and or wanting to hook up with a guy or girl (escort or not)..Then the guy or girl told you that you werent his/her type. Slams the door on you and or leave in a hurry..

Do you take it personal?
Yes.

Does that hurt your ego and pride?
Yes

and go beserk?
No

Or do you just walk away feeling "indifferent" and respect the guy's/girl's decision? How do you handle "rejection"?
Not well. So why do I go out to any of the events? I must have a strong masochistic streak.

[TheOne1]

its not about physical looks rejection.. its about rejection based off ones perception of yourself observed by others in which they categorize you into player/john/first timer/loser/broke/escort etc.

thats just an annoying rejection

[Willie Escalade]

It hurts a bit. No one likes rejection.

I get over it though when I realize there are others out there that will like me.

[mikey_stl]

I've had many blilnd dates with GGs who either a.) did not look like their picture; or b.) did not match their description; or c.) did not match the picture I had imagined in my mind. I would never walk away or slam the door. That's just rude. I'd be pleasant. Most of my blind dates have been short. When I was more into casual sex, sometimes I'd just try to seduce them, for the hell of it.

I've never really dated TGs. I've had a few sexual encounters with TGs I met in a bar or club or somewhere. I've also been to a few escorts. A couple of times I went to escorts that didn't really match their photos too well. I usually went through with it anyway, because I was horny and I generally hate to be rude to people.

I had one escort turn me down, but I don't know if it was that she didn't like my looks -- I'm not a bad-looking guy, not a hunk, but not bad looking. I went to her hotel room and knocked on the door. I knew she was in the room, because I could hear her on the other side of the door. She was probably looking at me out the peephole. I knocked several times, and she never answered. There was no doubt she was in there, because I had just called her 5 minutes before, and she said to come up.

Anyway, I didn't feel put out by it; in fact, I felt somewhat relieved. I figured someone who would have you come to her hotel, and then come up to her room, and not have the courtesy to at least answer the door would probably not be a very good lay. Wasting a half-hour in a wild goose chase was not as bad as wasting my money on a lousy lay.

[Trogdor]

I wouldn't wreck a room or anything. I'd look at it as they did me a favor, because in a way that's better than them stringing you along. Someone being miserable with you can quickly transfer to you being misreable with them too.

She did somewhat 'string me along', for I had to chat my way a bit to find out.

Here's pretty much how it went:

I knew she was planning on moving out of her mom's place once she found a room mate. Well, we're chatting that night, a night in early January '03, and we were going on about what was shakin' and she told me she finally found a place to move into with Stacey.

Now I was going in my mind, "Cool, she's a cute bisexual girl ( she was originally a lesbian, but she admited to me that I 'converted' her to go for dudes as well. ) and moved in with another girl.....things could end up getting qyute interesting when I visit her next week, if I'm lucky that is."

I asked her, "Cool, so when did you meet her?"
Guess what.....Stacey was a guy.........what sick, unloving nazis for parents would name their son Stacey? :what Anyhow, she tells me Stacey's a dude from the army she met just recently and they been seeing each other and moved in with him and were planning on getting married within a year.

Now, feeling as though all that was good in the world I held dear was yanked from me, slammed on the floor, stomped on, and then taken a large bowel movement on, I asked her why did she not tell me this before...since we were both planning on seeing each other and having an imtimate two weeks togather and having the time of our lives ( we even were considering doing body building togather and be one of those muscle couples, especially since my health was recovering big time )......all she said was 'sorry' and I asked, "So it's all over, huh?" She said, "Yea, I guess so." After spending 10 minutes trying to hold both the anger and the tears in, I let the cats out, since I did not want them to see what I needed to do enxt, I walked down to the basement, took the plates off the barbell on my weight bench, and started to wreck anything I could see. After stopping from exhaustion from swinging a 20 pound bar like Arnold in the Conan movies, I went to the liquer cabinet to make myself as drunk as I could possible......though after a bottle of wine and a Margarita, I was not even effected.

What enraged me the most of that night was that she did not even bother telling me about Mr. Army man she shakced up with.....plus the fact that I knew she really wanted to enter the army one day, and her just happening to hook up with someone from the Army ( probably trying to get in through him, since she tried once, and failed, since she was too shy to do the urine test ) made me feel like it was an act of convenice and greed she did here.....but still, the fact I seemed to her not importent enough to inform.....and more so since I was gonna see her within a couple of weeks and felt the previous 4 years have been one smeggin' waste of time and effort. :banghead

And once again, it turned out this 'great army man' she married was just another fish in a sea of losers, since I found out he was unfaithful to her, comfirming my belief that this was going to happen. And she, at age 22, got devorced.....and all she has to show for it is the fact he cheated on her and 20+ pounds from the birth control stuff she was on. :smh

She used to have a great body, looked hot ( she looked ALOT like that short haired brunette from the old VIP show Pamela Anderson did. ) and now, cause the smeghead she married did not wanna use a rubber, she now looks like one of those bull dykes one sees at the truck stops. She lost what could have been an good thing.....and she even tried to be all apologetic with me once before she discovered the infidelity.....I simply said, "Karma's gonna bit you on the rump" and put her on my ignore list and deleted her name all togather, and have not spoke to her ever since, and that was almost 3 years ago.

So, yea, I think I had a damned good reason to spaz out that night in the basement. Women can be sadisitic bitches, I tell you what. :2cent

[mbf]

I am very experienced in beeing rejected. I should give lectures.

on a more serious note: no, I dont take it personal. maybe a bit.

overall in that respect I am a bee. I just fly to the next blooming flower 8) :)

[Trogdor]

I am very experienced in beeing rejected. I should give lectures.

on a more serious note: no, I dont take it personal. maybe a bit.

overall in that respect I am a bee. I just fly to the next blooming flower 8) :)

Pity all we got in MI's these days are just weeds. :P

[mbf]

oh, did you notice? obviously the beloved girl-members of HA never get rejected.

lucky bitches :D

[Trogdor]

oh, did you notice? obviously the beloved girl-members of HA never get rejected.

lucky bitches :D

That's cause a cute chick does not need to really do much to get anyone. We guys have to do all the work, and they are the ones that decide.....


Just once, I'd like to see a chick go after a dude they want.....I mean I hear all about equal rights, but no one wants to use them. :roll:

[TheOne1]

oh, did you notice? obviously the beloved girl-members of HA never get rejected.

lucky bitches :D

That's cause a cute chick does not need to really do much to get anyone. We guys have to do all the work, and they are the ones that decide.....


Just once, I'd like to see a chick go after a dude they want.....I mean I hear all about equal rights, but no one wants to use them. :roll:

you think chicks don't go after guys they want?

i just don't think girls would post about their rejections...
when you girls here the line "sorry, my girl is meeting me here" and later that night that girl is your hotter friend that the same guy met after you approached...thats a rejection. :shrug

[JohnnyWalkerBlackLabel]

How do you handle "rejection"?



I don't handle it Hara, I learned to practice it quite well though..........

to anyone that has ever been rejected I feel your pain, I have seen too many people here in NYC get rejected enough to know well enough to let things happen to you rather than try to make them happen. This might not seem like the best solution but I've never had a problem getting a woman because I did not chase after a woman (GG or TS). Men listen up this concerns you more than you think: if a woman likes you she'll approach you, and if she likes you and doesn't approach you because she expects you to make the 1st move you might want to factor that in on whatever relationship you might have if you do pursue the chick in question; because that's not always a good thing...............

in Hara's OP she stated the case of and I quote:
Hara_Juku Tgirl wrote:
When liking and or wanting to hook up with a guy or girl (escort or not)..Then the guy or girl told you that you werent his/her type. Slams the door on you and or leave in a hurry..

Hara when a guy does this it's usually cold feet
he thought he might make a play to see if he could not pay to play (hehe Danny, I had to throw that in)
he gets off on playing games like that with women. If a woman does it the guy in question
looked different in low lighting at the club
is not better overall than the guy who just called or sent that text message

[mofungo]

I don't mind rejection at all. In the Buddhist sense there has to be light and dark; good and evil; black and white; right and wrong; rejection and acceptance; yin and yang. Without one, the other has no meaning.

[mbf]

[quote=mbf]oh, did you notice? obviously the beloved girl-members of HA never get rejected.

lucky bitches :D

i just don't think girls would post about their rejections...


of course not....thats due to "chick-pride" :lol:

[TJ347]

There was a girl once that I swore was the finest thing every to walk the earth, but despite my best efforts over the course of two years, she just wasn't interested.

Anyway, about seven years later I saw her, and boy, had time been cruel. She was fat, looked unbelievably tired, and had two kids in tow and another in a stroller. Turns out the type of guys she was attracted to weren't the kind who stayed around too long after busting a nut, and she was still living with her mom and working "here and there" to support her kids, as their dad (or dads, as the case might well be) was long gone.

Truth is, almost everytime I've been rejected by a woman, I've later come to thank my lucky stars. In some cases, later I came to see who they really were and what they were really about and was glad I never got involved with them, while in other cases their looks had faded to the point I wondered if they'd ever even been as attractive as I'd previously thought. Either way, where I thought I'd lost out before, turns out in the end, I won. Hurray for me.

[tsmandy]

I can't really imagine turning a client away at the door because I didn't like the way he looked, being a professional means (to me) leaving my personal preferences at home.

As for us HA girls never being rejected, I highly doubt thats true. I've certainly wanted to hook up with people and not had that work out, but I rarely make a play on someone unless I know I will get what I want. But I already have plenty on my dance card, so that probably helps.

[voy4her]

meh. If they dont want to play with you, why would you want to play with them. i got stalked for months by a girl i was too nice to initially. Now im pretty clear about my boundaries. And if a girl's not into me, its amazing how fast i lose interest.

[CORVETTEDUDE]

A. I don't do escorts, of any kind.
B. At a younger age, I would take it personally, to a hostile point, if rejected (not that I inflicted damage on that individual, but somebody was gonna get it). Now, I don't take they're bias, or prejudice personally. Nor do I bring up the question, "What's wrong with me?" I am very comfortable with who I am, and with my own company, if need be. Everyone is entitled to change their mind, at any time. One could be in the middle of an encounter (regardless of type), and have something strike them wrong, or against their standards...If it's time to go, it's time to go!

:soapbox

[Trogdor]

Well, I dunno about you, but I am gonna try one ifnal time. There's a girl in hawaii I knew since early 2004, and gonna see how it goes.

If this one turns out like all the others thus far, I'm tossing in the towel with GG's for good, and it's strictly TS/TG from then on.

[SXFX]

When liking and or wanting to hook up with a guy or girl (escort or not)..Then the guy or girl told you that you werent his/her type. Slams the door on you and or leave in a hurry..

Do you take it personal? Does that hurt your ego and pride and go beserk?

Or do you just walk away feeling "indifferent" and respect the guy's/girl's decision? How do you handle "rejection"?

LOL ;)

~Kisses.

HTG
Hell no!
1) Because I've said it to many girls.
2) I'm hot! I know! Because my mom said so! :D
In this life never ever take anything personally. Because it could allways be worse!

[Prospero]

In the pre-internet day there were a few occasions when i "made my excuses and left" when the girl was not what she claimed to be on the phone. Since the advent of on-line advertising it happens less often though there are still occasions where pics are fakes etc. The worst occasion - about 15 years ago - was when i showed up to see a girl. Was greeted at the dloor by a really rather beautiful boonde TS who usshered me indoors. Asked me to wait in the bedroom and then - when the door opened - in came a TV who looked like a trucker in a fright wig with five o'clock shadow. I said I had second thoughts and "she" said - tough cos you gotta pay or get beaten up by me and my boyfriend. I paid and ran. One other occasion this happened was with a RG who when i got there was drunk and when i said i was going scratched my favc with her nails. Bad vibes.

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

in Hara's OP she stated the case of and I quote:
Hara_Juku Tgirl wrote:
When liking and or wanting to hook up with a guy or girl (escort or not)..Then the guy or girl told you that you werent his/her type. Slams the door on you and or leave in a hurry..

Hara when a guy does this it's usually cold feet
he thought he might make a play to see if he could not pay to play (hehe Danny, I had to throw that in)
he gets off on playing games like that with women. If a woman does it the guy in question
looked different in low lighting at the club
is not better overall than the guy who just called or sent that text message



LOL I know JWBL. We learn from experience. Haha..

A guy rejected me once (he's gotten cold feet). Only to beg me months and months to come see him. I just simply said NO! I'd rather not deal with his issues and BS. :evil:

~Kisses.

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[ARMANIXXX]

I've had my fair share of rejections, typically at clubs, where I might ask a girl to dance or somethin and she says either, "I'm not dancing tonight" or "I'm ordering a drink right now" or the tried and true, "I've got a boyfriend".

*shrug*..........Onto the next.

[TJ347]

The other night, I'm hanging out at a bar and grill in Hamilton with some friends, and I get introduced to a girl who I'd previously been told thinks every guy in the world is attracted to her. She was pretty, but skinny as a rail, and over the course of five minutes of talking to her, I came to agree with what I'd originally been told... that she thought she was "all that".

I didn't talk to her for the rest of the night, until right before I was about to leave. One of my friends told me she had been asking about me, whether I had a girl or not, what I did for a living, etc., and so I gathered she figured she could get me if she was so inclined. Anyway, as I'm saying goodbye to everybody (the group included some ladies, one of whom I'm actually working on, if you follow), she pulls me aside and asks for my number. Now, the girl I'm trying to talk to is one of the people who told me this girl thinks she's the shit, and this girl is eyeing me closely, and is close enough to hear what's being said. Both because I know it'll help me in my dealings with her, and because I don't like girls who think they're irresistable to every straight man who draws breath, I tell this girl she's not my type, and she gives me the evil eye as I proceed to leave. Five minutes later, I get a call from the girl I do like, and wind up spending the better part of Friday evening with her.

My point? A pretty face may open doors, but a poor attitude can close them just as fast. Something some folks should really think about...

[andyuk]

i guess disapointed,but would have no hard feelings against the other person.
after all,if someone does not like rice or something,then they are not going to eat it. :)
thats life

[iloveshemales77]

cool storyTJ347! I hate girl-cunts who think every prick in the world wants to fuck them.

[Hara_Juku Tgirl]

i guess disapointed,but would have no hard feelings against the other person.
after all,if someone does not like rice or something,then they are not going to eat it. :)
thats life

True. But then who doesnt like steam rice..or fried rice? LOL :lol:

~Kisses.

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