giving girls flowers

[Tanuki]

So,,


I met a girl (gg) at a restaurant a few weeks ago and was instantly smitten.. She was my waitress. there was real repore. I week later I kept thinking about her and so I went in to the restaurant , asked when she works and they said she works fridays....

That next week I sent her a single red rose with a note that said "from your secret admirer!"

Now its one week later and my plan is to go in there tonight with a bouquet of flowers and give her my number.. however I am having severe cold feet issues about this..

its been two weeks since i say her last and at this point I dont even clearly remember what she looks like.. although I know when I was in her presence it felt right.. I know girls like flowers and that its romantic but its such a strange thing to do..

what do you think?

[tgirlzoe]

my personal opinion is that you should hold off on that bouquet of flowers. guys flirt with waitresses, it's a fact of life, i don't know why. it seems girls = :-) but girls + food = :-D!!! i'm just trying to see it from her perspective. bringing a bouquet of flowers can seem pushy.

i'd go with seeing her again, chatting her up, asking her what time she gets off of work, if perhaps she'd be interested in hanging out with you some time, etc. then, first date you can bring a small bouquet of flowers if you'd like ~ i think hand-picked is much better than bought, it's more meaningful and later you can find out her favorite flower and make sure there's plenty of those in there.

it's cute, how old are you?

[Jericho]

Do you know if she's single?
Could be awkward if you rush in with a bunch of flowers, and her boyfriend's the dishwasher! :shock:

[Tanuki]

Thanks for the input... I am 33..

The flower idea came from talking to some girl-friends about how to follow up the secret admirer rose..

THe girls I talk to about this are quite sure its a great idea. They think its super important i show up today so she is not wondering who it is..which i agree with..

When the rose was delivered last week, the florist, delivered personally. the florist called me afterward and told me that she was happy to get it and curious about who it was..

i think i am going to go for it.. it is awkward and probably retarded and embarrasing but, so what. maybe its funny enough, that i can get in and out without making a scene..
She is not wearing a ring and therefor she is fair game.

haha. damn I'm nervous..

[flabbybody]

I'm the worst with this, I have no balls picking up girls but my instincts say the bouquet could be overkill and may scare her away.

[Tanuki]

hahah. yeah. i know, flabby body, well , will see what happens i guess.


NO PAIN NO GAIN!!!!!

will report later.

[tgirlzoe]

I'm the worst with this, I have no balls picking up girls but my instincts say the bouquet could be overkill and may scare her away.

that's my fear, it does come on a bit strong.

[jniowa]

I'm not sure about the flowers I think it could be very awkward. But you are night, no pain no gain. I'm just too shy to ever try and pull something like that off. Good luck man, let us know how it goes!!

[SmashysmashY]

I don't think you should give a girl roses unless you slept with her sister. Seriously though, you want to find out if she's cool enough that you would hang out with her. You're putting the pussy on a pedestal bro. How do you know she's worth any of that? You should just talk to her first and then see if she meets your requirements.

[tsntx]

im interested to know how it goes... most likely tho, and sadly, youve scared her pretty bad and she has to be escorted to her car at night on the way home... not trying to be mean but i work in a resturant and we see "creepy" shit like this all the time... hence high turn over rates

[voy4her]

do it. the worst that could happen is she doesnt remember you and so maybe you dont eat there again. the best thing that could happen is you find your soulmate. So whats a little humbling on the path to happiness.

[TrueBeauty TS]

So,,


I met a girl (gg) at a restaurant a few weeks ago and was instantly smitten.. She was my waitress. there was real repore. I week later I kept thinking about her and so I went in to the restaurant , asked when she works and they said she works fridays....

That next week I sent her a single red rose with a note that said "from your secret admirer!"

Now its one week later and my plan is to go in there tonight with a bouquet of flowers and give her my number.. however I am having severe cold feet issues about this..

its been two weeks since i say her last and at this point I dont even clearly remember what she looks like.. although I know when I was in her presence it felt right.. I know girls like flowers and that its romantic but its such a strange thing to do..

what do you think?


Did you exchange names? Although it still may work out very well for you, I would have sent her the flower with your name and possibly an invitation for dinner/movie/whatever.

The "secret admirer" thing used to be romantic (I guess) but nowadays, it's a little creepy. A little stalker-ish. Especially if you wait too long to say who you are.

[Tanuki]

haha. welll i did it... it was a total disaster...

she had a boyfriend, and he was a few feet away as I was talking to her.... so , I left.. Had she not had a boyfriend I think it would have been fine.. In fact had he not been there at the time. I'm sure I would have been IN..


I did not realize that it was Friday the 13.. hahah damn
that was ridiculous.

It was embarrassing, but somehow, I didnt care,, she wasnt even that hot actually.. the first time I met her I was pretty drunk..

It took massive balls and I did it.. no worries..

[tgirlzoe]

i hoped you learned your lesson about hitting on waitresses.


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[Tanuki]

what lesson? oh.. dont hit on the waitress.

The only reason I went thru with it all was because I didnt want her worrying and looking over her shoulder..

I had to go in last night and diffuse the bomb.. it was all in good fun.

[flabbybody]

it's very tricky hitting on waitresses. they're a captive audience so if they think you're a creep, they can't really leave.
But I could kill myself for all the times I never even tried due to being a pussy. Congrats to tanuki for trying, even though the strategy was a bit flawed. He'll never have that 'what if I tried?' regret.

[justatransgirl]

I'd say before you make an ass out of yourself you need to get to know her a little more.

Go back and have another coffee and ASK her if she got the flower - tell her you are the secret admirer and ASK if she's single.

Otherwise honey you are verging on being a stalker which I'm sure wasn't your intention. But you never know how someone might react.

And not to change the subject, but asuming this has nothing to do with TS topics isn't this a question to ask on E-Harmony?

Hugs,
TS Jamie

[TrueBeauty TS]

It was embarrassing, but somehow, I didnt care,, she wasnt even that hot actually..

But if you had hit it off, I'll bet you would have said she was hot. :wink:





the first time I met her I was pretty drunk..



IMO, it's always best to meet & make first impressions with someone when you are sober.


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[Tanuki]

Like I said before,, I dont usually do things like this..

I definetly had the feeling that I was part of a bigger cosmic wave.. Something compelled me to behave this way. and I handled it with as much humor and humility as I could muster..

I was a little tipsy that first night.. but I was with a group of friends and we were all having fun sitting outside and eating and drinking.. The people I was with noticed the chemistry between me and the girl and I consulted my friends a million times throughout the course of this attempted seduction and they all told me to go for it. AND THEY all saw the chemistry happening. So I never felt like a stalker or anything.


* in regards to her beauty.. I mentioned she wasnt"that hot" well I am sure she is an attractive person or whatever but I can live without her. its not a diss to her. its just an observation that sort of tells me I can move on.


Giving a pretty girl some flowers is a good thing to do and I am glad I did it.

[CORVETTEDUDE]

Just remember, Tanuki, a good baseball player strikes out 70% of the time, and most of them, 80%. A boyfriend is a boyfriend!!! How do you feel about her, do you want to pursue a relationship with her? You need to first, be honest with yourself, about your feelings. You will then know what to do. :rock2

[Tanuki]

Thanks for the straightforward and Honest analysis from everyone here..

I am not going to keep chasing her. If its meant to be ,, its meant to be..

[CORVETTEDUDE]

No Balls, No Blue Chips!!!!

I don't think you should give a girl roses unless you slept with her sister. Seriously though, you want to find out if she's cool enough that you would hang out with her. You're putting the pussy on a pedestal bro. How do you know she's worth any of that? You should just talk to her first and then see if she meets your requirements.


Word. It could be that after a large meal, all your blood has flowed to your gut and you ain't thinking clearly. Beautiful women bringing you food is sure to cloud a young Jedi's judgement. Just keep talking to her. There've been plenty of times where I kept talking to a woman only to find out that she has a kid, has a prison record or just a bad outlook on life in general.

You better make sure your clock is right before you dish out the big 10 dollar bill for some roses.

[Realgirls4me]

Tanuki:

Damn. I wish I had read this thread before you went out and spent the money on flowers. I recently went through a similar experience a few months ago. In my case, she had treated me like royalty for close to a year before I finally gave in and bought her flowers for her birthday, with a card enclosed inviting her to dinner. To shorten a very, very longwinded story, the flowers arrived and stayed near the cashier's counter for three days, with every other waitress there keeping mum about it whenever they saw me(they all know me well); she had went out of state with some "friend" that weekend after telling me she would be at work. I overheard her talking with some older patrons the other day about how some guy took her to the beach and blah, blah, blah...

The woman is drop dead beautiful from an eastern block country(she looks like the woman featured in my "bestest" thread but slightly older), and initially I was not ready to get serious with her or anyone at this time for a myriad of reasons, my attraction to TS women standing. She treated me beyond the normal waitress/patron relationship to the point that I thought, well, why not go for it and see what it yields. In hindsight I should have looked for some other way beyond a pre-emptive $81.00 bouquet of yellow and red roses delivery to see if I really was that special to her, and not just another of her favorite male customers ... I was just another of her favorite male customers it turns out. I got trickfucked and I never saw it coming, though I wonder if she treated any others with the following: I never saw her blow kisses to any other guy; bring them free food just about everyday; fill their drinks when it wasn't her station; touch them as she did me; ask them to take her to Maui or shopping, etc. How does a guy ever know when it's just pleasantries being exchanged and the real thing? Did SHE cross the line? Someone tell me for future consideration, PLEASE!

This whole episode reminded me of some quote I read once somewhere. It goes something like this:

I'd rather be number one with an average girl, than number ten with a very beautiful one.

I would have told you to save your money, Tanuki, from not just my experience, but for other salient reasons others have pointed out upstream.

:)






By the way, cut her hair, narrow her nose just a bit, add a couple inches in height, and about 12 years, and you'd have my waitress. Uh, yes, the waitress has a better figure. Word.

[Realgirls4me]

Thanks for the straightforward and Honest analysis from everyone here..

I am not going to keep chasing her. If its meant to be ,, its meant to be..

I still go into the restaurant I had my experience in, only just not as often(It's close to work). After that happened, I avoided the place for about a month. I engage in small talk with the other girls there because they are still my friends and without fault in this matter, but I also avoid the waitress in question as much as I can without being obvious. When I do get her station, all small talk beyond salutations have been halted by yours truly. I refuse to be played again.

[Tanuki]

AWesome story, realgirls4you......

i only spent 14 bucks on flowers. 10 for the single rose. 4 for the bouquet..

Obviously there was some strategical errors in the plan I enacted but. I maintain and all those around me in real life agree. that it was an awesome thing to do..

yeah, ok, she had a boyfriend, but I tried.. so whatever..
hope this inspires you'll not to give a shit about what people think, and to follow your HEART>.

[Realgirls4me]

AWesome story, realgirls4you......

i only spent 14 bucks on flowers. 10 for the single rose. 4 for the bouquet..

Obviously there was some strategical errors in the plan I enacted but. I maintain and all those around me in real life agree. that it was an awesome thing to do..

yeah, ok, she had a boyfriend, but I tried.. so whatever..
hope this inspires you'll not to give a shit about what people think, and to follow your HEART>.

I gave you the abbreviated version, Tanuki. ...The only problem with following one's heart is that it is generally more pricey than following one's head.

By the way, I too thought of posting here for advice right before her birthday, but oh well, would've, could've, should've, huh ?

[Tanuki]

read this:

http://www.amazon.com/Game-Penetrating-Secret-Society-Artists/dp/0060554738

read it now,, thank me later

[Realgirls4me]

read this:

http://www.amazon.com/Game-Penetrating-Secret-Society-Artists/dp/0060554738

read it now,, thank me later

LOL!

I don't think I have any problem meeting women. If anything, maybe as my waitress episode illustrated, I just don't have that forthright or detective gene in me when it appears (operative term:"appears") a woman has the hots for me.

:)