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lights
01-30-2007, 10:52 PM
I just wanna say I'm just looking for advice NOT asking if I'm gay or bi, I have no one to talk to about this. And I really just need some guidance.

So far I have never been with a guy, but I do find myself turned on by guys and girls.

I first felt like that a few years ago. While I'm not really into porn I do watch every so often. Normally I focus on the girl, but this one time the guy got my attention. Good-looking guy and a nice dick.

I think we all know what happens when we are alone with porn LOL. Since than I have been turned on by both guys and girls, while I am more attatracted to women, a big dick is more more of a turn on.

Not long after that I started talking with guys online. Even though it was just talk I never got off like that in my life.

But see this is my dilema. I met this one guy on line and all he wanted was a blowjob and to fuck me. No relationship just sex. And that was perfect I wasn't looking for anything more.

In the end I just couldn't go through with it. This happened once more.

I'm not looking for a relationship. And honestly if I were to settle down it would be with a woman. I'm turned on by guys, but I'm not attarcted to them like I am women.

I'm not sure if this just fantasy or not. Anytime I had the chance in the end it didn't feel right.

Please don't take that wrong. By that I mean it just not what I wanted.

Honestly I have no one to confide in. And that makes it even harder. Should I just take the chance and meet a guy and take it from there?

When it comes to women I don't have this problem. And by the way no I'm not afraid I'll like guys so much and only wanna be with men. I am also attatracted to women. It would have to be one hell of a dick for me to forget women LOL. So it has nothing to do with that.

It's just every chance I get I just feel that it's wrong for me and not what I want, but I am still attacrted to guys as well.

So I don't know if it's just some fantasy or not.

I just need some advice.

BeardedOne
01-30-2007, 11:25 PM
Just to cover the bases... :lol:

A serious reply will follow.

Smog Boy
01-30-2007, 11:30 PM
You're not gay, bisexual, or pansexual. You're horny, that's it. Use protection. One day no-one will care, so sleep around.

Do you like lamps?

Vicki Richter
01-30-2007, 11:31 PM
I think you have a penis fetish. It has nothing to do with shemales, but some of the guys may relate to you. You don't care if the cock you suck is attached to Bill Clinton or Crystal Gayle... You just want cock. You're bi. Essentially, you are going to live with your fascination for the rest of your life. If you do it, you will do it again, and you will live a life cheating on your wife with cock... more than likely gay guys cocks since it is so easy to get. So there you have it.

None of what you said denoted a true fascination with shemales... you are just a cocksucker for all penises... probably the bigger the better... and that's OK. You can find plenty of that on gay.com.

BeardedOne
01-30-2007, 11:38 PM
OK, I made my light-hearted jab. That's done.

Advice...Hmm.

You clearly have some bi fantasies/issues, so it is simple logic that you might want to explore them. That's not a suggestion that you just run out and suck cock/get fucked right now/today. Simply an observation.

Bending your defintion of your own sexuality is not an easy thing. My own discoveries of my sexuality began in what most would term a 'molestation' yet, for me, was merely another rung on the ladder to discovering who I was and who/what I was most comfortable with in a sexual/intimate situation.

You have some options here, but weigh them carefully. Is there someone close to you (Male) that you have interest/feelings for that might have the same desire? Failing that, would you be up to a visit with an escort of the male persuasion (Depending on your geography, I can recommend someone that I think would be just right for this).

You seem to be interested in exploration, not so much relationship directed. That allows you some room to manuever socially, sexually, emotionally. Your interest in T-gurls shows some leanings of bisexuality (I don't give a rat's patoot about all of the 'Am I gay' threads), so perhaps it might be something you should explore.

Is this any help? Or izzit all 'Gibblegibbegibble' to you? Ask questions. Questions are good and if any of the assholes pipe up, you can usually tell the difference. :wink:

BeardedOne
01-30-2007, 11:41 PM
Dayum! :shock:

V-gurl's in a mood today.

What happened? Did someone poison your fish?

hondarobot
01-31-2007, 12:02 AM
I agree with VR 100% (yes, surprising no one). Take myself for example, I was hooking up with a professional drag performer years ago, I had sex with "her" in a variety of ways because I liked her. She wanted to start manning things up though, and I just didn't feel comfortable with that.

Honestly, even when she was in "girl" mode, things felt strange. A prejudice on my part, I suppose.

I've also been in bed with a real TS girl. That felt completely normal. If I wanted dick, I work at a place where it's literally everywhere.

I think this guy, and many guys, do like a girl to have a penis, and probably they would be OK having sex with men as well. It takes all types, but just chasing dick is not for me personally.

lights
01-31-2007, 12:43 AM
Thank you for your reply beardedone.

I don't have any friends who are gay, well I had one friend, but we had a major falling out. Nothing to do with any of this. But when we were friends he was interested, but I wasn't. Not sure again if it was just that I didn't like him like that or if it was I just didn't wanna do anything.

See that is why I am afriad to meet someone. I don't wanna meet some guy have everything go good, but in the end decide I don't wanna do anything sexual. I know how it feels to be led on so I don't wanna hurt somebodies feelings cause I am unsure if I wanna do it or it's just some fantasy.

As for an escort I have thought about that. But I have fallen on hard times so unless I meet the only free one not LOL not sure if I can swing that now.

Thanks again for taking the time to reply and offer advice


OK, I made my light-hearted jab. That's done.

Advice...Hmm.

You clearly have some bi fantasies/issues, so it is simple logic that you might want to explore them. That's not a suggestion that you just run out and suck cock/get fucked right now/today. Simply an observation.

Bending your defintion of your own sexuality is not an easy thing. My own discoveries of my sexuality began in what most would term a 'molestation' yet, for me, was merely another rung on the ladder to discovering who I was and who/what I was most comfortable with in a sexual/intimate situation.

You have some options here, but weigh them carefully. Is there someone close to you (Male) that you have interest/feelings for that might have the same desire? Failing that, would you be up to a visit with an escort of the male persuasion (Depending on your geography, I can recommend someone that I think would be just right for this).

You seem to be interested in exploration, not so much relationship directed. That allows you some room to manuever socially, sexually, emotionally. Your interest in T-gurls shows some leanings of bisexuality (I don't give a rat's patoot about all of the 'Am I gay' threads), so perhaps it might be something you should explore.

Is this any help? Or izzit all 'Gibblegibbegibble' to you? Ask questions. Questions are good and if any of the assholes pipe up, you can usually tell the difference. :wink: