Seriously, are there girls that really like to top guys?

[lexer]

It's a fantasy of almost all men here on the forum, personally. I like only porn scenes where the Tgirls top men but maybe at almost all tgirls don't like this in the real life.
Tgirls that really like top men exist?

[MrFanti]

Very many of them exist.
I'd debate that most trans women prefer "top men".

And obviously, those that go full SRS or want/plan to have SRS prefer "top men" as well.

[Will Riker]

Many T-girls like to top, for sure. For many of them, being bottoms is just a commercial matter.

Some of them have told me that convincing and topping an heterosexual male is a must for every TS.

I know a few that are addicted to top

[obslam]

Many T-girls like to top, for sure. For many of them, being bottoms is just a commercial matter.

Some of them have told me that convincing and topping an heterosexual male is a must for every TS.

I know a few that are addicted to top

You've got it the wrong way around for his question.

[Fitzcarraldo]

You've got it the wrong way around for his question.

His wording is weird. I think maybe he omitted a word. I think he meant "Are there girls that really like to top guys?"

[daltx_m]

I don't get why they don't ALL top. The penis is a great source of pleasure whether from getting a blow job to popping it in a pussy or pooper.

[Will Riker]

You've got it the wrong way around for his question.

And so, as you look so familiar to difficult questions, what should be the right way to answer to that philosophical question???

[furbygr]

All those big cocked brazilian girls are mostly into topping men

[corbindallas]

Just from personal experience, my ex was a "top". Didn't know obviously bc we never discussed it beforehand, but when it came time for intimacy she was quite dominant and naturally preferred topping.

So yeah, there's tops out there.

I see the comment about Brazilian women and many topping, and I think, generally speaking, there could be a cultural factor to it. For instance, I haven't met one white tgirl that was a top. I used to live in an area with a lot of Puerto Rican and Hispanic and those chicks were always just more dominant IMO. This always translated to them being tops or at least verse. Those women came from a more matriarchal culture so maybe that's why being top or more dominant in the relationship didn't threaten their femininity? That's my best guess. Whereas a lot of white chicks I know define femininity with being submissive for some reason.

[bigtrannylover]

You guys live in fantasy world! A trans doesn't become one to be topping guys, most of them top for "business" reasons hence a lot of guys pay them to be bottom but in reality transsexuals want to feel and be treated like women, so most of them would rather being bottom, not top.

[lexer]

I'm not really sure about your affirmation. Here someone had a girlfriend that liked o be top. Maybe they lied? The most part of them like to be bottom, it's true but not all tgirls how I can read... Interesting also the theory about Latinas!

[rodinuk]

Seriously, before you start accusing other members of this board of lying without any foundation whatsoever you should read, respond and clarify what you meant by the question is it as Fitzcarraldo reads it or not


His wording is weird. I think maybe he omitted a word. I think he meant "Are there girls that really like to top guys?"

[morim]

In my experience T-girls are girls, and almost all of them love to be trated as any other women. This extends to sex too.
In "porn" world they often top because they are asked to, but in real life they like bottom role.
As someone here told they haven't spent time, money and "mental health" (many girls had to fight against the word) to have, among other things, a sex life as a gay man (fucking with other gay men). They reason as women, they feel to be women, THEY ARE WOMEN.
Finally, they love to be loved by straight men (wich for sure do like to top them).

[Will Riker]

You guys live in fantasy world! A trans doesn't become one to be topping guys, most of them top for "business" reasons hence a lot of guys pay them to be bottom but in reality transsexuals want to feel and be treated like women, so most of them would rather being bottom, not top.

I would say that in some aspects this is quite controversial. The issue is much more ambiguous than one can suppose.

[lexer]

Rodinuk I hope that you really isn't accusing me, I' m saying the same thing. If someone is writing about an his experience, why shouldn't I believe them? I was replying to bigtrannylover.
About the question: my English is bad. I want simply know if there are some tgirls that really like to have an active role during sex with men and use their penis to penetrate their ass.
I think that the reply is not simple, Tgirls are girls but is also true that they have a working dick and a lot of pleasure comes from the use of it and a really free sex should be without mental limits...

[lexer]

They reason as women, they feel to be women, THEY ARE WOMEN.
Finally, they love to be loved by straight men (wich for sure do like to top them).

Nothing is totally black or white, there are many shades of grey, so I think that exist varous sexual tastes in men, Tgirl, women, transmen...

[broncofan]

Add the word "to" and the title means what he intends it to mean imo. "Seriously, are there girls that really like (to) top guys".

I think lexer doesn't see the ambiguity because english is not his first language but the body of his first post and his follow up posts indicate this is what he meant.

My two cents: there are some ts women who like to top but there are far fewer total tops than total bottoms. There are some top ts and they often have to deal with top men who are disappointed they don't bottom and tell them what should or should not affirm their femininity. I say this because I've seen it online over and over again. Men who are disappointed that the person they're attracted to doesn't like what they want them to like and then presume to tell them what they should like. I've also met plenty of ts' who were not escorts and said they are versatile, which means that they occasionally like to top and occasionally like to bottom. As a response to the initial question this does mean they like to top but that doesn't keep them from also enjoying bottoming.

[Lorca81]

Nothing is totally black or white, there are many shades of grey, so I think that exist varous sexual tastes in men, Tgirl, women, transmen...

You hit the nail on the head. Human sexuality is as nuanced people, which is to say there are infinite variations, because every person is unique. I've known trans women who exclusively top, exclusively bottom, or are versatile based on mood and interpersonal chemistry. So, yes, based on IRL experience, there are some trans women that really do like to top guys.

[Boldlygonedownbefore]

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[Torris]

I’m sure this will get me “cancelled”...

To paraphrase Cyndi Lauper Girls Just Want to Get Fucked.

Topping enhances their male side at the expense of their feminine transition

All those nine sissyfication training videos instruct budding sissies not to get hard at all.

[MrFanti]

I’m sure this will get me “cancelled”...

It's okay to speak your mind as long as it's the "right thing" to say......

That being said..
Need more information from the psychological aspect of trans women/trans men.....

[bigtrannylover]

I’m sure this will get me “cancelled”...

To paraphrase Cyndi Lauper Girls Just Want to Get Fucked.

Topping enhances their male side at the expense of their feminine transition

All those nine sissyfication training videos instruct budding sissies not to get hard at all.

You are absolutely right though. Transwomen want to take estrogen and stay feminine, they don't want to emphasise testosterone to keep their dicks hard to fuck hairy closet men.

[Torris]

I’m sure this will get me “cancelled”...

To paraphrase Cyndi Lauper Girls Just Want to Get Fucked.

Topping enhances their male side at the expense of their feminine transition

All those nine sissyfication training videos instruct budding sissies not to get hard at all.

Auto correct. Meant to say online sissyfication vids

[corbindallas]

You guys live in fantasy world! A trans doesn't become one to be topping guys, most of them top for "business" reasons hence a lot of guys pay them to be bottom but in reality transsexuals want to feel and be treated like women, so most of them would rather being bottom, not top.

It's not a fantasy world. I just explained real world experience. It seems like your knowledge on this subject is the one that is complete fantasy.

[bigtrannylover]

It's not a fantasy world. I just explained real world experience. It seems like your knowledge on this subject is the one that is complete fantasy.

My knowledge is based on reality. I've been with many famous pornstars and escorts that would consider "strictly top", plus I am currently dating one and they are all unanimous in saying that they top because that's what you closet bottom guys pay for. A transsexual wants to feel that she's a woman, they want to take hormones to become more feminine, they don't want to stop taking hormones to keep their dick hard to be fucking hairy closet homos.

[broncofan]

My knowledge is based on reality. I've been with many famous pornstars and escorts that would consider "strictly top", plus I am currently dating one and they are all unanimous in saying that they top because that's what you closet bottom guys pay for. A transsexual wants to feel that she's a woman, they want to take hormones to become more feminine, they don't want to stop taking hormones to keep their dick hard to be fucking hairy closet homos.
Your experience can't rule out other possibilities unless all ts like the same thing. There have been several transsexuals on this site who were total tops and continue to be in their personal lives. That includes Jesse Flores and Karabella (formerly Kayden Harley), who not only like to top but also don't enjoy bottoming. I've met several ts' who were not escorts, who were total tops and while it's less common than being a total bottom, you do see it.

I find the issue of who is gay and who is not to be pretty uninteresting but let's say you were right and that bottom men are gay but those men who top transsexuals are the epitome of straightness. Would that justify your pretty obvious homophobia? Even if you identify as straight there are many people who wouldn't consider you straight. Maybe insulting people who don't like what you like isn't the way to go.

[Torris]

You are absolutely right though. Transwomen want to take estrogen and stay feminine, they don't want to emphasise testosterone to keep their dicks hard to fuck hairy closet men.

I remember watching the show Disinformation with Richard Metzger. Early 2000’s episode about shemale porn. Third Gender etc. interviews with Gia Darling, Genesis P-Orridge of UK group Throbbing Gristle. B-roll footage of a young Vaniity and some of the early episode Rogue Adventures Brazilian girls

They interviewed a gorgeous trans hair dresser. She was excited to be asked out by a heterosexual man but disappointed when they became intimate the first thing he wanted to do was suck her cock

[Will Riker]

Your experience can't rule out other possibilities unless all ts like the same thing. There have been several transsexuals on this site who were total tops and continue to be in their personal lives. That includes Jesse Flores and Karabella (formerly Kayden Harley), who not only like to top but also don't enjoy bottoming. I've met several ts' who were not escorts, who were total tops and while it's less common than being a total bottom, you do see it.

I find the issue of who is gay and who is not to be pretty uninteresting but let's say you were right and that bottom men are gay but those men who top transsexuals are the epitome of straightness. Would that justify your pretty obvious homophobia? Even if you identify as straight there are many people who wouldn't consider you straight. Maybe insulting people who don't like what you like isn't the way to go.

Totally agree with Broncofan, as well as with Corbindallas.

A black & white approach, even when based on one´s own reality shows an insulting poor evaluation of such a complex issue. There are several forms of attraction, top or bottom, and Broncofan mentioned just Jesse Flores and Karabella, to name some of them. I could mention a few, as well, some total tops, like Viviane Aguilera, others who prefer to be top, like Camily Farias, or top & bottom, like, Gabriela Nicola and Mayara de Souza, my personal friends, the three of them.

Just to increase the discussion a little bit, and based on my own reality, as Bigtrannylover did, I have a transgirl friend who is an engeneer and rather beautiful and feminine, and out of the sex/escort spectrum, whose attraction goes to females, only. Never saw her interested in any male, but she is quite succesful with girls.

There´s no final word to this issue, I think.

[corbindallas]

My knowledge is based on reality. I've been with many famous pornstars and escorts

My point exactly. "Escorts and pornstars" lol. You can meet trans women in the real world who aren't in the line of work of fantasy and still top. Though I'd agree that probably most don't prefer it, it's not some universal thing. Again, most I've met are not in that line of work and majority were at least verse, and many liked to top.

Personally I like tgirls topping as more of a fantasy, and don't rly seek that in my personal life, but I still meet girls who enjoy topping so I just don't agree with you.

[corbindallas]

Totally agree with Broncofan, as well as with Corbindallas.

A black & white approach, even when based on one´s own reality shows an insulting poor evaluation of such a complex issue. There are several forms of attraction, top or bottom, and Broncofan mentioned just Jesse Flores and Karabella, to name some of them. I could mention a few, as well, some total tops, like Viviane Aguilera, others who prefer to be top, like Camily Farias, or top & bottom, like, Gabriela Nicola and Mayara de Souza, my personal friends, the three of them.

Just to increase the discussion a little bit, and based on my own reality, as Bigtrannylover did, I have a transgirl friend who is an engeneer and rather beautiful and feminine, and out of the sex/escort spectrum, whose attraction goes to females, only. Never saw her interested in any male, but she is quite succesful with girls.

There´s no final word to this issue, I think.

Well I think there is though. The question was are there girls that actually like to top. Yes. Definitively, yes. Lol.

[filghy2]

My knowledge is based on reality. I've been with many famous pornstars and escorts that would consider "strictly top", plus I am currently dating one and they are all unanimous in saying that they top because that's what you closet bottom guys pay for. A transsexual wants to feel that she's a woman, they want to take hormones to become more feminine, they don't want to stop taking hormones to keep their dick hard to be fucking hairy closet homos.

I don't think you need to be Sigmund Freud to work out the subtext here. The sad thing is that most straight people would probably not accept the distinction between 'straight' and 'gay' acts with trans that you are so desperate to make.

I'm curious as to whether you also avoid touching (or even looking at) transsexuals dicks because that would be perceived as gay, or have you somehow rationalised that to yourself as being straight?

[giovanni_hotel]

You wanna get regularly fucked in the ass?? I'd suggest you find a CD or DQ to service you.
Most transchicks simply do not want to top guys in their private life.

[lexer]

Really my ideal transgirl should be versatile. Sex is too beautiful to think "to be bottom is for gay" or for a tgirl "to be top is not for girls" etc.

[morim]

My knowledge is based on reality. I've been with many famous pornstars and escorts that would consider "strictly top", plus I am currently dating one and they are all unanimous in saying that they top because that's what you closet bottom guys pay for. A transsexual wants to feel that she's a woman, they want to take hormones to become more feminine, they don't want to stop taking hormones to keep their dick hard to be fucking hairy closet homos.


I agree!

[Torris]

You wanna get regularly fucked in the ass?? I'd suggest you find a CD or DQ to service you.
Most transchicks simply do not want to top guys in their private life.

What is a DQ?

[Will Riker]

Nothing beats the expertise, lol

[corbindallas]

What is a DQ?

Dairy Queen?

[Fitzcarraldo]

What is a DQ?

I'm gonna guess "drag queen."

[corbindallas]

I'd argue CDs are even more likely to be bottoms. Nearly every CD I see online is someone who identifies as a "sissy" and wants to get pounded out.

Lol that sounded funny. But no seriously. Check out Christians new sites. SOME TS top him, none of the CDs.

[Torris]

Dairy Queen?

My guess as well. Of course, Fitzcarraldo is correct. Seems so obvious now.

[filghy2]

You wanna get regularly fucked in the ass?? I'd suggest you find a CD or DQ to service you.
Most transchicks simply do not want to top guys in their private life.

Many (or even most) TS lovers are not interested in having sex with a CD or DQ because the perception that they are with a full-time female rather than a man dressed as a female is actually critical. If you think that guys who like to bottom must be happy to do so with anyone then you are just revealing your lack of understanding of the nuances of human sexuality.

I doubt that most people here are looking for a private relationship in any case. There is clearly no shortage of TS escorts willing to top for money. If they are willing to do that then I don't see why it should be anyone else's business whether that might reflect their true desires.

[filghy2]

Really my ideal transgirl should be versatile. Sex is too beautiful to think "to be bottom is for gay" or for a tgirl "to be top is not for girls" etc.

I fully understand that bottoming is not for everyone because many people don't find it pleasurable, especially in the beginning. What's a bit sad is people refusing to even try certain things because of some arbitrary distinction in their mind about certain things being gay.

Anyone who has sex with transsexuals is already transgressing the 'straight' world's boundaries on what constitutes normal sexuality - so why try to import the straight world's assumptions and apply them to the trans world? It seems to be a vain attempt to convince themselves that they can't be accused of being gay as long as they don't do certain things.

It's also disappointing that some members of the HA community are so willing to apply crude stereotypes to others, rather than accepting that transsexual attraction comes in many varieties. The trans community is already the victim of crude stereotyping by much of the 'straight' community, so you would think people would understand the need to avoid that here.

[njjohn]

I'd argue CDs are even more likely to be bottoms. Nearly every CD I see online is someone who identifies as a "sissy" and wants to get pounded out.

Lol that sounded funny. But no seriously. Check out Christians new sites. SOME TS top him, none of the CDs.

Yes is a cruel situation for us bottoms. CDs don't normally take hormones so they typically have raging hard ons but most are CDs to explore their feminine side. London seems to have many CDs that are happy to top. Looking forward to returning there soon.

[njjohn]

I saw a girl in Queens who was a top to the point of not wanting me to eat her ass because that would make her a bottom. Met another who was a top and preferred fucking GGs. Most Trans girls are what they are to be feminine but "being feminine" means different things to people.

[kaientai]

From coversations with Transgender women some want to be as feminine as possible but do enjoy using their dick

[RobRubenstard]

There are many of them in the cosmetics and fashion industry, our ideals!

[Ted54]

There are some that enjoy being a top , it's personal preference.

[yosi]

The guys who prefer to top , claim that most are bottoms
the guys who prefer to bottom , claim that most are tops...

live and let live and don't judge others who are different if you don't like to be jugded by others because you are different

[giovanni_hotel]

The guys who prefer to top , claim that most are bottoms
the guys who prefer to bottom , claim that most are tops...

live and let live and don't judge others who are different if you don't like to be jugded by others because you are different

Most transgirls prefer not to top. That's just facts.
Just like most CIS women don't like to wear a strapon and fuck men.

[lexer]

It's not the same thing. A strapon is not a dick, a girl can't try sexual please from it. The dick is hers, is a part of her body

[corbindallas]

Most transgirls prefer not to top. That's just facts.
Just like most CIS women don't like to wear a strapon and fuck men.

Terrible analogy

[yosi]

Most transgirls prefer not to top. That's just facts.
Just like most CIS women don't like to wear a strapon and fuck men.

The only facts are that these are rumors.....

depends on your own POV as a top

[Hufer]

As a vers guy myself. I been dating transwomen for 16 years now. I have been with over 70 girls about 15 or so were professional. But the rest were just girls I have met around in public or on transgenderdate. I would save it’s a good mix 25% bottom only 25% top only and 50% were vers. But that my experience.

[holzz]

i think it all depends on the person.
some escorts/porn stars top cos it's where the money is.
others yet just bottom when escorting.

[phillyguy21]

There are definitely trans women who enjoy topping. When I was younger, single, and better looking, I had the pleasure of sleeping with two sexy nonworking trans women. Both were VERY versatile, and enjoyed getting their dicks sucked and fucking me. A lot of these guys are going off of what they heard in mainstream or social media. Yes, I would agree that there are a lot of strictly bottom trans women. However, when you think about it, there are also a lot of strictly bottom men ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Like a previous poster said, I've never really understood the super strict bottom and top thing:
1. Projecting cisheteronormative standards onto some queer shit doesn't make sense, and
2. I hate when people put so many rules and restrictions on how to bust a nut (the main reason I hated the BDSM parties I went to). My sexual philosophy is just to do what feels good as long as everyone is consenting and of age ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

[Fitzcarraldo]

Notice how the girls aren't posting in this topic.

[lexer]

Yeah, Tgirls doesn't post in this topic but they posted in a similar topic opened some year ago. Maybe the girls that are one this forum have already told their opinion?

[BostonBad]

All those big cocked brazilian girls are mostly into topping men

I had one a few times and she fucked me real good. I could feel my insides shake. The deep hard fucking was great. She's the one that I had fuck me after I buttchugged a glass of wine and several ccs of Robutussin DM.

It's in the top 3 sexual experiences of my life.

[dirtrail]

Honestly, ALL the trans girls l’ve had experience with preferred to bottom. I prefer to top so it works out perfectly.

[njjohn]

I've seen a few girls who are exclusively a top with clients and only bottom with their boyfriends. If they're seeing clients daily I would think being a top would be far easier. Having to maintain anal hygiene everyday would be a pain in the ass, literally. Of course getting it up multiple times a day may become more difficult over time. GG escorts just need a bottle of lube and they're ready to go.

[SantaCamed]

Interesting Topic. I love the different opinions. And that's what they are right, even if someone quotes a life experience.
I wish there was a way to survey the girls to find out. A survey that would include questions like: Absolutely tops? Tops only for money? Likes to top and bottom? Prefers never to top?

I think it would suck to meet a girl who is topping but really prefers to bottom. Where's the passion in that?

[holzz]

i suspect a number of escorts/porn stars top for the money. i've seen interviews with Venus Lux and she says she tops on screen and in private. Mia Isabella mostly tops on screen but says she bottoms in private. pretty fascinating really, but we're all different. and it's not about being hung either - Venus and Mia are hung but Farrah Mills (she's retired from porn) is pretty hung (about 8/9") and says she only bottoms for private life.

[Luv2BTopped]

i suspect a number of escorts/porn stars top for the money. i've seen interviews with Venus Lux and she says she tops on screen and in private. Mia Isabella mostly tops on screen but says she bottoms in private. pretty fascinating really, but we're all different. and it's not about being hung either - Venus and Mia are hung but Farrah Mills (she's retired from porn but still escorts) is pretty hung (about 8/9") and says she only bottoms for escorting or her private life.

I believe Mia's OF account has barely a video or two of her topping. Most are solos or her bottoming so not sure if it's right to say Mia 'bottoms on screen'

[njjohn]

Just saw a girl that advertised as top, not versatile top, but top. While with her I tried to eat her ass but she kept saying I fuck your ass. Turns out she understood very little English and thought I wanted to fuck her. Once she got it she was all for it. Either she doesn't like to bottom or wasn't prepped to bottom.

[Jackal]

I've met trans women personally who prefer to top or only top (some famous, some not) and have also read about some who have that preference (Aspen Brooks)...they are probably a fraction of the population but it is wrong to say that they do not exist

[mikey_stl]

My experience, in reading persaonal ads, both from escorts and just normal ads, as well as from people that I've talked to, is that most trans women prefer to bottom. This is the same in the gay world. Most gay men prefer to bottom. Bottoms always seem to outnumber tops in both the trans world and the gay male world. I think most escorts are focused on serving their customers, rather than serving themselves.

There is also the fact that some trans women have psychological issues about their "male parts," and don't even like having them, much less using them.

With that said, there are a minority of trans women that do prefer to top.Those are rare, and if you find one, please introduce me.

[I_love_femboys]

I know several trans girls who are exclusively top. I would guess that most t-girls are bottoms or predominately bottom, but there are definitely tops out there.

[holzz]

I believe Mia's OF account has barely a video or two of her topping. Most are solos or her bottoming so not sure if it's right to say Mia 'bottoms on screen'

She's said so herself in many interviews. Maybe she tops now and then, but I don;'t know her, so won't question what she does in her own time.