It's a tired subject, Princess, but I will give you my thoughts nonetheless:
I enjoy being on both sides of the action, but I have to disagree with you here. If a man who is willing to lick a tgirls cock and then fuck her can be considered straight (and I will accept, for the sake of argument as much as anything, that he can) then why shouldn't a man who likes to be penetrated?
If this man did not consider himself straight then he would, as you say go to a "regular gay man". But tgirl admirers, whether they like to be tops, bottoms or versatile, are rarely into men. If we were, then life would probably be much easier for us, actually.
True, I understand that you might not want to top your man. And I think any man who is with you should respect that. But if he is willing to have sex with a person who has a cock, what difference does it make if he wants to be on top or bottom? Is a gay male top any straighter than a passive gay man?
Then you say that tgirls who enjoy topping are an exception to the rule, which I find ridiulous. In any case, who made this rule? There are no rules! We are no longer talking about male and female so why should we bother with labels like gay and straight?
You also don't understand why a man woul want to feel "titties on his back". The answer is, for the same reason that he would like to feel titties on his front. Tits excite men. We like to look at them, touch them, fuck them and suck them.
In any case, there are many positions that actually involve a tgirl and a man facing each other. Who says the tgirl has to be behind the man?
Furthermore, the real reason that men enjoy anal sex is unrelated to homosexuality. True, gay men get turned on by men. But physiologically anal sex is exciting becuase the prostate gets stimulated. This is why gay men, transexuals and many admirers enjoy anal sex, as do straight men who buy their women strapons. The lack of the prostate is also the reason why most women don't get too excited by anal sex. Many men can come from anal sex- most women cannot.
I think's it's ridiculous that transgendered women, who have been trying to fight labels all their lives turn around and blurt out things like this, using the same labels that they have been trying to fight.
Anyway, this subject is old and tiresome. If your're not happy with your man for various reasons, and from a previous post I take it that you're not, then I'm sorry. If he pretends to be faithful and to only want to be on top and then goes around, as you suggested, finding tgirls to penetrate him, he's a shit. But he's a shit not because of his sexual preferences, but because he's a liar.
And that is infinitely worse than being gay, straight, bi, into S&M, M&Ms, cheese and biscuits, snap, crackle and pop or whatever.
Kill the labels, Princess. They do us all more harm than good.
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