Does online dating make you depressed?

[Dahlia Babe Ailhad]

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Babe,
xoxo

[Jamie French]

I am an escort and I have no stake in this.

I agree with Jamie's conclusion, between the time intensive job and time consuming hobbies it is hard to see OP as having time date in the hopes for a serious relationship. I think if a person of average ability worked on it and put in the time, they could figure out connecting to other people, and figure out what you have to offer (38 is not too old to do this). But if you have not bothered to do this already, you should ask yourself what is different now? Is it worth the time? If someone isn't not interest in that kind of investment in personal growth, transactional sex might be the right call.

BTW, I'm not an escort, so I have no stake in this.

[Jericho]

#6..i skydive rock climb and ski and ride a motorcycle for fun.

You have time to do all that, but don't have time to drive into town, "to any decent bar where the folks look ok"?
I don't think you're depressed with online dating...Just depressed!

[fred41]

You have time to do all that, but don't have time to drive into town, "to any decent bar where the folks look ok"?
I don't think you're depressed with online dating...Just depressed!

yeah..I agree. I think depression is the problem here.

[lust4love]

Online dating...

It used to be a place for people who, for whatever reasons, had problems with real world dating, an online version of personal ads in the lonely hearts columns but that's no longer the case. Things were already changing but when Facebook arrived the tables turned, more or less over night.

Everyone (and their parents) was suddenly online and when they had joined their first community they kept joining others. People who less than a year ago could be described as "offline" were suddenly joining communities and forums about everything from steam engines and gardening to fitness and tantra sex. The online dating sites was invaded by a horde of people who had few or no problems finding partners for sex and/or relationships and suddenly the classic online daters had to compete with the people who once drove them to online dating.

The sad truth is that we are all in need, but not all are wanted. This is especially true for men. There will always be someone with better looks, higher salary, more expensive car, bigger biceps (and sixpack abs) or a bigger cock and he will do anything to cockblock you (and most likely succeed 9 times out of 10).

The dating game is depressing for anyone who is constantly rejected or ignored but IRL the tone is usually more civilized. When dating online you will be judged by your income, looks and your size long before you get a chance to show your fantastic personality. Your shortcomings might also be subject to laughter and ridicule.

Mr/Ms Fantastic will sometimes flat out tell you that you're ugly, laugh at your funny nose, hanging tits or small dick and the only way around it is to grow thicker skin.

A lot of people seem to have trouble taking rejections of any kind and they will come back with allegations, insults and even threats (e.g. a man threating to rape a woman just because she wasn't intererested), others will be polite and nice but keep on writing again and again until the polite "no thanks, you're not my type" turns into "Fuck off! Stop messaging me!".

Another thing that (mostly) men will find while looking for a partner online are prostitutes. A guy who is less than good looking, overweight, shy etc will attract people who hope to make money from you.

I'm a man going on 40, I'm fat, I'm poor and I haven't had sex in 6½ years. Chances are I'll never share my life nor my bed with anyone again. Seeing a prostitute is an option but I don't think I could, I just don't like the thought of paying someone to be with me. Online dating does not make me depressed, being an unlovable failure of a man does

[Jericho]

Slit Wrists!

Fuck me into a rancid hole in the ground!
If he wasn't depressed about it before, he's bleedin' well going to be now, aint he!

[lust4love]

Fuck me into a rancid hole in the ground!
If he wasn't depressed about it before, he's bleedin' well going to be now, aint he!

Nah, seems to me that OP have what it takes. If he adapts to the circumstances (it's basicly trial and error) he should be fine.

[wearboots4me]

You have time to do all that, but don't have time to drive into town, "to any decent bar where the folks look ok"?
I don't think you're depressed with online dating...Just depressed!

Agreed. I am thinking perhaps the OP feels unhappy with his life, and that is scaring away eligible women? Not trying to be critical, just trying to figure out what the issue is. And the part about "any decent bar where the folks look ok" makes him sound kind of snobbish. That may be just (mis) perception on my part, but if I am picking up on it, maybe others are too?

[SXFX]

It's funny someone mentioned yoga. And i've been practicing for gosh going on almost 10 years. And well in my last class i actually looked around for the first time in a long time while were were in "down dog" and i swear it was the funniest things, the 6 or so ladies to the left of me all had wedding rights the 4 to the right the same thing...and then i looked across and sure enough...wedding ring after wedding ring....and then it hit me...there i am...the only other guy in the room and every single woman in this class of 30 somethings is married...WOW! Talk about taking the wind out of your sails!

Sadly i live about 45 miles from NYC, and well....i get it...if a woman were educated, healthy and had her shit together and single she would be living in the city and not in the burbs. I however like a dumb ass sort of had my hopes up that i wasn't the only refugee out here? Turns out i was wrong...

So i guess i'm in the perfect storm of a situation, just far enough from the big city, just the right age where all of my friends are either married or married with kids...i had hoped that the power of technology would help me find others like me....sadly turns out i was wrong.

As for how bad is the dating pool out here in North West NJ......let's just say it's handsome! So as of today i deactivated my online dating profile and realized friends were of no help and now i'm just going to focus on work...hey it pays the bills....and every few weeks try this speed dating thing in NYC. if nothing it's something different.

[Dahlia Babe Ailhad]

Hi SXFX,

Maybe if you took a yoga class in the city and NOT in the burbs (where all the married families move to) you might find your new yoga partner.
Sexy yoga poses while in bed is hot.

I've done yoga. I used to date a yoga teacher.

I'll bet you a silver dollar that you'll trip over a new, female office employee in the New Year and she ends up being the sexiest lay you've ever had, who'll fall completely in love with your dick and your personality.

Crosses fingers for you.

Never stop smiling! Someone just might fall in love with your smile.

Babe,
xoxo