And then shit went south...

[SXFX]

OK a little about me.
I've dated two lovely TS girls in my life....one for about 6 months while at university and the other for about 3 months after my divorce which was god...5 years ago.
And sadly i was not ready to date after my divorce so the 3 month relationship though amazing with an absolutely gorgeous woman who was beautiful inside and out...went to shit because of me.

So lots of therapy and lots of drugs and finally i'm starting to feel normal...well what ever the fuck normal is...FYI anti depressants even a light ones really fucks with your dick so if your doctor puts you on them buy a case of viagra!...But i digress.

So, I'm back to dating and so i'm hitting tinder...what a waste...ok cupid...omg fucking kill me now....and then i see this girl okcupid....she's cute...i know her..she's a friend of a friend on facebook....so i message her and she seems nice but very acidic. Huh...odd...the last two TS girls i dated were very sweet to guys who weren't chasers.

I'm talking to her asking her out to dinner or coffee...in the light of day...not want to fuck or some repulsive shit like that....i'm being a decent human being and i just want to know her better because i really liked her profile. But shit you would have thought i was trying to get a lunch date with Madona....!

Eventually she says yes and she tells me to pick her up and what not. Look i'm not a rich guy. I work hard i have a good education and i think i make good money and i drive a nice car and i dress very well. So i figured...ok when i show up in my nice BMW and in my nice shirt and shoes and a smile and she sees that i am honest about just wanting to know her she may lighten up......or so i hoped!

So i drive to her place which is in a little rougher part of NYC but still very safe and very nice and she looks amazing really very cute girl rocking what i love girls to wear on a first date. A fitted white shirt and nice fitted blue jeans....and WTF is this...flip flops? ok i'm 5'8" she's like 5'7"...i'm fine with you rocking a nice pair of heals...WTF are you wearing flip flops for? Sigh...ok well what's that strike two?

next we have dinner and she's swings from being a girl i really want to know better to a girl where i'm like...HUH? I'm a relatively smart guy and i can understand people but this one is throwing me for a loop. amazing history of her family and her studies and her work and our mutual views of online dating being the south side of a very bad tailor park and then a quick flip and...very distant and acidic. Strike three?

And then it hit me....she was a performer. Be it i had seen a few videos of her and knew she was very attractive and a good dancer but...i just never put two and two together. Attitude and performing?

Ladies...take it from a non chaser. Yes i'm here but i like TS women as much as I love GG's...so i'm going to be honest with you. We non chaser guys do not understand this lip singing costume changing thing....and i'm pretty sure 99/100 of us do not like spending time with drama queens.

Yes, ok for the nights you perform you are in those few hours a rock star...ok great! And we non chasers like that you are like that and that you enjoy it and it's honestly an amazing hobby because it makes you happy and we like that. But come on....cut it out with the attitude.


Ladies who preform understand
1) We non chasers just don't get it...i mean i really don't get it....yeah you are dancing and it's nice but well i don't get it....and why are you lip singing? I don't get it.....is it a hobby? is it an act? i'm lost...

2) Turn off the attitude when you are not preforming and sitting across a table from us. I make a solid 6 figures via a real job. I hit the gym 3 times per week. I cook. I have my own place with a nice view and i'm STABLE with no neck tattoos....you want to attract a clean cut open minded kinky guy like me who wants to go out with you during the day light hours, introduce you to all his friends as his GF and one day introduce you to his mother? Turn off the attitude.

Will there be a date two? Honestly she is gorgeous! Amazing smile, amazing eyes, comes from a loving family, is educated and has a real job....and she smells great....and even the flip flops showed off her cute toes.

But...that attitude....it was too much for me...so much so that i didn't even kiss her good night. I was just thinking...if i kiss her will she give me attitude?

[saifan]

Where'd you go for dinner?

[Donkey]

SXFX, it's lip-synching, bro. Not lip singing.

You are right about most TS/TV who are into the drag queen thing have major attitude. Some of them truly believe they are stars.

Erica Andrews was one stage performer who was very cool outside the club. She rocked my world a few times many years ago.

[SXFX]

We went to some little Italian restaurant in hells kitchen. Really nice but not over the top. I live in NJ so for me it was an easy shot to shoot over pick her up drive down park and grab dinner and a drink.

Don't get me wrong i'm 100% sure she is the most amazing woman ever! Just her history of her family and education were amazing. So hard to find a girl who is educated and has a job and has a positive relationship with her family.

But sadly the acidity of the attitude....well.....i'm sorry.....i hate to be a dick but....i don't need that in my life nor do i have time for it.

Wish i could go back and correct the mistake i made 5 years ago with the gorgeous red headed TS doll who rocked my world for the better. Oh well...such is life.

[GroobySteven]

Yuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuup.

Plenty of awesome cool girls out there ... without attitude.

[tao1kiku]

Not exactly a stellar first date.

If one is invited out to dinner, wearing flips I think is a definite no no. And the mercurial nice/acidic/nice/acidic could be portent of things to come.

Nice decent guys have a bad habit of ignoring red flags, and my perception of your experience says those flags were waving in your face.

She probably is an amazing girl, on her good days. Are you willing to put up with her on all her bad days too?

[nysprod]

IMO the O.P. is still mentally disturbed on multiple levels...like there is so much dysfunction here it would take many more years to work it all thru, if it ever can be at all.

[Stavros]

Perhaps wearing flip-flops was her way of suggesting you buy her a pair of Louboutin?

[sunairco]

IMO the O.P. is still mentally disturbed on multiple levels...like there is so much dysfunction here it would take many more years to work it all thru, if it ever can be at all.

Mentally disturbed on multiple levels? You ever go through a divorce? I married at 20 and was divorced by 23 finally after 2 years of literal hell with a wife that went from my highschool sweetheart to a batshit insane BPD sociopath almost immediately after we got married. 5 years recovery from that? Hell, I didn't attempt to date until I was in my late 30's it was such a mindfuck. I didn't remarry until 21 years after my divorce. Cut the OP some slack here. I really feel for SXFX. I've been there. I know that torturous hell first hand. Getting back into the game is fucking hard and the older they get, the more baggage you have to deal with along with your own.

[Odelay]

Uhh, you might want to cut the references to yourself as a non-chaser. Saying it as many times as you do in print, and probably as many times as you say it to yourself, gives off the opposite vibe.