Coming out in a marriage

[Steffani]

I don't think people here will be able to provide much insight because no one is gay here.

well said,

and if I may, everything is concrete and black and white too

[bte]

If you've ever spent the time on the web on litterature and read coming out stories of people that were married, you see a recurring trend.

Women generally consider themselves a betrayed victim if their husband comes out as gay. However if a woman does, she discovers herself and either claims that she suffered in silence for the children't sake or is compelled to move on. Her spouse has no right to consider himself betrayed.

Why the double standard? Speaking as a guy, you either know if you're gay by your teens or not. I'll allow that for women, sexuality isn't so concrete. But to knowingly enter into a marriage with your sexuality in question is a fraud by either sex.

Didn't you just say a double standard in stating that guys know they are bi or gay by our teens and that for girls its not that simple. Sounds like a double standard in my opinion.