Etiquette when talking to TS ladies

[i_wuv_shemales]

As a person who has had limited contact (that is, held a conversation, etc. As a New Yorker I'm sure I've ridden the train with several and have not known it) with shemales, I am more than a little unfamiliar with how to converse with one. I was hoping some of you awesome people would take the time to answer a few questions of mine:

For starters, what do you ladies really prefer to be called? No matter what I always think of a TS/Tranny/Shemale as female. I always think to myself "wow, she's hot" whenever I see a real beauty. But all the nicknames, terms, and abbreviations can get a bit confusing. Sometimes I see the abbreviated TS, sometimes tranny, and others shemale. I would like to know what the majority of you ladies prefer to be called because I'm all about respect and would like to refer to and address you in the way that you are most comfortable with.

Secondly -- and this is what drove me to make this post -- I was curious about how one goes about asking some rather personal questions when one is engaged in a conversation with a TS and it seems that things might escalate, resulting in the prospect of adjourning to a more intimate setting. What is the most respectful way to ask a TS if they're "post" or "pre"? Or is it not respectful at all? What about asking them if their "equipment" is functional? Or how well endowed they are? I can imagine some of you giggling at my naïveté, but you have to admit the process of courtship/propositioning regarding TSes differs -- if even slightly -- from that of the male-female process. For example, a man, conversing with a female in a club, would never (hopefully) ask her whether she's ocean wet or Sahara dry, whether her labia are flappy or discrete, or if she's shaved or boasting a landing strip. Obviously the nature of the conversation has a lot to do with what kind of information you get out of a person, but there's a difference between a candid conversation, flirting, and propositioning, and I would really like to know what the best way is to ask questions of this nature.

As always, thank you very much in advance for your replies.

-IWS

[NYCe]

Don't use the term shemale.

[rvince]

What is the most respectful way to ask a TS if they're "post" or "pre"? Or is it not respectful at all? What about asking them if their "equipment" is functional? Or how well endowed they are? I can imagine some of you giggling at my naïveté, but you have to admit the process of courtship/propositioning regarding TSes differs -- if even slightly -- from that of the male-female process. For example, a man, conversing with a female in a club, would never (hopefully) ask her whether she's ocean wet or Sahara dry, whether her labia are flappy or discrete, or if she's shaved or boasting a landing strip.

you pretty much answered yourself with the analogy with genetic girls. There's no "respectful way" to ask unless she brought the topic herself.

If her being hung and functional is that important to you, shell out $300 to an escort, and you'll have the right to ask. But if you're not interested into "just sex", then it really doesn't matter because you'll know soon enough should the answer ever matter to you...

[flabbybody]

you've answered your own question.
if you think something is too personal to ask a gg in a club, why would you think it's OK to ask a tg?

[Ralph Lauren]

This question is asked in a manner that assumes transsexuals are some kind of creature that should be handled differently from regular human beings. Perhaps the best way to talk to a transsexual is the way you'd talk to someone of the opposite sex.

[TrueBeauty TS]

All good replies so far.....



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[blckhaze]

Don't use the term shemale.

or tranny


Frankly use common sense, and approach her with honesty. If all you want is a fuck, say so. you'd be surprised sometimes.

[i_wuv_shemales]

If her being hung and functional is that important to you, shell out $300 to an escort, and you'll have the right to ask. But if you're not interested into "just sex", then it really doesn't matter because you'll know soon enough should the answer ever matter to you...

See, that is VERY true and I wholeheartedly agree. But what about when it comes to Pre and Post-op shemales? I'm not a person who is just into these ladies for "fantasy" as discussed to death on these forums. I would love a relationship with one (not to be confused with freeloaderus secretus, I mean what I mean). And I am not a shallow person, though some may take what I am about to say as "shallow": Though I respect ALL trannies, I would prefer to be with a pre-op because that is my preference. When it comes to "normal" (and i hate to use that word, believe me) male-female relations, the anatomy of the opposite sex is well-known and there is no guesswork.

However, transsexuals come in two main varieties and for those who have a preference it can be difficult to discern between the two. Of course it is possible to fall in love with someone that may/may not have something you don't expect. It happens all the time. In the end, it's up to the individual to decide whether they will stay that way or let their hearts go free.

You helped answer my question and I thank you.

[TSLoverUK999]

If her being hung and functional is that important to you, shell out $300 to an escort, and you'll have the right to ask. But if you're not interested into "just sex", then it really doesn't matter because you'll know soon enough should the answer ever matter to you...

See, that is VERY true and I wholeheartedly agree. But what about when it comes to Pre and Post-op shemales? I'm not a person who is just into these ladies for "fantasy" as discussed to death on these forums. I would love a relationship with one (not to be confused with freeloaderus secretus, I mean what I mean). And I am not a shallow person, though some may take what I am about to say as "shallow": Though I respect ALL trannies, I would prefer to be with a pre-op because that is my preference. When it comes to "normal" (and i hate to use that word, believe me) male-female relations, the anatomy of the opposite sex is well-known and there is no guesswork.

However, transsexuals come in two main varieties and for those who have a preference it can be difficult to discern between the two. Of course it is possible to fall in love with someone that may/may not have something you don't expect. It happens all the time. In the end, it's up to the individual to decide whether they will stay that way or let their hearts go free.

You helped answer my question and I thank you.

Again you've answered your own question.

[i_wuv_shemales]

Don't use the term shemale.

or tranny

This question is asked in a manner that assumes transsexuals are some kind of creature that should be handled differently from regular human beings.

I'm sorry, but I am still confused. First of all, some of you completely missed the fact that I have nothing but respect for these ladies so I'm NOT treating them like creatures. Nor did I say anywhere that all I want is sex. I had two questions, and one of them was to help myself understand what term these ladies prefer. That's all. Now one of you said don't use shemale. That's out. Then another says "don't use tranny". Ok. So why do I see these words used everywhere, from the very ladies themselves when they post about events or on flyers? It's all very confusing.

Also, I will not stand for someone twisting my words out to make it seem like I think these ladies are something other than human. So please don't try it. I have already said that I am new to this "world" so to speak, and I want to join it as a respectful admirer of these wonderdul ladies.