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12-10-2011 #101
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Re: Is it really so bad to live your entire life alone?
Why are you such a hypocrite? You haven't given the slightest inch in regard to your position, and you think I'm the arrogant one?!
I hope that anyone impartial reading this thread can see how negative people cannot stand even a tiny hint of positivity in their dreary little world...
I'm not a narcissist, I simply refuse to conform to your bullshit hopeless view of life.
And I gave advice to someone who asked for it - I'm not inflicting my views on anyone. If you want Bella to just accept being alone, then you're not really helping her at all. This is my opinion... it seems to be you who cannot accept that, not me.
Last edited by loveboof; 12-10-2011 at 11:10 PM.
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12-10-2011 #102
Re: Is it really so bad to live your entire life alone?
Yvonne, it's perfectly OK to internalize this as it's an issue most of us share. Loneliness is a common problem people face, especially those of us who live outside the mainstream (even if some of us still have one foot in - sometimes it even makes it worse).
And it's good to be confused about it, because that means your emotions still work. Last nite, I asked another girl from here on the board, in private, if she still cries when she get sad. Her answer was the same and mine and not the slightest bit unexpected. It was 'no' of course. Many of us can still cry in frustration and things of that sort, but there comes a point where you get used to the melancholy and it becomes more difficult to release it.
As has been said repeatedly by both me and a few others, this was more of an exploratory topic and me venting than one intended to make anyone feel depressed. It's just that time of year.
I'm a pretty moody bitch. I think I for one do that pretty well in a figurative, subconscious way. If people communicated better, more of them would do this, too. It's only fair to the people around them.
You got it. Sometimes you just need to bitch. That doesn't mean you necessarily expect results.
But the reason for my post was two-fold. One was that one and the other was that I really wanted to put some ideas out there to discuss on this topic as sensitive threads aren't generally handled well by the members of this community. And yes, I'm aware that I've been guilty of it too, but in my case, at least everyone now knows why.
Call it a holiday gift to myself.
That's not it at all. It's that you're trying to put blame on me for feeling negative when negativity has been the sum of my experiences. If that wasn't the case for you, congratulations, but that doesn't make your view right, it only makes it right for you based on your experiences.
So the issue isn't 'a tiny hint of positivity.' It's the way you're insisting on a wholly optimistic outlook when everyone here may not be capable of sharing it. You belittle the experiences and feelings of those of us who have had it rougher than you, whether you realize it or not.
I'm happy for you if you were lucky enough to have a life in which trust was taken for granted in a good way, but we don't all live in your world and protection from that which would hurt us requires discretion, not random, thoughtless, and possibly dangerous openness to people after so many have betrayed our trust.
This isn't about opening up emotionally, it's about whether or not it's safe to trust people with information that they could use to make your life worse. To hell with a broken heart; I've suffered plenty of those, but it's hard to trust people when they go out of their way to use private information that you've given them to make your whole life hell (i.e. outing secrets, using insider information to manipulate or destroy)... and they do so all the time. Government and trade secrets, copyrights and patents, they all exist for a reason. If that weren't the case, then why do we have an FTC and the CIA? Because people have proven that they can be trusted?
And yes, I'm aware that that last statement sounds weird coming from a freedom-loving, Libertarian capitalist, but at the same time, there have to be some kind of rules to keep people honest (like Glass-Steagall... ugh). Freedom doesn't mean you can go around killing people or robbing banks (although the latter might be considered revenge these days).
~BB~
Last edited by BellaBellucci; 12-10-2011 at 11:01 PM.
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12-10-2011 #103
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Re: Is it really so bad to live your entire life alone?
You are the sum of your experiences. Couldn't sum everything up any better.
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12-10-2011 #104
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Re: Is it really so bad to live your entire life alone?
I never said this thread was a cry for help, that was runningoveryourdreams fail interpretation of what I said.
I said you wouldn't have made it unless some part of you still wanted to be hopeful. I still believe this.
Also, I have not belittled anyone's experiences at all - and I resent the implication. We all have our own shit to deal with, and you have no way of knowing how 'easy' I've had it...
You want to ignore my advice?.. fine. But don't fool yourself into thinking you don't have any options - that's just a load of cack. And don't fool yourself into thinking you're taking the hard route (because you're so strong) - also bollocks.
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12-10-2011 #105
Re: Is it really so bad to live your entire life alone?
I actually like people but hate when they try to get too close. I hardly let anyone in my inner circle. My ex, who I've known 12 years and still love, knows more about me than anyone but still knows nothing and she's a Psychologist.
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12-11-2011 #106
Re: Is it really so bad to live your entire life alone?
Excuse me, but if you're arguing that people can be trusted on the basis of your positive experiences, then by doing so, you are saying that you've have had positive experiences, so yes, I'd say that means you've had it easier than the rest of us who don't have the luxury of being able to grant such easy trust. How do you not understand that?
And I'm not ignoring your advice. I've considered it, and I don't agree with your assessment.
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12-11-2011 #107
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12-11-2011 #108
Re: Is it really so bad to live your entire life alone?
You didn't. So that means either you did have it easier and you're just being coy, or you're a glutton for punishment, because if you had really gone through misery, you would know better than to trust so easily. That's kinda my whole point.
I think you're arguing just to argue now. Nobody ever says, 'I was abused by the people closest to me my entire life, but hey, do you want to hear my deepest, darkest secrets?'
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12-11-2011 #109
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Re: Is it really so bad to live your entire life alone?
Well my whole point has been wilfully avoided by you and others, as you fling obstacles in my path lol. But I'm not so easily distracted or deflected..
My point has consistently been that it is not easy to trust people when you've been hurt in the past. And that is why it takes strength.
My life hasn't been 'misery', but it hasn't always been easy either. If that helps you qualify my opinion (or disregard it), then fine. But please don't misconstrue my words simply because you disagree with them.
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12-11-2011 #110
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Re: Is it really so bad to live your entire life alone?
That was a powerful posting. I believe I just gained a whole new understanding into who you are, or at least who you portray yourself to us. And I believe they are one in the same. That was a lot for you to tell in public. In my original post, I wanted to say that many others who have gone through your kind of hell would have put a bullit through their heads by now. But it seemed a bit too strong for the moment.
I want to give you a hug and tell you every thing will be all right. But that is not what you are looking for. I may not be in your shoes, but we have all had hardships to bare. So as I may not have gone through your hell, I can at least understand how life has hurt you, and only wish the best for you.
I know we did not get off on the right foot in the past, but I am glad we left it in the past where it belongs. You're OK Bella.
A TGirl is very special.
She is a gift to be treasured.
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