New here and need some thoughts on myself...

[Fitzcarraldo]

Logically I have always assumed they are mentally ill due to the fact they are trying to be something they pretty much can never be. This may be ignorant, something I am just now starting to realize. I am sorry if such a belief offends people, I truly am. This is just always what I have thought.

I'm new here myself, but I can see you've got a lot to learn. I can also see you'll get nowhere referring to the reason for this board as mental illness.

Maybe try asking questions to understand instead of stating your assumptions.

[Lester316]

I'll just leave you with this. There is a difference between attraction (what is what makes someone heterosexual, homosexual, or bisexual) and sexual pleasure.

Also I'm not "attempting to rationalize" anything. Once more the whole reason that this subject interests me is because yes I like cock, but am attracted to the females physical form and not the males. I'm sorry is this really that hard for you to understand?

Oh and once more this thread is about my conflicting morals regarding trans people. My beliefs that they are mentally ill vs my desire to possibly be with one someday. Because those two things do not go together. This thread is not about my sexuality that's something I figured out awhile ago and am at peace with. I mean believe what you want but as any drunk guy who wakes up next to an ugly girl will tell you, sex does not equal attraction.

Also once more before I get any hate about such a belief, please try to understand where I am coming from. Logically I have always assumed they are mentally ill due to the fact they are trying to be something they pretty much can never be. This may be ignorant, something I am just now starting to realize. I am sorry if such a belief offends people, I truly am. This is just always what I have thought.

Also thank you Wendy for the article, sounds like it may be helpful I'll give it a read.

Sex utterly equals attraction; the whole point of the drunk guy waking up next to an 'ugly' girl is that when he was drunk he found her attractive. The shame that follows such an act would be the bit that isn't about attraction but personal insecurities.

I get your point regarding being conflicted - you think Transgender people are mentally ill but despite that view find T-girls attractive. You're making things difficult is my point, they aren't mentally ill, they aren't trying to be something they can never be, they are becoming/being what they have always been by transitioning. If you can come to terms with that and understand that it's fine and dandy to be attracted to whomever you like then you'll be fine.

[Wendy Summers]

Logically I have always assumed they are mentally ill due to the fact they are trying to be something they pretty much can never be.

Here's the flaw in your logic. We can be.

Do I have a vagina? No. But other than my lovers who does that affect?
Can I carry a child to term? Nope. But neither can many cis-women.
Can i be accepted and live my life as a female? Absolutely. My close friends know I'm trans (and obviously anyone who watches my porn knows) but the average person has no clue I am transsexual. I sound, look and act like every other woman. And I'm treated like a woman universally where ever I go.

The hang-ups about whether we can be who we are is with you, not us.

[GroobySteven]

Sounds like a raging queen to me!

[Lonely rob]

A ts has a special and unique beauty. I would love to try a woman with a dick and become a perfect bi. They are not mentally I'll. Those of us who have never tried, are.

[bigkid69]

Zero, I was commissioned to write an article for Eros about a year ago called "Examining the Origins of Attraction to Transsexuals" which touches on some of the questions you are raising. It's no longer available on their website, but I got permission to reprint it on my blog.

You can check it out at this link:

http://www.wendysummers.net/16-blog/...o-transsexuals

Great article Wendy.

[natina]

homoflexibility=dick luber=Hetroflexible=chase the sick=bisexual

Hello I'm new to the whole trans anything. Anyways in part due to my Gf's fantasies I have had a few experiences with other men. To my surprise I enjoyed it. I have come to understand that I like "cock", that being said I hold no attraction to men besides the genitalia. So after some research I found that makes me Hetroflexible. Anyways back on topic my Gf recently suggested I try looking at Trans girls. I must admit that it's quite a turn on. Like they say "the best of both worlds".But here is my conundrum...I have always thought that trans people are mentally ill. Don't get me wrong I am no bigot. I have no hate or disgust for anyone as such. If anything in the past I have felt sorry for them not getting the help they need.But now all this has me in a bind, while yes it is a fetish that has brought me ahead to think about it another way. I still kind of feel strange about it.Thoughts about me feelings about this? Once more I have no hate towards anyone like that, it has always just been my thoughts on the subjects. A line of thinking that I am now realizing I may be wrong about..And idk how I feel about all that.

[Wendy Summers]

Great article Wendy.

Thanks - glad you dug it. I wrote it because I see everyone trying to simply why people dig transsexuals, when in my experience there's a broad range of reasons why guys can be attracted.

[Trapt53]

Here's a thought. Instead of asking about mental illness on a porn forum, try asking your question on a psychology/psychiatry forum.

https://www.google.com/search?source...j0l5.18879j0j4

https://www.google.com/search?espv=2...k1.nk4ab2daazE

[hamdasl]

Remember Bob Marley's lyrics:
"When you get down and you quarrel everyday.
You're just saying prayers to the devil, I say.
Why not help one another on the way?
Make it much easier."