TS-attraction in a relationship with a GG

[skippyfever]

All relationships run the change of a break up but don't think about that part.

[Fyusian]

Why are you in a relationship? Are you a a drunk? You're probably a drunk. These aren't actual problems, you're still 15... in your brain. Grow up.

An ignorant response from an ignorant person.

It might not be a problem per-say for him but as another pointed out, his wife, for whatever reason, might have a problem with it. I've seen this so many times so to say it's not a real problem is underestimating the situation.

I just read a thread on another forum with women discussing "breaking up" with their partner and worrying that "he's gay" because he likes t-girls. So you might want to do research before you tell people to grow up.

Since some ignorant people still see trans-women as men and therefore attraction to them as gay, this includes some of these females who then worry that they are in a relationship with someone who doesn't really want to be with them and who really is a closet gay who wants to be with a man. The OP has every right to worry then when some women genuinely believe these things.

A complicated situation, summed up very shortly.

I'm a guy in a long-term relationship with a GG whom I love tremendously and definitely see myself marrying.
I'm also attracted to TS, which, prior to my current relationship, lead to me having just a few, yet amazing, sexual experiences with a TS.

I sincerely doubt I'm the only one in this situation so I was wondering, how do others deal with this?

For me it involves a whole lot of porn, fantasizing and a whole lot of not acting upon it. I would never cheat on my girlfriend, but I've also never told her about my attraction to TS.

Seeing as no one else has suggested this, might I suggest a strap-on for your woman? It could help, maybe ask for some light domination, let her take control of the sex if that's your thing.

If your attraction towards TS is purely because of the sexual experience then you might be able to replicate some of that still in your current relationship.

If you love the woman, you shouldn't let sex get in the way.

I see no point in opening up about your attraction to t-girls. Will you also tell her about all the past porn you've watched with different women?

[NatIce]

A complicated situation, summed up very shortly.

I'm a guy in a long-term relationship with a GG whom I love tremendously and definitely see myself marrying.
I'm also attracted to TS, which, prior to my current relationship, lead to me having just a few, yet amazing, sexual experiences with a TS.

I sincerely doubt I'm the only one in this situation so I was wondering, how do others deal with this?

For me it involves a whole lot of porn, fantasizing and a whole lot of not acting upon it. I would never cheat on my girlfriend, but I've also never told her about my attraction to TS.

You might be embarrassed but who gives a fuck? You only need to be careful if you live in a small town full of bigots. I recommend discovering the topic and exploration opportunities together. Don't make it all about TS porn and TS fantasizing. Just have a conversation about spicing the bedroom up and mention your interest in TS porn as if it just occurred to you off the top of your head. That's what worked for me: saying, as we experimented with different porn categories, "this is one of my favorite kinds of porn"; requires that she watches porn with you and there are other categories available, of course.

Eventually, some years later, while shopping for sex toys I bought quite a few (some never got used or just thrown away), including a lifelike double ended dildo. I made it clear I had no interest in being penetrated. But I convinced her to wear it under some tight clothes and it she liked it. Now I get a dress-up treat of dick bulge or a jackoff show here and there. Far and away the most mind blowing addition to our sex life, which was fantastic already.

[NatIce]

To those who said there's no point and you'll regret it, that's possible, too. It worked out well for me but I was extremely patient and probably also got lucky.

OP, only you can judge your partner and decide how important the TS fetish is to you. The only downside for me is appetite mismatch: my hunger for tcock and indulging the fetish is much greater than hers is for my pleasure. But under the circumstances that's quite a luxurious complaint.