TS narcissism AKA why we are called chasers

[kingaddictx]

Some people aren't going to like this post. Too bad. The smart will read and think, the rest will shoot theirs mouths off with hate.

After being part of this community for over 10 years I can say with no malice that this is some serious narcissism among TS girls (Not all but most). Shit most ts are more self-centered/selfish than GG! And I am not talking about P4p (thought it exist there too) but normal relationships as well. Its seems as if most think they are the center of the universe and the nicer you are the more they want to bullshit. then after you move on they do everything to get your attention.

want to know why they call us chasers? because their dumb asses are always running.

Well not me. enjoy your jogging cuz MY time is important too. I've been with and am friends with enough to know this to be true. one good apple does not a fresh batch make. Sorry.

and dont mistake this for being jaded or angry. I'm just saying what others are feeling but are scared to open their mouths about. Just like the whole "non passable" issue that NO ONE wants to talk about, but we all know it present.

end rant.

[kingaddictx]

And for the girls this doesn't apply to (you know who you are) just keep being the good woman that you are.

[Ts RedVeX]

Narcissism has nothing to do with chasers. Although, existence of the latter does enable most ts narcissists' existence. C'est la vie, excuse my french. xd

[KellyKlaymour]

I find the concept of "chasers" a little humorous.
I have a preference for the toned body-type over all others, am I a "toned body-type chaser"?
I mean, really, throw in any preference that you favour and it's equally redonk.

[kingaddictx]

Narcissism has nothing to do with chasers. Although, existence of the latter does enable most ts narcissists' existence. C'est la vie, excuse my french. xd

I agree. "chasers" make it easier for the self-centered to remain so. I wasn't saying that chasers create the narcissism, rather that some buy into it and thus are labeled chasers by said TS narcissus.

My point was more that alot of TS's, pardon my frankness, think they are the shit for no reason at all.

If u are a gia darling or venus lux, i would understand, but if u are JUST STARTING TO TRANSITION and still have a bread LOL GTFO.

But you do have a valid point. there are dudes who will kiss their ass regardless and that just makes it worse.

[kingaddictx]

I find the concept of "chasers" a little humorous.
I have a preference for the toned body-type over all others, am I a "toned body-type chaser"?
I mean, really, throw in any preference that you favour and it's equally redonk.

I agrees 100 percent. I've had girls get mad at me for not identifying as a "chaser" and All i could do was laugh. I'm a man whom is attracted to sexy ladies. GG and TS. end of story. I'm not chasing anyone lol. In fact if i have to chase you, than its too much work, that's kiddie games my grown ass don't have time for.

No GG has ever called me a "girl chaser" lmao.

I guess its easier to put up a wall and assume everyone is the same. Wait it is easier that's why everyone does it lol.

[cal_tsg]

I'm surprised to see very little mention of narcissism in the HA threads. Is it a big no no to even mention this subject?

I ended up doing a bit of reading up after becoming fed up dealing with rude people on another website to the point where I gave up. I can definitely say that I've now learnt my lesson and will no longer provide compliments or comments to anyone (even though I've always had a policy of only saying something if I have something nice to say).

Most recently I asked a simple question about crossdressers (in a Crossdresser group) asking what percentage of CD's are straight men. The question didn't really get many responses but I got a lot of abuse from a few on the group telling me that CD's are individuals and should not be pigeon holed. Also, that I was wrong to assume that sexuality plays a part in crossdressing. Interestingly, the same people resorted to sarcasm and insults. I didn't mind people opposing my views but te insults and sarcasm seemed over the top for asking a simple question.

The last straw on the other website was when I made the mistake of joining a TS admirer group and posting my first post with a question. What a mistake! I quickly received a message from the Group Moderator stating that I had placed an Ad which broke the group rules so, she had deleted my post and gave me a time out. Her message was filled with entire sentences TYPED OUT IN UPPERCASE LETTERS, insults and sarcastic comments (sarcasm seems to be a running theme). I replied to her msg saying that I was a bit confused because I didn't think I'd posted an advert. Her short response was;

Whatever u call posting. u posted in My group.
Still confused?

Which was not very helpful!

At this point I decided that I didn't want to be part a group run by power crazy sarcastic rude fuckwit so left the group asap.

Anyway, before I start ranting....

I have to say that in person I have met some really nice people but, online it seems that you're very likely to end up dealing with a lot of people who are just unpleasant fullstop. I wonder if this is down to narcissistic tendencies of individuals such as men who crossdress and people who take up roles where they have some sort of control over others?

You might have guessed that I'm no psychologist but, I think it's actually quite an interesting topic and understanding it might just help a few people deal with these issues a bit better.

[zaphod]

narcissism? Perhaps on the exterior. A necessary reaction to societal pressures to conform which most trans have rejected. Interior, people are people regardless of their their sexual affinity.

Chaser label. I can understand this point of view. I am guilty of declaring a featured hungangel is sexy and expressing my desire to have sex with them. WITHOUT meeting the Angel and connecting person to person. After being approached repeatedly with impersonal sexual advances I can imagine a defensive posture taken. This is said within the non-professional setting.

To be honest I am a bisexual married man. I attempt, in my limited tryst to connect on a personal level, then sexual. I have tried the opposing and found it unsatisfying.

[cal_tsg]

narcissism? Perhaps on the exterior. A necessary reaction to societal pressures to conform which most trans have rejected. Interior, people are people regardless of their their sexual affinity.

Chaser label. I can understand this point of view. I am guilty of declaring a featured hungangel is sexy and expressing my desire to have sex with them. WITHOUT meeting the Angel and connecting person to person. After being approached repeatedly with impersonal sexual advances I can imagine a defensive posture taken. This is said within the non-professional setting.

To be honest I am a bisexual married man. I attempt, in my limited tryst to connect on a personal level, then sexual. I have tried the opposing and found it unsatisfying.

I think I pretty much agree with you here.

But I'm wondering if the same thing applies outside of porn and the sex industry?

[zaphod]

I think I pretty much agree with you here.

But I'm wondering if the same thing applies outside of porn and the sex industry?

Cal_tsg, I think so. We are born with the same basic cognitive equipment. Granted we all choose different pathways as life experience happen. The pathways of least resistance and most positive personal satisfaction could be preferred. Defense mechanism to help "self" fit into society niches are necessary.

The original question asks to apply a generalization of group behavior. The resulting answer never is completely relevant to an individual 100%. However with self reflection the generalization could help with personal choices.

A personal example. I have been blessed with a grower cock of 7.25" x 5.8". I am bi-sexual and post on sites such as FetLife and Adultfriendfinder. I am looking for sexual NSA partners. I have been contacted by men who are simply aggressive and not willing to take the time to discover who we really are. I feel slighted, the object of a chaser. True I expose myself to this activity by posting pictures. I shall use a bastardization of a Yogi Berra quote about baseball. "Sex is 68% mental and the other 85% is mental. Try getting erect when your partner is someone who you deeply disagree with. i.e. a sexual encounter with, for me, Donald Trump would be a disaster! I think I would enjoy a Dominant male partner. Trump fits the bill on 2 counts but the 85% remainder is stifling.

Sex in person is complicated. Sex within a fantasy has relatively uncomplex design. The chaser and narcissism are the interface of personal sex versus fantasy, IMHO.

What do you thinks?