The Life of Dating Melody💘💋💑♎💐💍💌🎶💜

[MrFanti]

IMHO,
Some of what you describe exists in the escort world period - regardless if one is transgender, genetic female, or gay male.

[GrimFusion]

This probably isn't going to be a popular opinion considering the nature of this forum, but fuck it; here it goes.
It's really tough juggling being a provider and trying to hold down a relationship. With very few exceptions, you can either choose one or the other. It's just an opinion, but I think saifan is full of crap. I just can't see a relationship working out well over the course of "5+ years" (as he stated in another post) if his girlfriend hasn't given up escorting. He's either bullshitting, or the relationship only works because he's a push-over. Either way you look at it, that's not the type of guy you should be aiming to have a relationship with if monogamy is what you want because if you can't provide monogamy, you can't expect it either.

Escorting draws a certain type of crowd and it isn't likely you're going to find a datable and respectable guy in the bunch. While clients and non-clients seem to behave in much the same way, you still stand a better chance of finding true love if you aren't escorting. That doesn't mean there are lots of sensible men in the trans-dating scene - they're still pretty rare. Dating in the transcommunity requires a HELL OF A LOT OF PATIENCE. I mean, you could be downright dedicated to finding a legit guy and come up empty-handed after six failed short-term relationships over the course of a year or more before finding a dude who's respectable, confident, compatible, open with family & friends, and capable of loving you, not just the sex.

I'm not suggesting you should stop escorting; only that if you should decide to date again, it's going to require a lot of dedication and patience despite all the bad experiences.

[saifan]

This probably isn't going to be a popular opinion considering the nature of this forum, but fuck it; here it goes.
It's really tough juggling being a provider and trying to hold down a relationship. With very few exceptions, you can either choose one or the other. It's just an opinion, but I think saifan is full of crap. I just can't see a relationship working out well over the course of "5+ years" (as he stated in another post) if his girlfriend hasn't given up escorting. He's either bullshitting, or the relationship only works because he's a push-over. Either way you look at it, that's not the type of guy you should be aiming to have a relationship with if monogamy is what you want because if you can't provide monogamy, you can't expect it either.

Escorting draws a certain type of crowd and it isn't likely you're going to find a datable and respectable guy in the bunch. While clients and non-clients seem to behave in much the same way, you still stand a better chance of finding true love if you aren't escorting. That doesn't mean there are lots of sensible men in the trans-dating scene - they're still pretty rare. Dating in the transcommunity requires a HELL OF A LOT OF PATIENCE. I mean, you could be downright dedicated to finding a legit guy and come up empty-handed after six failed short-term relationships over the course of a year or more before finding a dude who's respectable, confident, compatible, open with family & friends, and capable of loving you, not just the sex.

I'm not suggesting you should stop escorting; only that if you should decide to date again, it's going to require a lot of dedication and patience despite all the bad experiences.

To clarify, this relationship is fairly new (5 months). My previous friend does indeed still escort and after meeting my new friend I decided it was time to move on to greener pastures with someone who has an exit strategy.

EDIT: And yes I am a push-over.

[melody mayheim]

Ur absolutely right mr.fanti but I think trans turn to escorting for different reasons.

There are def respectable guys out there...they just dont happen to be my type! Lmao!
Im not an escort although I do keep that option available for the right guy. Ive dated NUMEROUS guys these past 3 yrs. And only one I dated for 10 months. So every 50 guys i date..I find one good one. Lol

[MrFanti]

Im not an escort although I do keep that option available for the right guy. Ive dated NUMEROUS guys these past 3 yrs. And only one I dated for 10 months. So every 50 guys i date..I find one good one. Lol

Again, pretty much normal whether gay or transgender.
I've come to the conclusion that finding one's "perfect" match is near impossible. Thus the defining factor is what compromises one is willing to make.

Some folks are great sexually but have the conversation ability of a rock. Some folks are great financially but are spiritually dead.

And the list goes on....

[tranylover]

Hey Melody,

Thanks for the excellent posting! I know this question has been asked a 100 times,
I had a question about how to pick up a Trans girl like you. Where did you meet your boyfriends? Do you find your boyfriends in gay clubs?

[melody mayheim]

Very true but from my own experiences guys try til they get what they want. Then you dont hear from them until they appear a month or 2 later n suddenly "miss" you and wana "cuddle" ..so not many guys give it an opprtunity to actually know me enough to judge me.

I havent been to a gay club in over a year..but Ive met guys there..str8 clubs..dating sites n fb...My biggest fear i think is being approached by a guy who has no idea...its happened numerous times and i get so uncomfortable. Some were ok with it..some havent..but who likes to be rejected? Id rather a guy not approach me at all or a guy who knows what hes walking into..

[saifan]

Very true but from my own experiences guys try til they get what they want. Then you dont hear from them until they appear a month or 2 later n suddenly "miss" you and wana "cuddle" ..so not many guys give it an opprtunity to actually know me enough to judge me.

I havent been to a gay club in over a year..but Ive met guys there..str8 clubs..dating sites n fb...My biggest fear i think is being approached by a guy who has no idea...its happened numerous times and i get so uncomfortable. Some were ok with it..some havent..but who likes to be rejected? Id rather a guy not approach me at all or a guy who knows what hes walking into..

Melody, interesting perspective. So it's safe to assume that you aren't put off by "chasers" or guys who actively seek out transgendered girls?

[melody mayheim]

I dont like any guys who seek any other person...lol I want it to be all about ME! Haha

[saifan]

i dont like any guys who seek any other person...lol i want it to be all about me! Haha

lol :-d