"Tgirls" who just arn't, please let me know what you think.

[JamesCole]

Why do you get to tell them what they are?
Why should they live by your definition of "trans"?

[crystalsopen]

Crystal, why are you telling any of these people about it? Or anyone other than the party involved? It hardly seems like any of your business let alone the dudes here on a porn board. All you can do is tell them to shape up, the rest is out of your hands and quite frankly, not your responsibility. If a mistake is being made on their part, they have to be allowed the opportunity to learn from it. If no mistake is being made then you are just being a busy body. That's not being a very good friend.

I was trying to decide if I should / could help this person. And were to try to help them, how would go about it. I generally find trans only forums to be echo chambers. I see you're point and I'll take your advice. People do need to learn from their mistakes, for me posting this here seems to have been one of them. I will not be a busy body.

[crystalsopen]

Why do you get to tell them what they are?
Why should they live by your definition of "trans"?

I don't believe I have any special rights to tell people who they are (or are not). That is why I said "I don't want to be the identity police, and I don't want to hurt a friend. " If you someone you care about is expending a large amount of their limited resources toward a goal. And you knew them well enough to think they will be miserable if they get to that goal. Would you say you something? Or is it better keep your mouth shut because you might be wrong, or they might not understand that all you want to do is save them heartache? Because that is what I was asking myself when I posted this.

After reading the replies to this (especially Jamie's) I'm not going to interfere.

[Jamie French]

You're a good egg Crystal, just don't bring your problems to this viper pit. People are just gonna get there boners all over your issues. Talk to your friend. Once. Leave it be. Wait for the results.

[crystalsopen]

You're a good egg Crystal, just don't bring your problems to this viper pit. People are just gonna get there boners all over your issues. Talk to your friend. Once. Leave it be. Wait for the results.

If I'm a good egg, then you're a wise chick I will do that, if you think that is best. I'll try to figure out a way to do it as nicely as possible.

[TS Evelyn Summers]

Heres an idea......Why dont we alle just let people live their lives as they sit fit für themselves!