Beware this girl - a horror story

[lifeisfiction]

Sorry but if a player doesn't wear a raincoat he has only his lust and poor judgment to blame.

Condoms break.

[Genetic]

I think stating a girl does bareback would be fine if it's as warning and in principle I agree but I hope it doesn't become somewhere where people search our bareback providers ... then again, maybe they deserve each other?

Other forums where I have seen it have it worded as a warning with an abstract that reads along the lines of "Don't risk your health it's not worth it, play safe". I don't think there's too much of a risk of people using a forum to find bareback providers if the list is alphabetical rather than regional.

What would stop someone with a grudge against an escort from claiming bareback sex is on the menu? Would she automatically go on the list or is there some way of finding out if the allegation is true before she is 'named and shamed'? There have been cases of posts in the Escort Reviews section making allegations against escorts which have been malicious -it is a difficult issue on which to be certain, in my opinion.

Like I said, it would be based on their adultwork profiles and on feedback provided by multiple reliable reviewers. Posts from unknown members would be disregarded to stop escorts from being added to the list as a result of grudges.

Perhaps it would work better if it were based purely on Adultwork/BP profiles and the thread were locked but posters could submit warnings to admin/mods and then it's at their discretion to add the escort tp the list or not.

[notdrunk]

Condoms break.

A condom wasn't involved in this instance. Darwin strikes again but it has caused fatal results this time.

[maaarc]

well, alcohol is a great slave and a terrible master. I'm sorry for both parties - In the end we all have it come in one way or the other - I guess it don't seem real that your life could end over a simple thing like a fuck................ some times it does

[GroobySteven]

A condom wasn't involved in this instance. Darwin strikes again but it has caused fatal results this time.

Also condoms rarely break. It's a silly excuse. If you're not willing to take any risk during sex, then play really safe - don't do it.

[Prospero]

Perspective again please.

1. Unprotected sex is an act of great foolishness. The only time you should is within a long term relationship and,these days, unless you've been married for years, a new relationship should involve getting tested - and proving both are clear. This is, sadly, especially true in gay relationships. So the simple truth is do not have anal sex without a condom - active or passive.

2. Condoms do - very occasionally - break. But the statistical chances of this happening and of it happening with a partner who is HIV positive are tiny. Plus having sex with an HIV positive partner does not necessarily mean you will automatically become infected. So it is a risk of such an infinitesimal sort that it is not really worth thinking about.

3. The guy who told me about his plight is already fucked-up (by his own admission) so the instant treatment available could not be applied. he had to wait for full test results.

4. We are past the eara of HIV automatically equalling a death sentence. In the developing world this is certainly true when it progresses to AIDS - but in the West the degree of drug treatment available is superb and means those who are infected can live near normal lives, bar the need to be ever vigilant about taking medication and the risk of infecting others. The financial cost in the US is immense i beleive, but in the UK drugs are free on the NHS, bar the cost of prescriptions. The sort of terrible outcome portrayed, most recently, in "Dallas Buyers Club' does not generally pertain today. However HIV is surely a filthy rotten companion which those who have it will have to cope with all their lives. But those here saying unprotected sex is fatal are exaggerating.

5. HIV is not the only risk when having unprotected sex. Hepetitus C is also a vile condition to contract as are the old STDs - with Syphilis now become incresingly resistant to the old anti-biotics.

6. Finally I have had several PMs asking me to identify the accused girl in question. Sorry. After consideration, the wise counsel of Stavros and the site owner i removed the identifying info. It seems likely but not certain she was the cause of this guys infection. But until proven in a court of law she has to be deemed innocent of this - and thus I'll not be naming her again in public or private.

[lifeisfiction]

Sex involves risk. I remember sleeping with these two different women in six months and having the condom put on correctly break. Thank goodness for the morning after pill, but it made me realize it may happen more than we think. That is why I am saying that. I am not trying to excuse his behavior.

And to your point 4 Prospero, while yes its much more treatable these days. It still will cut your life span.

[BlkJewels]

I think he is full of shit. Probably just want to flame a provider. 'I was drunk' is a branch on the bullsh!t tree.

[dderek123]

well, alcohol is a great slave and a terrible master. I'm sorry for both parties - In the end we all have it come in one way or the other - I guess it don't seem real that your life could end over a simple thing like a fuck................ some times it does

That's my favourite cowboy movie. When Clint starts drinking whisky you know someone's going to pay for what they did to Ned.

[fred41]

Studies show that on average that life expectancy is still cut...however, it shouldn't shorten your life span if you are tested and start treatment early (350 plus...CD4 count)...and lead a healthy life style.