wanting to be topped for the first time

[robtills]

I really would like to be topped but I dont wanna feel gay. Im not attracted to men by no means but I like gg's and ts girls . Ive played with my self with dildo so I know how it feels and it feels great but ive never had an real person top me. I wanted to know is there a difference from dildos to the real thing. Im just worried about me being hard on myself for letting a ts top me an feeling gay.

[STARTUP999]

Hey rob,
This comes up all the time here and some of the members have little patience for this question. I wrote the post below for another person who had a desire to be topped by a trans woman but thought it would make him gay and less masculine. My rant got quite a bit of positive feedback so maybe it has some educational value. Don't pay attention to the slightly angry tone that is not directed at you, I sort of thought the guy was "having us on" as I believe our British freinds say.

Hope it helps.


"I love t-girls and genetic women but I just feel if I give up my ass to a t-girl I could never consider myself straight again.....I don't want to change. I feel like I'll give up my masculinity."

I hope this is a joke because if your for real you have way to many issues and misconceptions for advice on a forum to be much help.

First, your gay if your attracted to and have sex with men. If you consider a TG to be a woman and most admirers do. I suggest your not gay.

Second if a GG woman stuck her finger up your butt or did you with a strap on would you be gay? No. So the act of being penetrated is not what makes you gay its who your attracted to.

Third, just because someone likes to be penetrated does not make them "give up their masculinity." Gay men are often very masculine, some are hyper masculine actually. The two things are not related. Porn Icon Christian X has been privileged to sample more TG penis than all the admirers on this forum combined. I doubt you would tell him to his face he is not masculine.

Your post suggests to me, you think if you bottom for a TG you will turn into some stereotypical effeminate gay man prancing around with a limp wrist and an an effected "gay" voice lip syncing Cher songs. This is just so juvenile its hard to take your post seriously.

Even if your bizarre ideas about sexuality were true and being with a TG made you bi or gay curious or whatever label you care for, your already watching TG porn and fantasizing about it. Your preference is there in your head already whether you decide to act on it or not. If your not less masculine after masturbating to TG porn then why would you be so after being with a real TG woman?

If you do bottom, even if you like it and want more, your not going to "change" into a gay man, or "give up masculinity." I think you should keep fantasizing and not waste some escorts time with timid calls and no show dates. Your not ready for the real thing.

[Rusty Eldora]

Thank you Startup, yes it comes up all the time.


I have found tgirls to be women, but also quite unique creatures. They are very real individuals. Sex with a female is straight for a guy, so sex with a tgirl, who is female, is also straight. Yes there are two cocks involved so one is probably not firmly at the straight pole of the line between total straightness and total gayness. I see it as a bi component.

I personally love getting topped by a tgirl and consider myself rather straight.

[RatsNest]

Hey rob,
This comes up all the time here and some of the members have little patience for this question...

Too true. There are bullies here on HA. I would rather be a little nobody, than to be an evil somebody.

[francisfkudrow]

Relax and try it. Do you want to be on your deathbed one day thinking that you should have tried it, but were too worried about seeming/feeling gay?

[capnblacwood]

Isn't there like a whole prep process prior to being topped? I've often contemplated it but I've only gotten to courage off giving them a serious blow job often times I feel like I orally take care of their cock more than they do mine. But then again I also love having my ass tongued not sure having a massive cock in my ass will feel as plepleasurable!

[Yasmin Lee Fan]

It's one of the most awesome feelings in the world. There's nothing like cumming while getting fucked. There are two ingredients that make for successful anal sex. One is that you should start out with dildos. Get a small one and work your way up, using plenty of lube. It may take some time, and a little pain, but you'll get there. The other thing is get a partner who knows what they are doing and doesn't rush things. You don't want some one who just starts ramming and slamming. All the T S escorts I have been topped by were very good at what they did. Lastly, never , ever do it without a condom !