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04-08-2014 #1
but trans woman aren't fetishized....its all in our head right?
One of the many stupid messages I get on okcupid.mind you my profile is modest and discreet.no mention of sex work or sex.just my gender and that im a student
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04-08-2014 #2
Re: but trans woman aren't fetishized....its all in our head right?
I don't think you're going to get much disagreement on a forum that wouldn't exist if we weren't fetishized.
Guys are horny. Get money.
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04-08-2014 #3
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04-08-2014 #4
Re: but trans woman aren't fetishized....its all in our head right?
Plenty find it. You just have a lot of undesirable noise to sort through while you search.
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04-08-2014 #5
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04-08-2014 #6
Re: but trans woman aren't fetishized....its all in our head right?
So many people have had really crappy sex and love lives for much of their lives. Sex and relationships are the only area of our lives where we are to "try it and you will like it". Even trivial games we take lessons for on how to hit a silly ball for months. But outside sex ed in PE (that REALLY helped, didn't it) our primary source of study material is Porn - Oh Goody. But it does convey a surreal, plastic world.
Guys have had some experience with GG's but they fantasize a lot - these girls in porn look act like they LIKE sex. But a TS, it is a mythical creature, a Unicorn. It takes a guy several meetings to realize they are real and genuine.
Well in that group, there will be those that understand what a real relationship with a real transwomen is and be willing to work for it. Still one of the few, but that is also true with GM-GG relationships. Notice how many of those crater.
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04-08-2014 #7
Re: but trans woman aren't fetishized....its all in our head right?
anytime life gets you down about being reduced to sexual fantasy...remember, you don't have small pox so that's something.
it can always be worse so while there are more men out there that will disrespect you and objectify you than not, you can't let it bother you. if you let the opinions and interference of others get to you, would you have made it this far in your transition anyway?
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Let's face it...some women just look better with their clothes ON
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04-08-2014 #8
Re: but trans woman aren't fetishized....its all in our head right?
I think that for most men wanting to be with a transgendered woman is more of a preference than a fantasy. The reason most guys turn it into a sexual fantasy is because it has been condemned in the straight world and fantasized in the porn world.
After all, it not like we grow up living and going to school with transgendered people. The odds of any of us personally knowing a TS girl or guy is children is pretty much slim to none. So most guys just google TS girls and porn is the first thing we find. I'm sure if that's how men learned about GG's they would be nothing but a sexual fantasy as well.
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04-09-2014 #9
Re: but trans woman aren't fetishized....its all in our head right?
The trick is to not be looking at all... proactively "looking for something real" is really, really close to turning the idea of a relationship into a sort of fetish itself. No, your best bet is to stop looking all together, especially online and put yourself in positions where you are actively pursuing legitimate interests. The kind of people you were looking for will just sort of moosh into your life without you having to do a thing. That's how this kind of thing actually works in the real world. You can't go get it, you have to let it be and give it opportunities to come to you which means, NO sitting around. Go do anything. (trust me, I've always had a long term somebody in my life, precisely because I do a LOT of things out in the world.)
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04-09-2014 #10
Re: but trans woman aren't fetishized....its all in our head right?
Originally Posted by Jamie French
Im not new to online dating and am quite savvy in navigating the pitfalls.i think for ts woman online dating takes away the stress of having to disclose ones gender to a person she might be interested in.
I just posted this conversation because some claim that the extreme sexualization we experience is either fictional or brought on ourselves.
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