scared to be a bottom

[TSaddicted]

I love t-girls and genetic women but I just feel if I give up my ass to a t-girl I could never consider myself straight again. The crazy thing is, is that I always watch "shemale fucks guy" porn, major turn on for me. I absolutely love watching two t's tear a guy up.

It's getting closer to the day it happens, a T has offered to try it with me (fuck me) twice now and the second is scheduled for this week. I don't know if I can do it. I don't want to enjoy it and forever chase dicks up my arse. I like who I am now, I don't want to change. I feel like I'll give up my masculinity.

[martin48]

We all go to far greater lengths to avoid what we fear than to obtain what we desire. Enjoy the experience

[gaiseric]

Go out and do it and enjoy it. Stop worrying about labels etc. The more you think about it, along the lines of 'will I become less masculine - yadda, yadda' the more screwed up you will become

[Prospero]

Ludicrous. So many fragile people who worry about their "masculinity."

[STARTUP999]

"I love t-girls and genetic women but I just feel if I give up my ass to a t-girl I could never consider myself straight again.....I don't want to change. I feel like I'll give up my masculinity."

I hope this is a joke because if your for real you have way to many issues and misconceptions for advice on a forum to be much help.

First, your gay if your attracted to and have sex with men. If you consider a TG to be a woman and most admirers do. I suggest your not gay.

Second if a GG woman stuck her finger up your butt or did you with a strap on would you be gay? No. So the act of being penetrated is not what makes you gay its who your attracted to.

Third, just because someone likes to be penetrated does not make them "give up their masculinity." Gay men are often very masculine, some are hyper masculine actually. The two things are not related. Porn Icon Christian X has been privileged to sample more TG penis than all the admirers on this forum combined. I doubt you would tell him to his face he is not masculine.

Your post suggests to me, you think if you bottom for a TG you will turn into some stereotypical effeminate gay man prancing around with a limp wrist and an an effected "gay" voice lip syncing Cher songs. This is just so juvenile its hard to take your post seriously.

Even if your bizarre ideas about sexuality were true and being with a TG made you bi or gay curious or whatever label you care for, your already watching TG porn and fantasizing about it. Your preference is there in your head already whether you decide to act on it or not. If your not less masculine after masturbating to TG porn then why would you be so after being with a real TG woman?

If you do bottom, even if you like it and want more, your not going to "change" into a gay man, or "give up masculinity." I think you should keep fantasizing and not waste some escorts time with timid calls and no show dates. Your not ready for the real thing.

[Prospero]

well said Startup999

[STARTUP999]

Thank you Prospero

[gaiseric]

Startup999, I think your post should be sent to all the guys that come onto this forum with this or similar worries/problems. Very sensible and informative.

[fred41]

I like who I am now, I don't want to change. I feel like I'll give up my masculinity.

No, I don't think you do. I think you like an image that you try to convey...not the same thing.
I think that someone who truly likes themselves..is totally at ease with themselves , including their sexuality.
Don't get me wrong...I'm not saying I'm completely at ease with everything about myself...lol...lord knows I have my own problems....as do most people. But to deny yourself something you might enjoy for the sake of artificial self-image...that's probably not a good way to go.
Just my two cents based on two sentences...so.

[TSaddicted]

You have me down to a T. You're right, I do think once a t-girl girl tops me I will become more feminine and have a stronger desire to be fucked in the arse. I just don't want it to lead to bigger things. I already think about sex 24/7, I don't want to start paying for escorts. Being a handsome guy I get to sleep with sexy women and t-girls girls for free, that's how it should be.

The fact is, once you have been bottomed there is no going back. You may try and sugar coat it and say "bottomed", but the fact is a dick has been up your arse and there is no going back. Once you've been fucked, you've been fucked. Now for someone who has been in this game for less than a year, this is a big deal.

Putting people into categories is just what we do as humans. You consider me gay because I sleep with trannies but I don't. Gay is men being attracted to the male body and persona. I think a word needs to be created for men who are attracted to trans women, and not "tranny chaser". I'm attracted to the femininity that t-girls present that right now a lot of women fail to bring. Just look how butch and aggressive women are these days. T-girls work very hard to present themselves as the beautiful ladies they are.