How do you deal with stalker?

[AsianG]

Hello everyone. I have concern with my safety. Have any of you been dealing with people who constantly send you threatening messages thru email? How do you guys deal with it?

I went to LGBT place in NYC and they gave me a list of organizations I can contact. I'd like some more advice from anyone in here who have been through the similar situation. Thank you in advance.

xxxx

Asian Gee

[CarlaFan]

Generally, forums aren't the best place for that sort of advise. Terroristic threats are illegal and should taken seriously by the appropriate authorities.

[fred41]

It's a good idea to save the threatening emails...they'll provide evidence if you want to start a complaint.
Good luck AsianG,..I'm sorry a weirdo attached himself to you...nobody needs that kind of crap.

[Michelle Firestone]

call up guido & tell him somebody wants to be shorter

[maaarc]

sorry for your troubles - this article seemed to provide some sound advice. I'd look into buying a dog if you don't already own one - I'd suggest an American Staffordshire Terrier and perhaps a firearm or two.


http://www.nononsenseselfdefense.com...gsolutions.htm

Hope your situation improves

[kittyKaiti]

Step #1: Acquire all evidence you can. Emails, social media messages, text messages, audio recordings or if the individual is harassing you in person, video recordings. This should be provided in a police report. If you feel the individual is a threat to your physical safety, you may acquire a restraining order.

Step #2: Start taking self-defense classes. These exist everywhere. There are many classes that cater to women's defense and there are many for self defense or martial arts in general.

Step #3: Carrying defensive items is the most useful thing above all. A restraining order is merely a piece of paper that does nothing to actually stop someone from attacking you. In most American jurisdictions, pepper spray devices are legal for personal protection. In some jurisdictions, tasers and stun guns are also legal for self defense, however their usefulness is limited, like knives are, to direct physical contact, and are more of a last resort if an attacker is on top of you.

Step #4: Firearms. If you feel the individual is that much of threat to your life, understand that calling the police leaves you waiting for help to arrive on an average of 10-15 minutes in most areas of the United States, in urban places, far longer. The average 9mm pistol responds at a rate of 1,200 feet per second and is definitively the #1 best way to deter an assault. The mere presence of a firearm holstered to your hip, or in your hand, will cause an attacker to flee without a shot needing to be fired. However, as a gun owner myself, you need to know what you're doing and should take some local NRA sponsored women's self defense firearms courses that are hosted nationwide if you have no experience. As well, look into your state laws regarding your right to bear arms to ensure you don't get in trouble. Some states do not require a license or permit, many others do though.

[Charlotte_periwinkle]

Coming from a country where it is not legal to obtain firearms, pepper spray or tasers, and given that a lot of people may not be willing to go to the police with this kind of situation, I offer the following advice.

1.Be smarter than the person threatening you.

2.Don't give away any personal details on the internet.

I have had people try and threaten me via email etc before. Do everything to find out about the person and gather as much personal info on them as you can. Fortunately most people like this are very stupid and not Internet savvy. Search email, trace IP address etc, you will often find that they may be married, have kids etc, in which case a simple email saying "don't fuck with me or I'll tell " will usually get them to back off.

If you've been compromised and they know who you are or where you live, then it's definately time to go to police.

[North323]

I'd love to see one of the emails. Would be glad to assist. I do that for a living (not stalking) but finding people on the internet.

[Falrune]

I'd guess every stalker situation is different, but I agree with kittyKaiti with respect to being armed, knowing how to use the weapon, as well as mentally prepared to use the weapon when your life is threatened. Try to be aware of your surroundings, try to have an escape route, try to be in a group, lock windows and doors, and obtain a surveillance and alarm system operating around your abode.

[giovanni_hotel]

I had a relative who worked for the Federal government who was constantly harassed by a fellow employee. Her supervisor got an FBI agent assigned to keep tabs on her harasser and built a file on him, then one day they showed up at her job and marched this moron out in handcuffs.lol


I'd keep a hard copy record of all the threatening emails etc. and talk to the Human resources person where you work for advice.

In most workplace environments harassment of any kind from another employee is not tolerated and is grounds for immediate dismissal.

If this crap is going on outside the office, I'd arm myself with at least mace and inform the police about your situation.