Do nice guys finish last?

[tsmirandameadows]

nope. Nice guys finish first.

You can't just be "nice" though. You have to team that with confidence. You have to have a sense of humour. You can't just be superficially "nice" - you need to be honest and genuine. You need to engage people in more than "just about you".

Also you can't be "nice" all the time. You need to have principles, stand your ground, defend your position and protect your friends.

Although some might find it hard to believe (from some of the responses i've posted here), i've been a nice guy my whole life. When younger (teens & university) it certainly seemed that being nice wasn't working - but as soon as i found my confidence to be who i wanted to be, and not try to base my persona on what my perception of what was "cool" then it all fell together.

Being nice has enabled me to finish far from last - and usually at the top.

qft.

[EvaCassini]

Well I disagree with you and Eva. I disagree with Eva for the mere fact that being rude, impolite does not make a person genuine. A genuine person is true to ones self, it does not mean having a certain way of communication makes the person genuine. Nor does being polite make a person less genuine or on the other side more so of a real person. I think Jamie a lot times you assume too much about things and it leads you to misjudge situations and people. There is a lot to life and the greatest students of life are the ones who are always willing to learn.

Then your comprehension skills are at an all time low if you didn't understand what I said. Re-read. Repeat at least 9 times. Then if you still have the same answer then you are not comprehending what I mean. I'm serious, I am not joking, and I mean not to offend. Seriously, if you can't take what I said and pick out the meaning, and understand, then hope is lost.

[goatman]

Dude, simplify your point... stop using unnecessary brackets, refine your language. I have no idea what you're trying to say. Communication skills - lacking.

Guess I better call the Board of Regents of the University System of Maryland & tell 'em they can have their Degree back...
Wonder if it's too late to ask for a REFUND? $$$


And BTW, the brackets [], dashes--, & ellipses ... are what I call my "poetic license"...it's just a way (MY WAY) of stating that my thoughts/feelings are ever-evolving & constantly in motion, even when I'm putting them in print...
[just my lil' creative quirk when i'm on forum/op boards & social media...]

[runningdownthatdream]

Guess I better call the Board of Regents of the University System of Maryland & tell 'em they can have their Degree back...
Wonder if it's too late to ask for a REFUND? $$$


And BTW, the brackets [], dashes--, & ellipses ... are what I call my "poetic license"...it's just a way (MY WAY) of stating that my thoughts/feelings are ever-evolving & constantly in motion, even when I'm putting them in print...
[just my lil' creative quirk when i'm on forum/op boards & social media...]

...............looks like someone or something's got your Goat, man!

In all seriousness though, if you need to pull out some little certificate to qualify your ability to communicate then you probably should call the University of Maryland and return it. I think I get what you're trying to say but think also that your words are getting in the way of your thoughts - just a thought

[goatman]

...............looks like someone or something's got your Goat, man!

In all seriousness though, if you need to pull out some little certificate to qualify your ability to communicate then you probably should call the University of Maryland and return it. I think I get what you're trying to say but think also that your words are getting in the way of your thoughts - just a thought

"Well, if you can't laugh at yourself..."--Bill Clinton, Family Guy LOL
I think you got it...(little self-deprecating humor) & I nearly did catch the GOAT pun[nice!]
Yeah, everybody from my parents, to teachers, professors, co-workers, ex-girlfriends, and ONE PARTICULAR DRILL INSTRUCTOR have at one time or another all said the same thing....

"YOU THINK TOO MUCH!!"

[Jamie French]

If a person is genuinely impolite and and rude then that is exactly genuine. Since when does being genuine only count in matters of positive traits?

BUT, none of that even matters... that's all red hearing stuff meant to detract from the subject at hand.

The actual, non internet, real life facts of the matter will continue to play out as they always have. Confident, outgoing, productive people like myself will have really cool lives full of stories and experiences and we won't ever complain about how we're treated by society, (ahem - girls)

Others... won't.

Argue all you want with that, but I have porn to shoot, girls to fuck and an album to produce so I gotsta' go.

Well I disagree with you and Eva. I disagree with Eva for the mere fact that being rude, impolite does not make a person genuine. A genuine person is true to ones self, it does not mean having a certain way of communication makes the person genuine. Nor does being polite make a person less genuine or on the other side more so of a real person. I think Jamie a lot times you assume too much about things and it leads you to misjudge situations and people. There is a lot to life and the greatest students of life are the ones who are always willing to learn.

[Jamie French]

Dude, you're thick and you suck. You ought to get a refund because no one taught you the importance of brevity or balance in writing when trying to make a persuasive argument.

Poetic license? What a cunt. Writers like you punish your readers with each and every unnecessary Obfuscation. You should be bared from writing anything.

Oh look! I went to college, I have lifetime debt! Google is free and nobody told me!

Guess I better call the Board of Regents of the University System of Maryland & tell 'em they can have their Degree back...
Wonder if it's too late to ask for a REFUND? $$$


And BTW, the brackets [], dashes--, & ellipses ... are what I call my "poetic license"...it's just a way (MY WAY) of stating that my thoughts/feelings are ever-evolving & constantly in motion, even when I'm putting them in print...
[just my lil' creative quirk when i'm on forum/op boards & social media...]

[goatman]

Dude, you're thick and you suck. You ought to get a refund because no one taught you the importance of brevity or balance in writing when trying to make a persuasive argument.

Poetic license? What a cunt. Writers like you punish your readers with each and every unnecessary Obfuscation. You should be bared from writing anything.

Oh look! I went to college, I have lifetime debt! Google is free and nobody told me!

You left out "NARCISSIST", "Bombastic, Pompous Ass", "Brillant but vapid ultimately lazy pseudo-intellectual", "Creative but undisciplined asshole" & "Well-Mannered, borderline sociopath"

Nope..., Not on ANY pape:r never had a loan don't owe a thing...(thank you work-study, parttime hours at Kaiser Permanente, various white-collar jobs & Uncle Sam for all those frequent deployments that really saved my ass back when I thought plastic & "keeping up with the Joneses" was the American Dream.") I may not get to Heaven, but at least no Big Bank owns my soul--or my ASS!

[Jamie French]

Nah, you're none of those things. You're writing would be engaging if that were the case. You're milquetoast, retire weary and miserable at 65, middle management material at best.

You left out "NARCISSIST", "Bombastic, Pompous Ass", "Brillant but vapid ultimately lazy pseudo-intellectual", "Creative but undisciplined asshole" & "Well-Mannered, borderline sociopath"<3 <3 <3

[GroobySteven]

Guess I better call the Board of Regents of the University System of Maryland & tell 'em they can have their Degree back...
Wonder if it's too late to ask for a REFUND? $$$

If it was in communication studies, you should probably ask for a refund.