Men who are attracted to transgendered women- Straight, bi, gay?

[MHarrigan82]

Every time these threads pops up I shake my head. Bluesoul grow up dude every body has there own opinions on the subject.

[my my my!]

Every time these threads pops up I shake my head. Bluesoul grow up dude every body has there own opinions on the subject.

shake your head why? because you think the question is silly? sorry if it seems directed at you, that's why i asked, if it's not, im sorry, but this goes out to all the , "not this thread again *sigh" people:

It is quite serious to some people. It's as serious as the trans admirer being rejected and losing his family and friends just for being "gay".

You might not realize, but "straight" people outnumber gays by about 100 to 1. And they do INFLUENCE the way a gay person can live and how they can express themselves. The world is far from a "oh im gay and everyone is ok with it" utopia

Please show a little more respect to this subject, it's a completely valid question , and yes, everytime it comes up.

The person asking it might be contemplating leaving their Transwoman lover or abandoning admiration and desire for relationship with a transwoman , just based on what society might say, so it is quite serious.

So, please, new people on this forum. ask this question , you shall receive answers. and those that don't like these threads, the "omg , not this thread again", stay the hell out of it then. Click on a party thread , or another thread.

[EvaCassini]

Being in a relationship with a transperson is a completely different boat to ride. I shall explain.

Gay men and women couples...easily can be open or closed about their orientation; the latter being if they reside in a conservative state/city.


The big problem for those who are attracted to transpersons, is not a matter of "open sexual orientation" for society ( though that is what they say and also what others believe and assume ). It's a matter of those people having self acceptance and self esteem issues. If a guy is not accepting of himself wholly as being a person who is attracted to transpeople, then said guy will be very doubtful of such feelings and become insatiably inquisitive; to the point to where they just end up making the wrong decisions they could regret.

I.E. breaking up with trans-gf, strictly dating cis-women, staying single and/or not even making efforts to engage in interaction face to face, as a result from being afraid of their inner self.

When we here say "who cares" and "does it really matter", we mean "Dude, love and accept yourself and you won't have any worries. We are here for the very same thing; to admire, contribute, support, and appreciate shemale porn. So just feel welcome and accept yourself...oh, and have fun too."

So sit back, relax, pump out some digit juice, mingle, and chat
I mean come on...it's not like the NSA is operated by Hitler...

[RallyCola]

given eva's post...i can't help but think that transgendered people and those that love them are the "new gay"...let me explain.

we have a tedious sense of acceptance in 2013 of gay people that we did not have in 1980, for example. Is it a perfect and respectful world? Obviously not because gay haters are more entrenched than ever but gay acceptance is also more mainstream than ever in many places.

so...as with gay culture, and all other social movements, transgendered issues are not yet really part of the cultural lexicon and are the "new gay," that is, what needs to be understood, respected and accepted next. gay characters in entertainment and gay celebrities are now the norm yet transpeople are still risque. Take for example Dallas Buyers Club and Jared Leto..if he were just a gay man in that movie, it would not be a big deal.

agree or no?

[EvaCassini]

right. Trangender peoples are honestly the "last" group of minorities. There were blacks, women, gays, and now... us. ( unless some new sub-species of human crawls out from the ground who are purple and have 3 penises and really big heads with no noses ...lol )

The "new gay" kind of makes sense, but there are two entities in it of itself.

A - There's the people who are attracted to trans.

B - Then there's THE trans people. ( without us, there wouldn't be this problem, this forum wouldn't be here along with the porn, we would all have very different lives )

I already mentioned group "A" in my last post. But as for group "B", we have a long way before we can live our lives fully, happily, and prosperously. "A" can hide and deny ( like a gay or lesbian can ) ...but "B" can't. In "mainstream" ( TV, film, media ) we are the butt of jokes. We are "going to hell" according to religion ( bullshit...there's no hell dumb asses, or a bi-polar, childish, selfish god ). We have no rights, no healthcare for the most part, we can't be in the military ( I know first hand ); we are fighting to be equal.

[giovanni_hotel]

Eva and Rally nailed it!!!

[Ben]

I've been with both TS and women in my life. They all have different opinions on the topic. Some women have told me I'm bi and transgendered women have called me everything from straight, bi, and gay. Would love to hear everyone's thoughts.

It depends on how one sees oneself. I mean, only you know you.
I think David Bowie used to identify as bisexual. Now he identifies as straight. So it could hinge on all sorts of things: time in your life, attitudinal changes etc, etc.
Human beings are very complex creatures.
Plus it makes very little difference to me how people identify themselves.

[Valentine_80]

Being in a relationship with a transperson is a completely different boat to ride. I shall explain.

Gay men and women couples...easily can be open or closed about their orientation; the latter being if they reside in a conservative state/city.


The big problem for those who are attracted to transpersons, is not a matter of "open sexual orientation" for society ( though that is what they say and also what others believe and assume ). It's a matter of those people having self acceptance and self esteem issues. If a guy is not accepting of himself wholly as being a person who is attracted to transpeople, then said guy will be very doubtful of such feelings and become insatiably inquisitive; to the point to where they just end up making the wrong decisions they could regret.

I.E. breaking up with trans-gf, strictly dating cis-women, staying single and/or not even making efforts to engage in interaction face to face, as a result from being afraid of their inner self.

When we here say "who cares" and "does it really matter", we mean "Dude, love and accept yourself and you won't have any worries. We are here for the very same thing; to admire, contribute, support, and appreciate shemale porn. So just feel welcome and accept yourself...oh, and have fun too."

So sit back, relax, pump out some digit juice, mingle, and chat
I mean come on...it's not like the NSA is operated by Hitler...

Well said.

I've deffo finished with ts girls in the past when I wish I hadn't. All down to me struggling with my own feeling about myself.

I would like to meet someone again, but I fucking hate ts dating / sex sites for the following reasons:

1. I genuinely can't be arsed to compete with about a million men trying to convince a hot ts girl to meet them.

2. It's all sex, that's what those sites are all about.

3. I'm too lazy/busy to even try browsing each day.

4. Reading some profiles with their rules and regulations about messaging them just puts me right off.

So where am I going to meet one again? I absolutely hated the one and only time I went to this club called way out in town (London)

Do I have to just wait until I meet a girl naturally like I do with genetic girls?

Sorry for the rant and I'm probably posting in the wrong thread but I can't be arsed to start a new thread.

P.S the last ts girl I dated was lovely, 21, beautiful and working in London. She was great and I fucked it up because I couldn't introduce her to my friends or family so she got fed up and dumped me. I won't say her name because I can pretty much guarantee someone will know her on here, she has about 1000 friend requests a day on Facebook, it was a joke.

But I'm ready to meet someone special and be the normal boyfriend... Just don't want to go online or those shitty clubs.

Some advice would be very helpful

[trish]

The one question important to me is, "Will you still love me when my transition is complete?"

[RallyCola]

The "new gay" kind of makes sense, but there are two entities in it of itself.

A - There's the people who are attracted to trans.

B - Then there's THE trans people. ( without us, there wouldn't be this problem, this forum wouldn't be here along with the porn, we would all have very different lives )

i do think, that acceptance of group b has to come before acceptance of A.

It is clear to me that transwomen and transmen will need to be their own advocates because group a, the admirers, can be marginalized as fetishists whereas people striving to be happy with themselves are more likely to be taken seriously when society at large is willing to listen. this sentiment is ever proven to be correct on this board where men consistently ask the question about gay vs. str8 because they are consumed by their own sexual desires and less concerned with how the transgendered person sees themselves. admirers often marginalize themselves with this debate because of fear of a label.