Bummer Man

[smithken]

Yeah, I'm the asshole for being miffed that a guy misrepresented himself so as to use my services as an escort without paying for them.

Granted I was naive to believe him, but naivety on my part hardly excuses him from culpability.

Well ya, you can't have it both ways. You met off a tranny admirer board that give reviews on transexual prostitutes! You should a just wrote him your rates and be done with it. Go to legit places for dating

[ohioguy13]

He sent you a picture as count chocula? wow tell me that's not a red flag!
kidding My best advice is we can all take the baggage we experience and keep it with us or just let the assholes screw up that one day in our life and not miss a really good person down the road because your defenses are up. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders Im sure your bs alarm will be up but I hope you find that someone to share life with! You deserve it

[VictoriaVeil]

There is a blacklist among providers. Someone like you describe should go on that list.

[tsdvdman]

I'm kinda tempted to send him a bill for an overnight appointment care of the law firm at which he is employed.

Your attitude is the reason why guys wouldn't even think about attempting a serious dating relationship with a TS. One bad night.date and you are ready to potentially ruin the guys career. You know how many GG's been on dates with douchebags and "players"? You don't hear them using the gender trump card. You went on a date..maybe you fucked a guy for free for a change. What's the big fucking deal? Put yourself on MATCH or POF, you'll have more suitors to "blackmail" than you can handle

[tsmirandameadows]

Your attitude is the reason why guys wouldn't even think about attempting a serious dating relationship with a TS. One bad night.date and you are ready to potentially ruin the guys career. You know how many GG's been on dates with douchebags and "players"? You don't hear them using the gender trump card. You went on a date..maybe you fucked a guy for free for a change. What's the big fucking deal? Put yourself on MATCH or POF, you'll have more suitors to "blackmail" than you can handle

So I can't make an angry comment after getting majorly hurt? And how many GGs have no legitimate career options besides sex work and all the insecurity and self-loathing which comes from being a transsexual? The bottom line is that he hurt me, he fucked with my livelihood, and he crassly manipulated someone in an emotionally vulnerable position. And I'm the asshole for making a non-serious comment in sadness, disappointment, and anger? Your attitude is the reason why many TS women don't see men as anything more than losers who pay the bills.

[tsdvdman]

and all the insecurity and self-loathing which comes from being a transsexual?

and he crassly manipulated someone in an emotionally vulnerable position.

Judging by this you are not dating material right now anyway. You need to do some internal work. And, he "majorly hurt" you after one date? Stick to sex work and porn forget about dating right now

[tsmirandameadows]

and all the insecurity and self-loathing which comes from being a transsexual?

and he crassly manipulated someone in an emotionally vulnerable position.

Judging by this you are not dating material right now anyway. You need to do some internal work. And, he "majorly hurt" you after one date? Stick to sex work and porn forget about dating right now

I gather from your comments that you really have no interest in the lives of transsexual women -- you're just here for free jack off material -- which is fine, but don't presume to lecture me if that's the case. As a closeted transwoman, you spend your whole life withdrawing further and further socially, just dreaming and wishing you could have the life and experiences that genetic women get to take for granted. Then you gradually reach a crisis point and decide to take that leap and transition. For a while the response to that decision is to be shunned, laughed at, denied employment, and generally made to be a pariah. Then, gradually, your transition begins to build momentum, slowly at first, but then it snowballs and suddenly the world begins to see you as female and respond to you as such. The life you could only imagine and dream of during those long years of unlife and isolation and despair which characterize being closeted trans suddenly is becoming your reality and you can only wonder if you are dreaming. Then, a guy asks you out and you have a night which in every detail matches what you always wanted and you begin to feel that perhaps what came before was the dream, or rather nightmare, and you have finally awoken into life as it actually is and should be.

Then you discover the man had no interest in you and just wanted to manipulate his way into fucking a porn model.

See why that would hurt even if you only went on one date and, while attracted to the man in question, were not yet attached emotionally?

[dderek123]

I guess part of transitioning is learning how to deal with the opposite sex while in your new form. Love ya Miranda, you're clever so it won't take long to be dating savvy.

[tsdvdman]

I gather from your comments that you really have no interest in the lives of transsexual women -- you're just here for free jack off material -- which is fine, but don't presume to lecture me if that's the case. As a closeted transwoman, you spend your whole life withdrawing further and further socially, just dreaming and wishing you could have the life and experiences that genetic women get to take for granted. Then you gradually reach a crisis point and decide to take that leap and transition. For a while the response to that decision is to be shunned, laughed at, denied employment, and generally made to be a pariah. Then, gradually, your transition begins to build momentum, slowly at first, but then it snowballs and suddenly the world begins to see you as female and respond to you as such. The life you could only imagine and dream of during those long years of unlife and isolation and despair which characterize being closeted trans suddenly is becoming your reality and you can only wonder if you are dreaming. Then, a guy asks you out and you have a night which in every detail matches what you always wanted and you begin to feel that perhaps what came before was the dream, or rather nightmare, and you have finally awoken into life as it actually is and should be.

Then you discover the man had no interest in you and just wanted to manipulate his way into fucking a porn model.

See why that would hurt even if you only went on one date and, while attracted to the man in question, were not yet attached emotionally?

I don't profess to know you..but physically you seem to be on the right path. All of what you just described is real..your truth and many other TS AND gg's.
However..and I'm just going to go out on a limb here but maybe..just maybe...somewhere during this romantic date you exhibited some of the "unstableness and insecurities and even a bit of "stalkeshness" that you are expressing here..and he seen that as RED FLAGS and ran as far and fast away as he could..after of course (like most men do) getting some ass. Did he pay for dinner? Did he treat to the movies?...Did he fuck your brains out? Get over it and just chalk it up to experience!!

[Jericho]

Got played, it happens...Move on