Ten things not to say to a Trans Person

[nysprod]

I'd be curious to see what the more knowledgeable people have to say about ladyboys who go Trans strictly as a business.

[giovanni_hotel]

I'd be curious to see what the more knowledgeable people have to say about ladyboys who go Trans strictly as a business.

Except there's really no way to know that unless she tells you, or you see her after she de-transitions.

[amberskyi]

This is the most contentious of the things not to say, as it represents one point for view for all transgendered people as if it were universal. There are transgendered people -I don't know how many- who do indeed decide to change their gender identity, sometimes in their 30s or 40s or later. These are men who have apparently lived a 'normal' life, have married and fathered children, but experience a crisis at a later point in their lives which they attribute to a blockage which has prevented them from seeing themselves 'as they truly are', which is as a woman. I am not in a position to judge them, but I did meet one person (admittedly not married with children) whose determination to become a woman in my view, and on his explanation, was a psychological distortion which presented this person with gender re-assignment as a solution to problems whose origin probably did not lie in gender or sexuality at all, and I suspect that some of the men who have been through SRS and regretted it have only after 'the operation' realised that gender was not at the root of their unhappiness. And, as other posters in other threads have pointed out, some Thai ladyboys make this an economic choice for say, ten years, to make some money, before reverting to their status as a man.

Just because one waits to transition later in their life doesn't mean they didn't struggle with these feelings their whole life.
I have a close friend who didn't start seriously pursuing their transition until late 20s and lived like a hereto man until than.however as a child she expressed her transgendered feelings and was sent to a therapist.believing that she said something wrong she shut down and tried to repress those feelings.
the point was being made for people who are truly transgendered.yes the act to transition may be a choice but having these feelings isnt.i do have to agree that its rather odd for someone to one day wake up and suddenly have feelings of being the wrong gender when most of their life they identified comfortably as their birth gender.i would be suspicious if those individuals really were trans as most girls i know struggled with gender identity from a very young age but im not a mental health professional so who knows **shrugs**
In the case of people who transition for perceived economical benefits are really transsexuals and obviously don't apply.

[VictoriaVeil]

worth revisiting for perspective....for you number 4's.

[runround04]

Anyone that would ask those questions is just socially retarded to start with, the Trans framework just shows it better. I bet the ask black people if they all know each other too. This world is getting stupider by the day.

[TatianaSummer]

You forgot "How Much do you charge?"
LOL
Also it depends who is asking you this, on the way you take it.
In My case I don't mind getting asked any of the 10, I am completely confident in myself, how I look, if I pass or not, etc etc. My believe is that if your self esteem is on the floor then some of these questions might trigger a negative reaction.
I sometimes ask some of these questions to some of my ts friends and they don't seem to get bother but then again is not the same from one person to another.

BTW nice thread!

[Willie Escalade]

Thank you. I try to be civilized once in awhile lol...

[nysprod]

There's a book on this, apparently.

[Corran]

Howzabout...."Can I touch it?"

[dderek123]

#11

"Am I gay for being attracted to you?"