Well, I guess my life is over...

[amberskyi]

None of my damn business girl but I would advise any transwoman to steer very well clear of any man who is racked by self-doubt and, in this case, obvious self-loathing, just by being intimate with another human being. Unfortunately I think transwomen are often a target for men with some major issus that they really should spend time resolving before they export them onto others. I'm not saying they're bad people, just, mmmm, fucked in the head a bit.

Of course you know that cause you are smart and level headed.

Oh trust most ts woman learn to spot these types after getting a little bit of experience and will avoid such men like the plague (unless it's business of course).it's usually the younger girls who are just starting out that encounter these types and really get hurt.
I understand that for allot of guys there is a questioning, confused, "coming out" period but one really shouldn't forget that these woman that have you feeling all confused are still human beings.no one wants to hear how disgusted and shameful they make you feel.to be honest if your that disgusted by what you do than fucking stop or gain the balls to live your life how you see fit.

[hippifried]

I don't think you're so much worried about rubbers as you are about a rubber room.

[Tosser]

Here's the deal dude:

Life is risky. About 30,000 people die in car wrecks in America every year. I enjoy driving. No one calls me crazy or sick for doing it. I also enjoy smoking a couple cigarettes a day. It may or may not give me cancer or other diseases. You weigh the risks. The fact of the matter is, while your behavior in this instance was "risky" compared to wearing a condom, the risk of you contracting HIV from this one encounter is still extremely low. Educate yourself and learn the statistics. You might already know them. However, the fact that you allow yourself to feel shame and guilt about fucking tgirls at all, only amplifies your fear and anxiety about HIV, making it more than simply caution, making it sheer irrationality. You really need to make some actual friends and connections in the community or perhaps a gay friend or two to realize that YOU ARE NOT SICK IN THE HEAD. I stopped trying to analyze my sexuality a long time ago. Basically, I like to date and fuck GG's, I like to get fucked and not date hung Tgirls, and once in a very long while get turned by but will not even think of actually fucking a huge hung scary dude. I enjoy myself. I sometimes get barebacked by Tgirls. I get tested very regularly and nearly all of my unprotected encounters have been with porn star girls who also get regularly tested and still work. It's a risk, but I take it. Your behavior is not nearly as risky as mine. Do yourself a favor and allow yourself to be yourself. Your truth will find it's way out anyways, so it might as well be on your own terms. Go and get tested! You are in NYC? I'm in L.A. and go get tested at the Hollywood GLBT center for free, which includes a free NAAT test, which can detect HIV virus in as little as ten days. Wait twenty days! Then go find a similar clinic in NYC. I'm sure there is one.

Oh....and love yourself!

Love yourself?
The kind of behavior outlined in this quote shows self love??
Self destructive more likely
You need to wait 90 days.
Period
I get annoyed hearing about people who routinely bareback.
Saying that because they're "porn stars" makes it safer.....Never heard of TS pornstars dying of AIDS?
No?
Google it
The HIV scourge will continue until EVERONE uses condoms.
ALWAYS!
The only way to be sure is to both be tested after 90 days of safe sex.
Both negative?
Bareback all you want.
BUT ONLY WITH EACH OTHER.
The ignorance regarding HIV and taking chances, spreading the disease ( you are HIGHLY infectious at first infection, but showing negative on an HIV test) is really depressing.
I wish people would be responsible and not rationalize risky, proven dangerous behavior.
I don't wish harm on anyone.
I wish people would protect themselves and others.
As for dealing with internal conflicts regarding sexuality, everyone has their own road to follow and there isn't a one size fits all solution.

[Westheangelino]

Love yourself?
The kind of behavior outlined in this quote shows self love??
Self destructive more likely
You need to wait 90 days.
Period
I get annoyed hearing about people who routinely bareback.
Saying that because they're "porn stars" makes it safer.....Never heard of TS pornstars dying of AIDS?
No?
Google it
The HIV scourge will continue until EVERONE uses condoms.
ALWAYS!
The only way to be sure is to both be tested after 90 days of safe sex.
Both negative?
Bareback all you want.
BUT ONLY WITH EACH OTHER.
The ignorance regarding HIV and taking chances, spreading the disease ( you are HIGHLY infectious at first infection, but showing negative on an HIV test) is really depressing.
I wish people would be responsible and not rationalize risky, proven dangerous behavior.
I don't wish harm on anyone.
I wish people would protect themselves and others.
As for dealing with internal conflicts regarding sexuality, everyone has their own road to follow and there isn't a one size fits all solution.

This is one of the more naive posts I've seen. It's YOU who have no idea what you are talking about regarding testing. 90 days? This isn't the 90's anymore, dude. Tests that only detect antibodies to the virus have been surpassed by tests that actually detect the virus itself.

Also, wait 90 days and then only bareback each other??? If you knew anything about the spread of HIV you would realize that one of the main vectors for HIV is one partner being positive in a "monogamous" relationship and the other not knowing and thus being exposed many many many times. Why do you think black women are at such high risk and have much higher rates of HIV than white women? One reason is the down low. Black men are not the only ones in the closet, of course, but no one can deny that the stigma of being gay is larger in the black community. Which brings me back to something I said before and hinted at in my previous reply: THE CLOSET KILLS. When you hide your true self and desires it will almost certainly lead to stuff that severely affects your life in other ways.

[sheyum]

wow
charged thread
and there ARE many ways to respond to a comment like that of the OP
but maybe we should cut him a bit of slack..

he fucked up--now he's scared..everyone doesnt use protection at SOME point..not just with t-girls but with GGs as well..
so we shouldnt totally judge..
sure--its not the SMARTEST thing to do..but

now we dont know who this girl was...was she a pro--or just a girl he met?
but in any case.....he's freaking out..

as far as the self--loathing things is concerned...yeah--he needs to get a grip for sure.....but just because he has alot of GGs at his disposal but is constantly drawn to Tgirls..isnt cause for him to fucking hate himslelf
he needs to deal with that for sure..and accept himself for who he his..
whats wrong with it?!

as far as the girls on the forum being insulted..well..
i dont think he meant to offend..hes just focusing on himself right now.
THEY shouldnt take it personally---its clearly his own issue...and doesnt really cast all Transgendered people as perverse or diseased...its just that The OP has conflicts he needs to deal with


so--EVERYONE needs to lighten up i think

and OP---better take a look inside and accept yourself for who you are....then--use some common sense safe sex practices!!

[amberskyi]

wow
charged thread
and there ARE many ways to respond to a comment like that of the OP
but maybe we should cut him a bit of slack..

he fucked up--now he's scared..everyone doesnt use protection at SOME point..not just with t-girls but with GGs as well..
so we shouldnt totally judge..
sure--its not the SMARTEST thing to do..but

now we dont know who this girl was...was she a pro--or just a girl he met?
but in any case.....he's freaking out..

as far as the self--loathing things is concerned...yeah--he needs to get a grip for sure.....but just because he has alot of GGs at his disposal but is constantly drawn to Tgirls..isnt cause for him to fucking hate himslelf
he needs to deal with that for sure..and accept himself for who he his..
whats wrong with it?!

as far as the girls on the forum being insulted..well..
i dont think he meant to offend..hes just focusing on himself right now.
THEY shouldnt take it personally---its clearly his own issue...and doesnt really cast all Transgendered people as perverse or diseased...its just that The OP has conflicts he needs to deal with


so--EVERYONE needs to lighten up i think

and OP---better take a look inside and accept yourself for who you are....then--use some common sense safe sex practices!!

So a group of people shouldn't take offense when some one talks about how disgusting and perverse said group of people are? Really? In what world?
Let's substitute the word tgirl for nigger and see how many people feel a certain way.even better let a girl write something similar but substitute the word tgirl for "trans admirer"and see how many of y'all start bitching lol

[Tosser]

90 days
plain and simple.
Self delusional people like you are spreading this disease.
When you are first infected, you are the highest viral load.
Plain and simple.
REAL science
Any internet search will show you the truth.
Try the US Center of Disease control site...or any number of other govt sites.
Take control and stop deluding yourself and others.
Take control of your sexual health .
Have respect for the sexual health of you partners.
I wont respond to anymore posts on this so don't bother with another self delusional exercise in self denial.
I truly hope all is well with you and chances are it is.
Take heart from that and protect yourself going forward.
peace out

[nysprod]

So a group of people shouldn't take offense when some one talks about how disgusting and perverse said group of people are? Really? In what world?
Let's substitute the word tgirl for nigger and see how many people feel a certain way.even better let a girl write something similar but substitute the word tgirl for "trans admirer"and see how many of y'all start bitching lol

Ok, I can see where you're coming from however, I thought you might be "bigger" than this.

The guy is freaking out because he's now at high risk of being HIV+...he's obviously very angry with himself for being so stupid and careless...so don't take what he said in his self-loathing diatribe personally.

Few of us are gonna be thinking clearly when we're panicking, so cut him some slack.

[Corran]

Dude..I barebacked a gg last. Is my life over too?
Same principal applies...unprotected sex.

[Westheangelino]

90 days
plain and simple.
Self delusional people like you are spreading this disease.
When you are first infected, you are the highest viral load.
Plain and simple.
REAL science
Any internet search will show you the truth.
Try the US Center of Disease control site...or any number of other govt sites.
Take control and stop deluding yourself and others.
Take control of your sexual health .
Have respect for the sexual health of you partners.
I wont respond to anymore posts on this so don't bother with another self delusional exercise in self denial.
I truly hope all is well with you and chances are it is.
Take heart from that and protect yourself going forward.
peace out

Well, then I guess I should sue the GLBT center here in L.A. and all the other clinics across the country that tell their patients they are negative after running NAAT/PCR tests. Guess they're all in it together and want to spread a plague.