The paradox of dating a transgendered woman

[ClareSensual]

Blueboy, I would recommend that you join Transgenderdate.com. Post an honest, detailed profile with at least a few photos. Then be patient, positive and hopeful.

[SpoogeMonkey]

how can we be deemed gay if we like cocks on our women?

jeez.. does it make me a vegetarian if I like a cabbage on a badger?

wanker!

[MacShreach]

how can we be deemed gay if we like cocks on our women?

jeez.. does it make me a vegetarian if I like a cabbage on a badger?

wanker!

ROFLMAO great to see someone retains the anarchic sense of fun that once made this place great

[Ceris893]

I'm strait. Specifically, I'm not attracted to men at all. My previous relationships have been with women.

I have however, always had a thing for transgendered/transexual women. I love the femininity and the extra effort most girls make to appear womanly, with the nails and the hair and the heels - it all appeals to the red blooded man in me - way more so than the ambiguous hipster girls I meet most of the time.

I'm 28, I'm a 'top', I have a nice apartment/car/bla bla bla. I'm a good looking boy (just sayin') - I'm a catch for anyone, regardless of gender (ok, I'm not Brad Pitt).

So, here's the problem...

I am perfectly willing to have a TG partner - in the open. My friends are all aware and cool with my sexuality, they're good people and I trust them; yet every time I go out (in London) all the TG/TS nights are trashy as hell. There's rarely a girl present you would introduce to your dog, let alone your friends. I'm talking about sexually aggressive, cheap looking, foul mouthed girls who just want cock cock cock - and then complain that nobody loves them for who they are.

While this is just what the doctor order sometimes, it's difficult to envisage myself meeting someone at the way out/trannyshack/fucking 'stunners'... Who I could have a genuine relationship with.

Don't get me wrong - there are beautiful and wonderful women at these events, ive met so many genuinly lovely people at way out etc., but it's rare and very often they are 'working'.

I read the posts here and I hear a lot of noise from girls complaining that guys just want to use them for sex and nothing more. Well, perhaps the fault lies a little with them also. In order to get respect one has to deserve respect. If you behave like an easy lay - that's all you'll ever be.

Listen, I like a good fuck as much as anyone. A one night stand is universal. Saturdays are for fun and no one is stopping you from having it in any way you like. I'm just trying to point out that women (transgendered or not) will be treated how they behave. A lady is a lady no matter what she looks like or what age she is.

Anyway - I'm aware I'm sounding a bit old fashioned and moralistic.

As this is the Internet...here comes the ranting....

I agree with you - I'd definitely have a transsexual girlfriend, it doesn't matter if she has a penis, but I'd be reluctant to go with one who was escorting/camming/pornstar. She'd also have to NOT draw attention to herself - if she truly identifies as a woman why would she bother to say she's a transsexual.

My reasons are my own, people are free to live as they want, but I do have standards where I'd not want my partner showing off all over the internet under her own name - having myself attached to that stigma wouldn't be good, at least in America. If I was in Japan, where its much less of an issue, I'd be more lenient. Also, my secondary reasoning for not having an escort or a pornstar is I'd not want some trash giving her STI's off his dirty cock and then I have to be at risk.

[Bunzee]

totally agree regarding venue. when you go to night clubs/bars, you meet trash regardless of gender. every time i go, i am reminded of this. has nothing to do with ts/tg.

[Tyler___Durden]

The challenge is... as always... venue.
way out/trannyshack/'stunners'! gulp!
The types of transwomen you describe as searching for do not go to TS/ TG nights at bars. More often than not, they work 9-5 jobs; fly under the radar and no one knows they are trans beyond those closest to them.

Blueboy, why not go all the way and try Legs800 or Sweet Wednesdays?
You're spot on Wendy. I've been with Mr Tyler over 4 years;
he didn't meet me in a tranny club.

[Tyler___Durden]

The types of transwomen you describe as searching for do not go to TS/ TG nights at bars. More often than not, they work 9-5 jobs; fly under the radar and no one knows they are trans beyond those closest to them.

Exactly. The difficulty that presents is, however, obvious.

I know, the OP should transition.
Then he'll have other transsexual women's numbers filling his (her) speed dial
and he (her) can subsequently spend huge amounts of time dodging speculative messages from hopeful men.

[Tyler___Durden]

ESCORTS, SEX WORKERS, people like YOU!
He doesn't want your type. he was a proper girl. I think that transsexual women are teh strongest peopel in the world. All the shit they put up with to get to be the person they felt they should hhve been born as. They don't cheapen themselves or devalue their worth by speeding things up as a sex worker. They bide their time, they endure and they look for REAL jobs and REAL relationships.
I'm starting to think that alot of tgirls still have the cross dresser mentality. They get addicted to daily sex and money. Transsexuals should transition into women, not into sluts.
Don't mean to offend anyone btw. Just sayin'

Clueless....

[MacShreach]

I agree with you - I'd definitely have a transsexual girlfriend, it doesn't matter if she has a penis, but I'd be reluctant to go with one who was escorting/camming/pornstar. She'd also have to NOT draw attention to herself - if she truly identifies as a woman why would she bother to say she's a transsexual.

I agree. We all do what we have to do and there's no shame in sex work, at least not from my perspective. But I know myself well enough to know I could never go deeper. Plus I have heard far too many horror stories, which there's no need to go into. I have done plenty of p4p, enjoyed it, moved on. Nice time with, usually, very nice girls. But p4p is not an emotional attachment and for me personally, a romantic relationship, with a sex worker, would be a route to madness, and one that I know is paved with broken hearts. (Being friends, enjoying off duty drinks and so on, is fine of course.)

I'm the kind of soppy big schmuck that really gets fucked up in situations like that so I avoid 'em.

[nysprod]

But p4p is not an emotional attachment and for me personally, a romantic relationship, with a sex worker, would be a route to madness, and one that I know is paved with broken hearts. (Being friends, enjoying off duty drinks and so on, is fine of course.)

I'm the kind of soppy big schmuck that really gets fucked up in situations like that so I avoid 'em.

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