How do you break the news to your wife?

[tranlove]

Forget about it.
Or get a divorce now and save your self a lot of trouble in the future.

Your wife wants to fuck you with a strap on. So she is willing to be adventurous, at least and maybe hetero flexible at best.

You won't give it up to your wife, but you are willing to give your wife up to someone else and for you to fuck someone else.

Is your wife into swinging, cuckolding or being a "hotwife"?
If not, based on what you have posted, there is little future for you other than infidelity and eventual divorce.

I just described the scenarios that I can work with, we had talked about swinging and visited a club as voyeurs,there was some bisexual action mmf and ffm and we ended up very horny and ended up fuking while watching another couple, we talked to them about swapping but didn't do it.

[Tyler___Durden]

Look at some different kinds of porn together.
See if she reacts positively to trans porn.
If she shows an interest, together look at a local Ts Escort ad & website.
If still positive fansasise, together, about jointly booking that escort.
Do this together a couple of times. If she suggests the booking, go along with it in the same fantasy kind of way. Second time she suggest it, Suggest you do this for real. (as long as the relationship is flexible enough to bring in a third party in for sex fun)
Together, ring the Escort, both talk with her then book a gig.

A couple went through the above sequence with me a short while ago.
So it does work.

[Prospero]

Smart words from Tyler ....

[Tyler___Durden]

Tyler chasin' the money!
Oh interestingly, their good sex life got better. (anecdotal, from him)
And while it was his initial idea, she was more into me than him.
Subsequently I've talked a bit with both of them.
She had never had a gay experience before, but thought a little about it in the past.
I asked if she might now try a woman with a vagina. She said that she preferred
the idea of a woman with a penis. So this shows that some married women
are open to the idea of sex with trans-women.
We're doing a repeat session, next time their teen late son is away.

[TSBootyLondon]

mmmmm so tricky because what you enjoy as a fantasy may not merge well into reality.
Women can never be read correctly, they are more emotionally attached/involved than men. What one finds erotic and exciting in the current moment (In the bedroom) can have horrible consequences in the real moment (Living with the fall out)!

My only advise to you will be, should you get to play this out, that you show more attention to your wife than you do the person that you are bringing into your bed.
I say this because you need to approach the subject with great care and more importantly once in the moment you need to ensure that she is fully aware that you still find her as sexy as you ever did.

The last thing that you want to do is spend the months that following dealing with her insecurities (If she has them) It would not be uncommon for her to experience flash backs after, the good ones will be those of enjoyment, the bad will be her memories of you spending more of your attention on the third person and worrying about how she now appeals to you sexually.
This could make her feel very inadequate and I fear could cause further issues for you

(I hope that i have not caused you further confusion, I think its great that you are putting allot of thought into seeing if she would be interested in the first place however I think that you also need to consider the actual encounter and your wife's feeling after it occurs. Trust me when I say that her emotions will be as mixed after as they were before and if anything more so after)

Swinging is dangerous regardless of the third parties sexuality or gender especially if new to an existing marriage.
It is more acceptable to bring another woman into the bed after all every man dreams of a threesome with 2 women, bringing a TS, TV or man into the equation's definitely needs to more tact

Good Luck xx Bella
(PS I speak with experience honeys xx)

Smart words from Tyler ....

[Prospero]

Ohhhh spill the beans please Miss Bella ("I speak with experience.")

While I approved of Tyler thoughts regarding a strategy of steering a fantasy into reality I think Bella has some very important and serious points to make.

And I suspect men would have the same residual and complex feelings if the threesome were man, wife/girlfriend and another man.

The thrill (potential or actual ) of any such encounter HAS to be balanced against the complexities of human emotions. For sure your partner will never-ever look at you in quite the same light as he or she did before.

The genie, once out of the lamp can't be put back in.

[TSBootyLondon]

EXACTLY MY POINT PROSPERO

RE Spill the beans.... A lady never kisses and tells sir.....
AND in my case if I did tell all I would only be accused of writing a fake review

[giovanni_hotel]

If you ever do get with a tgirl, it's probably a wrap. Lusting after TS women isn't something that really comes and goes. If you've got that itch, it's for the duration.

[nysprod]

I don't want her to do anything that she doesn't want, I just want her to understand my attraction to transexuals, I wouldn't go to the next level without her blessing, I'm not cheating on my wife, I would be perfectly happy to jack off to my fantasies, I just don't want to hide this from her.

Ok, now I know you're full of it...aside from that, brain-o, it obviously hasn't dawned on you that letting your wife indulge her strap-on fantasy could go a long way toward lubricating things vis-a-vis your new obsession...

So stfu and toftt.

[tranlove]

Ok, now I know you're full of it...aside from that, brain-o, it obviously hasn't dawned on you that letting your wife indulge her strap-on fantasy could go a long way toward lubricating things vis-a-vis your new obsession...

So stfu and toftt.

Don't get why I'm full of anything, I let her finger my ass while she masturbates and she knows I don't really enjoy it but she knows I love to hear her cum, I'm just not into stuff up my ass it doesn't feel good, we had talked about thresomes even with another guy, she'll like him to be bi so I can do him and I'm not opposed to it,rather excited about it, like I said before don't care if I get labeled as gay, in one of "our talks" while having sex I blurred out "Do you imagine if the girl had a cock? Best of both worlds don't you think?" She was kind of weirded out and things slowed for a second so I moved along and got our rhythm back, after that I just kept the fantasy to myself.