bareback worry

[nysprod]

Please don't see this as being insensitive to your situation, but did you enjoy it? Is it as good as the porno's make it look?

As far as the reality of your situation, friend. I am certain that you'll be alright. Especially if she was so relaxed about it. Get a test...

You outta your friggin' mind college boy?

[nysprod]

If you think you may have been exposed to HIV, you may benefit from a four-week course of anti-HIV medication, known as post exposure prophylaxis (PEP). For treatment to be effective, it needs to be started within 72 hours (three days) of exposure. However, the sooner it is started, the more effective it is.

PEP is usually recommended if:

you have had unprotected vaginal or anal sex with someone who has HIV; or
you have received anal sex from someone with a high chance of having HIV

[Marky_B]

But do we get to find out who the T-girl was?

[Tosser]

Getting tested now will only return an inconclusive result.
You need to wait 90 days.
Yes 90 days.
I know that sucks and I know it will drive you crazy.
This happened to me in Thailand though the circumstances are different ( the condom broke), regardless the whole situation can be very worrying.
I was OK but worried myself sick and I know the mental anguish around worrying, regret and waiting for the results.
The fact she didn't come is good but doesn't put you in the clear.
On the plus side your chances of getting infected are low.
HIV doesn't transfer easily.
For stats by sex act you can look here:http://www.catie.ca/pif/summer-2012/...k-exposure-hiv
This article puts the risk at 1 infection per 71 acts of receptive anal sex with an infected person.
Other studies put the risk at a lower level but this is a cumulative review of the literature and seems to be the latest view and seems to be generally accepted.
Unprotected "topping" puts the risk at 1 in 909 exposures.
Remember these stats refer to sex acts with an infected person.
There's no chance of getting HIV if she was negative.
I'd ask her status. Given her job, I'm sure ( or hope) she gets tested regularly.
If she is positive and is on medication, her viral load will be very low and again, the chance of infection will be low.
Even if she's positive, chances are you're OK.
GET TESTED as its better to know your status.
You can go for PEP, but talk it over with a health professional.
We should all be pretty clear that condoms are the only real precaution...we should also all be clear they sometimes break.
There's no use in blaming anyone .
What's done is done.
How do I know all this?
I've been through it and happily I was fine, but the whole experience was a real eye opener and taught me to have a measure of compassion for all as a result.
Stay well.
See a doctor.
Get tested.
Good Luck

[Genetic]

Timid, best of luck to you bro please keep us all posted as to what happens. Please also name the girl involved, or at least PM Prospero to discuss it with him. I know I'm kinda volunteering him, but he's a moderator and a long standing member of the community so at least if you tell him who it was he can make an informed decision of whether she should be named for this.

[timid1]

Thanks all, long day , had tests , which of course will only show historical stuff etc. I started PEP at lunchtime, and have to go back every Tuesday for the month . The clinic were fairly reassuring.
I take my fair share of the responsibility , I should of been more alert . I've seen this girl five times with no problems, and I like her warmth and attitude. I don't want to damage her rep over what may be perfectly innocent?
Tbh ,as I said the medical staff were fairly reassuring, it's the "zero action " for 90 days that will be a stinker! To quote the Oasis line " Everything that's been has past, the answers in the looking glass" , I can't turn back the clock 24 hrs , but I've had that time to think about my error.
Thanks for your advice and support,
T

[LibertyHarkness]

yes no need to name the girl .. maybe you two just have a good chemistry and it got carried away ..

well you can till have sex just use a condom in the 90days

[Genetic]

yes no need to name the girl .. maybe you two just have a good chemistry and it got carried away ..

I mean this with the utmost respect Lib, but would you accept that as a valid reason if you realised mid session that a regular client was barebacking you?

[STARTUP999]

A few year ago, Linda from El monte told me a condom broke when she was penetrating a client and even though she knew she was ok, he paid her to get tested. Maybe you could ask or pay for your girl to get tested to ease you mind.

[Prospero]

There is no need to pay here in the UK. But it is a good idea that he maybe suggest she also get tested.