Husband Material

[Janna_b]

Isn't the stereotype that skinny girls are great at taking dick

Not this skinny girl...lol. I'd take average to slightly below with proper usage any day!

[Bunzee]

#1 - you have to enjoy persons company and have chemistry
#2 - intelligence/career/looks/well of financially

if you don't have #1, rest is very difficult

[Janna_b]

Chemistry is everything, and can make up for many things you thought was important but really isn't like looks and such in the grand scheme of things.

[Sulka_bewitched_me]

Not this skinny girl...lol. I'd take average to slightly below with proper usage any day!

Hmmm.....where are you located? Maybe we should talk lol.

[Prospero]

I agree with your post in response to mine Amber. What I think Rallycola was expressing was theidea that there is a degree of biological determinism in the way that males and females choose their partners - which goes back to our more primitive roots. There is still, underneath all the feminism of the modern age, a degree of subconscious process of selection going on - the man looking for a woman who will make a good mother and homemaker, the woman selecting a mate who can protect and provide for her. Our conscious selves reject this - and look for all kinds of other qualities as you list. But underneath there are still some pretty primal urges at play.

Don't get me wrong. i think women - both the GG and the TG variety - are infinitely nicer than men most of the time.

[sheyum]

well said Prospero
I fully agree that--at the end of the day..there is indeed alot of primitive stuff that goes into picking mates. and that women (despite all social/femminist movements) do like being protected and taken care of...this is fundamental
BUT--money is not the only way to provide and protect.,
Ive NEVER made alot of money---and have never had a problem finding beautiful gfriends..
To say that all women crave rich me is cynical..and --in my experience..simply not true..

They want a MAN....but Money does not a man make.

[Tara Emory]

What would I be looking for?

1:Partner in Crime
maybe he'd shoot porn with me- far more favorable to me than a guy who would want to "own" me and make me quit porn.

2: Yes, a big penis would be nice - (see above)
3: obviously, chemistry, but knowing who I am and what I do, I would think that you'd have to meet criteria 1 and 2 to have chemistry. For example, I don't think I'm going to meet some super-Christian dude who would want to have a monagamous, non kinky relationship with me and go to church every Sunday- regardless of how the chemistry might be on his end (since all guys base chemistry on how much of an erection their partners give them), i doubt I'd ever have the same chemistry for him.

4: And about $??. It's not simply about 'having money", because how you have money or don't have money says a lot about your potential and your future.

Having grown up very poor, I will have to say that having money means not having to worry about a lot of things. Most people who say "money isn't everything" don't know what ramen noodles taste like or have not been in a situation where they have to drive to work in an uninsured car with a broken taillight they don't have the money to fix- which attracts the attention of the police, leading to tickets and fines, making one more poor.

I'm not saying the above scenario has actually happened to me, but poverty has a way of compounding poverty, and people who are fairly privilidged really don't quite understand that.

That said, as much as I enjoy being "spoiled" and all that nonsense, (with shoes and purses and blah de blah), a man who has money and a good income and is reasonably out of debt mean to me that he "has his shit together", vs someone who has 100grand of student loans, and drifts from job to job and will likely be a liability to have as a partner.

However, growing up poor, I can't quite get over a certain level of comtempt for those are born rich, or are trust fund babies (though if i were in that position, I would use every advantage given to me). And that's me. I dunno. Maybe I'm privilidged too when you come to think of it. As Americans, we're all privilidged compared to if you just happened to have been born in a third world country.

So for me, if a man or woman is a potential partner, their financial situation with careful consideration the context of how they got where they are today is sorta important, because my goals in life are simple:

I want to be happy, and successful, and do what I do and love what I do. maybe my best partner is female, maybe it's male. Who knows, as I'm very bi and I'm open to all sorts of things. But a partner has to be on the same page as my goals, so if a guy wants me to drop what I'm doing and go be his trophy wife- even for all the money in the world that's not going to happen (unless, I suppose, i was still able to have everything i enjoy in life now).

I know that's complicated, but I'm not simple either.

_Tara

[DonnyG]

Neither side? So far only one side has chimed in without a single positive thing to say about woman.it's all "woman only care about money boo hoo..whine whine."
Here's my list of what i look for in a man in order of importance:
Honesty
Intelligence
Self aware
Confident
Supportive
Sexual chemistry
Humorous
Attractive
Financial security (not because i want to live off of him but because I'm not supporting a grown ass man again)

As a trans woman who works in the sex industry i have way more reasons to be jaded by the opposite sex.if i can resist being jaded and manage to keep in mind that all men aren't shit than surely you guys can do the same.

Awe Amber.......I love the truth & love you honesty but the facts speak for themselves. Someone who thinks as you do is few and far between. But I truly believe and support your position because it's what I look for as well. CHEMISTRY & HONESTY ARE PARAMOUNT!

[Tara Emory]

Oh, and good looking young (but probably dim) beefcake guys? For me, they're completely out of the equation (though I guess they'd make good slaves/subs/porn costars), mostly because they are probably so horny all the time that they're screwing a different girl or boy every weekend, which yeah.. I'm always horny too, but I'm past that point in my life where I'm going to sneak around behind someone's back and do stuff on the DL.

[DonnyG]

Falling in love and staying love...isn't that what life is all about?