Just broke up with TS girlfriend, can't do it anymore

[fred41]

A feminine man? And what if I dont like feminine men??
Also a lot of gay men want to date TS. A lot of gay men are maried also and pretend to be straight. They should not use or belittle our courage to be ourselves.

And...i dont like feminine men. I am not a lesbian

That's not what she's saying Caldara...please reread the sentence:

If he was a gay man, you wouldn't be his girlfriend... you'd be his boyfriend. I understand the dislike to use labels but sometimes they're useful. As a transwoman, you're not going to find a gay male who accepts you as a woman, but rather a feminine man.

she's saying a gay man would see you as a feminine man (as opposed to a woman) if he were to date you.

[Catalyst]

Rather interesting opinions in this thread.
Having just experienced a breakup sort of like this it hits close to home.
No abuse of any sort in my case, she just vanished on me.

My two cents mostly relate to the comments about gender, anatomy, sexuality... "This and that"
First nobody deserves to be abused or treated like a piece of meat.
I know it happens all the time.
Everyone is different some people are genuinely good people and there are more than enough shitty people out there. You have to choose who you associate with carefully. Some people also need to take a good look at themselves.

It seems like so many good people these days distrust everyone around them and fear to let new people in because they have been hurt before and their hearts are hardened. In a way its rather sad.

I know its a deal but really who cares about labels, gender, anatomy ?
Were all human.

All day long I hear things like typical male or typical female, typical tranny, typical gay... I really dont think anybody actually has a clue. Its like a quote I saw today "you were hurt by one bad man, now you see all men as this typical man"
Who hasnt been hurt ?
Who can move on and not blame the whole world ?

My whole life I grew up around LGBT folks my parents had a number of gay and transexual friends and co workers. Most of my friends are LGBT. Perhaps its the environment I grew up in but I never heard any derogatory name calling. Well not until I moved to a mining town in the middle of nowhere anyway

The only ones that used words like fag or tranny were the gay and transgendered themselves more as some sort of mild ribbing.

Idk... Its all to complicated to really say where the root of the issue is. Psychological, social, environmental, all of the above perhaps ?
Im not really wired distinguish between genders. If a woman says shes a woman even if she has a dick, all I see is a woman. I distinguish individual people by their personality and their actions.
So when I see people arguing about the superficial it really doesnt make much sense to me. People are people and deserve to be treated as such.

Anyway my advice to the op or anyone that feels they are in a bad relationship. Move on, you dont need the pain. Find one of the good ones in this world, im sure they exist somewhere.

[Fyusian]

Labels are like insults, they can be hurtful which is why we as humans care especially if they're incorrect. It doesn't matter what type of sexual activity the OP engaged in with his ex, whether a passive role of taking her cock or versatile but his sexuality would be determined by his attraction to her not his sexual activity with her.

Clearly his attraction is only towards women, trans or not so he is straight. So being called a fag is eventually going to piss him off especially coming from his girlfriend who seems to have only saw him as a ticket.

But hey genetic girls can be like this too.