Just broke up with TS girlfriend, can't do it anymore

[Deja Vu]

People say hurtful things when they are angry. It happens.

The real problem I saw was what you did for her and what she did for you. It wasn't even. She doesn't seem right with herself and that is somewhat involved with how she hasn't come to terms with herself. It could be even deeper than that.

Either way you need to step away from this. I just am starting to get over a bad relationship and I would say I was in both your shoes at different times in the relationship. So I get it a bit.

Do what you have to do. Vent. Get in the gym. Kick it with friends. Have a good time. Because that's what you should've been doing with her (and she should've too) instead of dealing with petty ish while not working so hard, being responsible and being unappreciated.

Honestly, she took advantage because you let her. You either stand your ground (like you did with the "I'll beat you up" situation) or leave. Next time, whether ts or gg know the signs and decide if you can handle the girl or if it ain't worth it.

Good luck bruh

[maddygirl]

I know this post is over a year old, but I'd like to add my two sense anyhow. First of all, Infern0, sorry you had to deal with the constant mental abuse she was putting you through, as you seem to have done nothing wrong and been more than gracious and accepting of her in all aspects of your life.

I've never understood the girls who call their boyfriends' "fags" when all it shows is their true insecurity and inability to accept themselves truly as the women they are. The best decision you could have made was to break up with her. She isn't in the right mindset to have a relationship and needs to do a lot of introspection and maturing before that would even be a possibility.

That being said, I KNOW for a fact I could have never had a relationship pre-op, so I just avoided it. Why put someone else through the mental torture of dealing with an incomplete, self-loathing person? As rose tinted as it sounds to say "You need to accept yourself", some girls literally need SRS to do that. I feel like a much happier person now and I absolutely adore my boyfriend.

Anywho, best of luck to you in finding a great girl who will cherish you and truly appreciate everything you do for her! Cheers.

[maddygirl]

Hi!!

Sorry to hear that your family reacted like that. Dont get me wrong. I am very understanding when it comes to such things... but I know for a fact he will never lose his family because of me... they are open minded... even his friends are open minded. I would not let a boyfriend risk his family for me.

His family is not religious /and appears to me to be very gay friendly. I know this because I got to know his family through him...pictures... stories...still he dreads taking me... I no longer want it now.
I dont want a relationship at this moment in my life. I have some disappointments to deal with first. This relationship being one of them.

On one hand... its easy to complain about a trans being insecure and having issues... on the other hand...I hope most guys realise that if they treat a T girl differently then they would treat a woman... trouble could be coming. (be it socially, mentally, sexualy, romanticly etc).

Also Tgirls can be so insecure because they know they have less options that they will go though long ends and accept more shit from the other in a relationship. In the end, it really breaks you down. But giving up easely is not something I do. But men can take advantage of that.

They can become selfish in their ways... and neglecting the needs of the girl.

Oh and I do not need or like to label lovers (hetero, bisexual gay etc). He can be gay for all I care. I love masculine men... that top. And are a bit dominant kinky. I dont care about their sexual identity and I do not care how they see me. I care how they TREAT me. If they are able to make me feel feminine. Believe me! A heterosexual men that does not find me "feminine" enough and dislikes parts of my body... does not make one feel feminine at all!

As a matter of fact. A gay man would be better cause I would never have to worry that he would feel ashamed of being with me.

If he was a gay man, you wouldn't be his girlfriend... you'd be his boyfriend. I understand the dislike to use labels but sometimes they're useful. As a transwoman, you're not going to find a gay male who accepts you as a woman, but rather a feminine man.

[BBaggins06]

I've never understood the girls who call their boyfriends' "fags" when all it shows is their true insecurity and inability to accept themselves truly as the women they are. The best decision you could have made was to break up with her. She isn't in the right mindset to have a relationship and needs to do a lot of introspection and maturing before that would even be a possibility.

I'm glad you brought that up. Two things, being called a fag is a bad thing only if you think being gay is a bad thing. Second, being called a faggot doesn't make it so. You or caldara or Inferno's ex can call me a fag, queer, thirsty, chaser, or whatever, until you're blue in the face and I'll just laugh at you.

[maddygirl]

I'm glad you brought that up. Two things, being called a fag is a bad thing only if you think being gay is a bad thing. Second, being called a faggot doesn't make it so. You or caldara or Inferno's ex can call me a fag, queer, thirsty, chaser, or whatever, until you're blue in the face and I'll just laugh at you.

True, it's not a bad thing, but when used as a slur to degrade your so-called "boyfriend" it's not exactly the nicest thing in world.

[BBaggins06]

True, it's not a bad thing, but when used as a slur to degrade your so-called "boyfriend" it's not exactly the nicest thing in world.

Oh, I had a nightmare girlfriend who used to call me that and worse and I'd just smile and nod. Even then I was too old for that insipid high school drama crap. The maddest she ever got was when I yawned mid-tirade ...

[caldara]

Well If a boyfriend calls you a man... then it mean's he is gay .
Also if a boyfriend is focussed on the dick and getting fucked etc... its up to the girl in question what to think of her boyfriend. It does not make her a man, when she calls him gay. Wanting cock up the mouth and in the butt is normally/usually a very gay desire. And of course we can call it straight or bi. If we do not want to hurt feelings... but the act in itself stays the same.

Guys are so sensitive when it comes to this but try and see how sensitive they are when it comes to less passable girls for instance.

[simonisthebest]

having a strong & serious relationship with a ts ? except for the typical laverne cox or janet mock u just cant period,

the same goes for all theses pornstars out here postin ,& actin like they the "real deal"

Most off yall are freak ,obsessed by sex & cant commit with one person. its a fact

laverne cox for the love,yall for the fuck

[amberskyi]

having a strong & serious relationship with a ts ? excepublishedpt for the typical laverne cox or janet mock u just cant period,

the same goes for all theses pornstars out here postin ,& actin like they the "real deal"

Most off yall are freak ,obsessed by sex & cant commit with one person. its a fact

laverne cox for the love,yall for the fuck

Well that's awesome for you but im not one to be limited lol

P.s. so you know Janet Mock did sex work to pay her way through school. Now she's a published author (new york times best seller list), a respected political activist, and a wife.
Guess it worked out for her huh?

[caldara]

If he was a gay man, you wouldn't be his girlfriend... you'd be his boyfriend. I understand the dislike to use labels but sometimes they're useful. As a transwoman, you're not going to find a gay male who accepts you as a woman, but rather a feminine man.

A feminine man? And what if I dont like feminine men??
Also a lot of gay men want to date TS. A lot of gay men are maried also and pretend to be straight. They should not use or belittle our courage to be ourselves.

And...i dont like feminine men. I am not a lesbian