Just broke up with TS girlfriend, can't do it anymore

[SunshyneMonroe]

awww poor baby :{

[my my my!]

So even though he would lose nothing he chose not to invite me. Not at his home or in his life. It really makes me feel unpassable and ugly even...like I am not good enough....exactly like you say it... like I am NOT the one... and that I am not worth it.

That's how my ex felt. and in public, private, and with her friends and family, I absolutely adored her and treated her like a lady, everything was good.

It was until the "if you love me, you will introduce me to your family" moments started becoming more frequent, I had to cave in and present her to my family.

Before that, I NEVER took anyone to meet my family until i had been dating them for 1-2 years. I still feel like family and friends get tired of us coming every 6 months..

Look, here is my NEW girlfriend, and then 4 months later , another one. I think that is tacky and just shows you cant hold a relationship


I've never been a serial dater, where I break up with one lady and am already dating someone the next day.

In your case, if you have been with him for 4 years or so, then there is something there. but families are very different in how they react to their loved ones.

For a while I thought my family would've been cool with me dating a transsexual girl. This was BEFORE I had dated a transsexual girl. I would hear them make comments when seeing a trans female on TV , and say how pretty she was and not say anything about it. One of my sisters even said that she might become a lesbian given the right girl, and everyone just laughed it off. So I thought , they would PROBABLY be ok with me dating a ts.

Then as time passed by, I would bring up little hints about possibly being trasn attracted (the actual way to get their true feelings was to use the , a friend of a friend story). I would say, "my friend, he's a dating a transsexual female, and he's happy" . And that's when the claws would come out. "He's a faggot, what a deception. those fucking deviants are everywhere" "I swear if one of my kids is like that, I'll fucking have someone beat the gay out of him, I didnt raise no homo kids"

It's entirely possible that your bf's family is gay/trans friendly on the surface, as long as it's not one of their own. Unless he's dated men or trans and his family knows about it. And it might be why he wont take you to meet them.

I knew my family, I told my girl they weren't cool with it, and yet she still insisted on it "or else it meant i didnt' love her"

[caldara]

That's how my ex felt. and in public, private, and with her friends and family, I absolutely adored her and treated her like a lady, everything was good.

It was until the "if you love me, you will introduce me to your family" moments started becoming more frequent, I had to cave in and present her to my family.

Before that, I NEVER took anyone to meet my family until i had been dating them for 1-2 years. I still feel like family and friends get tired of us coming every 6 months..

Look, here is my NEW girlfriend, and then 4 months later , another one. I think that is tacky and just shows you cant hold a relationship


I've never been a serial dater, where I break up with one lady and am already dating someone the next day.

In your case, if you have been with him for 4 years or so, then there is something there. but families are very different in how they react to their loved ones.

For a while I thought my family would've been cool with me dating a transsexual girl. This was BEFORE I had dated a transsexual girl. I would hear them make comments when seeing a trans female on TV , and say how pretty she was and not say anything about it. One of my sisters even said that she might become a lesbian given the right girl, and everyone just laughed it off. So I thought , they would PROBABLY be ok with me dating a ts.

Then as time passed by, I would bring up little hints about possibly being trasn attracted (the actual way to get their true feelings was to use the , a friend of a friend story). I would say, "my friend, he's a dating a transsexual female, and he's happy" . And that's when the claws would come out. "He's a faggot, what a deception. those fucking deviants are everywhere" "I swear if one of my kids is like that, I'll fucking have someone beat the gay out of him, I didnt raise no homo kids"

It's entirely possible that your bf's family is gay/trans friendly on the surface, as long as it's not one of their own. Unless he's dated men or trans and his family knows about it. And it might be why he wont take you to meet them.

I knew my family, I told my girl they weren't cool with it, and yet she still insisted on it "or else it meant i didnt' love her"

Hi !

Its not that I do not understand your situation. Personally I feel that you then will have to compensate in some way to the girl to take that feeling of not being loved enough away.

I know that if I am satisfied with a relationship...there is no real need to ask for more. The moment you start to get the feeling that you are not understood and accepted as you are is when you begin to have doubts.

My relationship did not go wrong because of not meeting friends and family... but because I never knew exactly what my position was and that he did not make me feel feminine/attractive. This is what made me doubt him in the first place.

I would never -insist- on someone to meet his family... or else...it might just be one of the many more things that make it impossible for me to have a relationship. Its largely a self worth issue for me... You can treat me like a secret lover, but you better keep me satisfied then.

And you lose the right to claim me if you want to keep me a secret.

I cannot tell you how it feels to be in my position. But believe me its just as bad as yours is.

[Ben in LA]

I feel if anyone is going to lose family over a relationship, she better be worth it and the one.

Same here.

I was in a relationship of sorts as well. My father even met the girl in question. However he did NOT know she was TS. My family has made it quite clear that they do not approve of the "alternate" lifestyle. Even though at the time I was happier than I had ever been, they would've never approved of the relationship.

All and all we broke up...and with that we split I saw that she was NOT the one. If and when I DO find that special person - and introduce her to my family - I'll just let the cards fall the way they're supposed to. I was willing to do that with my ex in hindsight, but a part of me is glad I didn't.

[hairyguy]

what do you plan on doing next?

[txjr3]

I'm sure someone already posted this, but isn't this just a hazard of any relationship? By no means confined to M/TS couples.

[caldara]

As could be expected from a forum like this i am not at all impressed by the reasoning of the boys here...i find it weak and cowardy...not at all things a girl would like in a man....but thats probably why they hang around here anyway.

[caldara]

Before that, I NEVER took anyone to meet my family until i had been dating them for 1-2 years. I still feel like family and friends get tired of us coming every 6 months..

Look, here is my NEW girlfriend, and then 4 months later , another one. I think that is tacky and just shows you cant hold a relationship


I've never been a serial dater, where I break up with one lady and am already dating someone the next "

Well, i was not talking about 1 to 2 years...but 4,5 years....do you think next time i will wait that long to find out if i am the one. No. A relationship is a relationship when its a relationship.simple. and yes that includes meeting friends and family.

[caldara]

When you as a t girl are stronger then most t-lovers, how on earth is a girl going to be impressed by your manhood, and do you even deserve a relationship with a strong girl like that?

Those are the things you have to consider...and might be the reason you are dating escorts in the first place...do not take advantage of the normal insecurities of girls but show her you love her

[Jericho]

His family is not religious /and appears to me to be very gay friendly.

I'm thinking the operative word there is appears.
To the outside world, my mob of bastards appear wonderful...Behind closed doors, it's a different story.