am i the only guy that prefers to bottom in a relationship?

[amberskyi]

That's true, but you can't really blame them. Technically they are females and men are supposed to be the tops. There are a few girls that do like to top, but the majority would rather take on the traditional female role.

I like how understanding you are

[RallyCola]

That's true, but you can't really blame them. Technically they are females and men are supposed to be the tops. There are a few girls that do like to top, but the majority would rather take on the traditional female role.

it is not a technicality at all. it is not a matter of should or shouldn't top...it is a matter of personal preference and therefore there is no need to negatively judge someone for what they like.

where a transwoman hates on a man for preferring to be a bottom, that is simply a situation of a pot calling a kettle black because that same transwoman would scream her head off for being judged for doing whatever it is she likes/wants.

i'm not even going to touch the glaring error in your word choice above.

[gaysian71]

I like how understanding you are

Well from my experience that seems to be the case. While I have paid a for of girls to top me, I have only met a few that are willing to have a relationship where their boyfriend is a bottom.

The bottom line is that it's pretty easy to find a man that doesn't mind me being a bottom, but much more difficult to find a woman that doesn't mind me being a bottom.

[sheyum]

This thread is simply idiotic..come on guys and girls...can't we do better than this??

Firstly--let's face it...It is the fantasy of most guys on this board to be topped by a dominant woman.. Isnt that a large part of the "fantasy"?
sorry--girls--to call it that...but let's be truthful here..Now maybe not everyone feels that way. I don't profess to know the inner workings of every persons heart and mind..But certainly alot do..so just lets call a spade a spade

But..more importantly....and I've said it before....The audacity of any transgendered person the look DOWN upon a man for wanting to be topped, or lay a submissive role..is not only absurd, it's laughable, and contemptable.

Let's be clear here...The transgendered people on this site were born genetic males.
How can a person who's spent their ENTIRE lives in the quest to BECOME a woman---crticize a man for wanting to play a submissive role...for expressing what some homophobic people might call a "feminine' tendency of wanting to be dominated or topped by a woman??

Let me be clear that I'm placing no value judgement at all about the choice of transgendered folks..but why do they not do the same toward the people who want to express THEIR sexualities in a way that drives THEM?

They look DOWN on us?? WTF?

These women on this site have spent all their resources and time becoming the ULTIMATE feminine beings..and they want us--and the world to embrace that...yet the look DOWN on a man for wanting to be topped?

Does noone else here see the insanity and pure lack of logic in this thinking?

[Snorky]

This thread is simply idiotic..come on guys and girls...can't we do better than this??

Firstly--let's face it...It is the fantasy of most guys on this board to be topped by a dominant woman.. Isnt that a large part of the "fantasy"?
sorry--girls--to call it that...but let's be truthful here..Now maybe not everyone feels that way. I don't profess to know the inner workings of every persons heart and mind..But certainly alot do..so just lets call a spade a spade

But..more importantly....and I've said it before....The audacity of any transgendered person the look DOWN upon a man for wanting to be topped, or lay a submissive role..is not only absurd, it's laughable, and contemptable.

Let's be clear here...The transgendered people on this site were born genetic males.
How can a person who's spent their ENTIRE lives in the quest to BECOME a woman---crticize a man for wanting to play a submissive role...for expressing what some homophobic people might call a "feminine' tendency of wanting to be dominated or topped by a woman??

Let me be clear that I'm placing no value judgement at all about the choice of transgendered folks..but why do they not do the same toward the people who want to express THEIR sexualities in a way that drives THEM?

They look DOWN on us?? WTF?

These women on this site have spent all their resources and time becoming the ULTIMATE feminine beings..and they want us--and the world to embrace that...yet the look DOWN on a man for wanting to be topped?

Does noone else here see the insanity and pure lack of logic in this thinking?

this^^^ and relationships are about team work and sacrifices. you can learn to enjoy things you previously did not enjoy. Just need to open the mind up enough to find the enjoyable parts of an act that you once looked at as being unenjoyable. being "open minded" like what a lot of the men on this site do for Tranny's on here.

[dfwtsfan]

Undoubtedly the internet has exposed all of us to more TS/TG porn than we ever dreamed we might see, yet if you look around tons of it shows them topping guys. I know most are likely getting paid to do something they abhor, and they do it which is surprising, but the irony of all this reminds me of the percentage of real life GG's that want anal sex all the time, compared to GG anal porn. The part I don't understand is why do so many TS/TG's keep their penises if they don't want to use them every way possible, which of course is their right to do, but I just don't get it. I always liked the saying "every hole is a goal" and I wish that was a reciprocal concept more TS/TG's embraced.

At least I can say I experienced an LTR with a very pretty one that liked to top. I was unable to find one locally that wasn't an escort, so I found mine online. She lived in another state 1500 miles away and I talked her into moving and living with me. We spent 2.5 yrs living together. The first year was great. She liked to top, so did I, and we both liked oral. Then about a year into it she decided for some crazy reason to increase her hormones. She quickly got to where she couldn't get an erection, couldn't cum, and her constantly having a limp noodle killed my desire and sex drive for her. I hung in there another 1.5 years, not wanting things to fall apart due to sexual frustration and incompatibility, but it did.

IMO it's a hard search to find one, a very hard search, and you may have to look much further away than where you live. Hang in there, keep searching for whatever it is that makes you happy, and never give-up until you find it. And if you find one ask lots of questions, specifically make sure she doesn't have plans down-the-road to do things that change her functionality, or whatever it is you're hoping for regarding your long-term sexual compatibility and happiness.

[Prospero]

Princessa and Bottom Boy sound custom made for each other. is geography a stumbling block?

[amberskyi]

This thread is simply idiotic..come on guys and girls...can't we do better than this??

Firstly--let's face it...It is the fantasy of most guys on this board to be topped by a dominant woman.. Isnt that a large part of the "fantasy"?
sorry--girls--to call it that...but let's be truthful here..Now maybe not everyone feels that way. I don't profess to know the inner workings of every persons heart and mind..But certainly alot do..so just lets call a spade a spade

the op asked about finding a top woman for a relationship which by the very nature of a serious relationship makes it less about fulfilling a sexual fantasy.
i think allot of guys make the mistake of confusing what they see in porn as an accurate portrayal of trans woman (or woman in general) sexuality.just cause in porn every chick gets dick slapped on her face doesnt mean every woman is into that lol.

But..more importantly....and I've said it before....The audacity of any transgendered person the look DOWN upon a man for wanting to be topped, or lay a submissive role..is not only absurd, it's laughable, and contemptable.

Let's be clear here...The transgendered people on this site were born genetic males.
How can a person who's spent their ENTIRE lives in the quest to BECOME a woman---crticize a man for wanting to play a submissive role...for expressing what some homophobic people might call a "feminine' tendency of wanting to be dominated or topped by a woman??

Let me be clear that I'm placing no value judgement at all about the choice of transgendered folks..but why do they not do the same toward the people who want to express THEIR sexualities in a way that drives THEM?

They look DOWN on us?? WTF?

These women on this site have spent all their resources and time becoming the ULTIMATE feminine beings..and they want us--and the world to embrace that...yet the look DOWN on a man for wanting to be topped?

Does noone else here see the insanity and pure lack of logic in this thinking?

i dont really have any real contempt or look down on guys who want to bottom.if thats your thing than cool,its not mine so there fore any guy who wants to bottom is clearly not for me.
on the flip side tho i cant tell you how many times guys express disappointment or give me shit when they find out i have no interest in topping them.ive heard such classic lines like "whats the point of having a dick if your not going to use it" or my personal favorite "if i wanted to fuck than i would just get a gg". those sentiments dont exactly sound gracious or understanding either do they lol
you are right tho, we spend a considerable amount of time and effort transitioning into the woman we know we were meant to be.it really shouldnt be that surprising that we would have a womans sexuality as well (which traditionally is one of being penetrated).most of use dont want to be "the best of both worlds" but would much rather just be normal woman.
ps. i always find it interesting that so called admirers like to remind us or insist on our true genetic male origins much more than any other group of people lol

[RallyCola]

Princessa and Bottom Boy sound custom made for each other. is geography a stumbling block?

boeing finally tested the 787... geographic boundaries shouldn't be a stumbling block

[gaysian71]

Well I just hope that bottomboy finds a top girl. But i can say as a gay guy, if you want to find a top man it's super easy. But if you want to find a top girl, it's a little more difficult and will take a little more time. They are out there but there are a lot more top men then there are top women.