Why are TG relationships so difficult

[jc13]

I've been in a relationship with a TG woman for over a year now (my first TG relationship) and we seem to always fight about something...everything is about her. We started an online business together and she doesn't seem very dedicated to it (up at 10am and goes to sleep at 2am). And it seems as soon as I leave the house she starts watching porn and masterbating and then starts checking out "Hot guy's" online or commenting on explicit content on facebook. And she's 32! Never had this issue with GG and wondering if it's her or are all of them like that?

[LibertyHarkness]

no we are all like that just filthy wankers .

[RallyCola]

IMHO, tgirls have all the emotional baggage and difficulties associated with a relationship with a ggirl and all the complexity of the transition process therefore, it makes it something you have to work a bit harder at to make it work.

Now, what you mention, (1) always fighting, (2) everything being about her, (3) lack of interest in you joint venture, (4) watching porn and looking into other men...these are NOT behaviors specific to tgirls so what I would say is that regardless of her status, she is just not that into you. It would appear that you have valid complaints about her and you should examine whether or not she is the right lady for you, as it may be that you are not the right man for her.

I would suggest that you not lump these issues on to her transitioning status at all. Your GF is acting no different than a girl (t or g) who is bored with you.

[Kevin Dong]

IMHO, tgirls have all the emotional baggage and difficulties associated with a relationship with a ggirl and all the complexity of the transition process therefore, it makes it something you have to work a bit harder at to make it work.

Now, what you mention, (1) always fighting, (2) everything being about her, (3) lack of interest in you joint venture, (4) watching porn and looking into other men...these are NOT behaviors specific to tgirls so what I would say is that regardless of her status, she is just not that into you. It would appear that you have valid complaints about her and you should examine whether or not she is the right lady for you, as it may be that you are not the right man for her.

I would suggest that you not lump these issues on to her transitioning status at all. Your GF is acting no different than a girl (t or g) who is bored with you.

I agree with RallyCola. Time to get a new GF bud.

[jc13]

I was hoping for better insight besides "She's just not into you". She seems very connected to me when we're together but the behavior is questionable only when I'm not around. It just strikes me as childish behavior you would see from a college kid out on his own for the first time and not from a 30 something adult. I have never seen this in type of behavior in a GG. Guess I'm getting a little concerned that it's more a TG issue and oppose to just her.

[tao1kiku]

Exactly, childish behavior. I've been in a relationship and now engaged to a Tgirl, only 3 fights in 2 years. She is stable, focused, has a career and dedicated to the relationship

[jc13]

Thanks TAO...just what I was looking for. There are good stable TG's out there.

[amberskyi]

I was hoping for better insight besides "She's just not into you". She seems very connected to me when we're together but the behavior is questionable only when I'm not around. It just strikes me as childish behavior you would see from a college kid out on his own for the first time and not from a 30 something adult. I have never seen this in type of behavior in a GG. Guess I'm getting a little concerned that it's more a TG issue and oppose to just her.

kinda sounds like your pushing for this to be some ts defect instead of having to admit to certain issues in your relationship

[jc13]

No, it's my first TG relationship and I'm not sure if these issues are related to her or her gender. I'm asking because if this is a TG issue I don't want anything more to do with them after this relationship.

[Kevin Dong]

No, it's my first TG relationship and I'm not sure if these issues are related to her or her gender. I'm asking because if this is a TG issue I don't want anything more to do with them after this relationship.

sounds like a "you" issue