This thread is still going on? Okay, here's the deal. As a guy, looking for LTR with a t-girl...

1. Move to a state with legalized gay/trans marriage. If you can't immediately move to such a state, let her know right up front that that's your plan.
2. Let her know up front that you're serious enough about the relationship to eventually want marriage.
3. Marry her.

And you know what #3 means, right? It means a divorce settlement and possibly alimony payments if the marriage doesn't work out. You're putting yourself on the hook when you talk marriage. She'll know you're serious. And if you're loaded to the gills and won't do marriage short of a pre-nup, you better have a snappy answer on what that pre-nup will look like. Maybe she doesn't get your mansion in Connecticut but she'll know where she stands relative to the rest of your finances.

I respect the Freddie posts in here. Sure, he might be a little reckless screwing around without protection, but he seems to be contributing to the welfare of his children, after the fact. You, Mr LTR seeker, can do the same by committing to marriage whether it works or not.

If you don't want to do marriage, understand that she'll know you'll have the option to cut out at any time. That's not going to exactly make her all warm and fuzzy in committing to you.