Want to understand -why do all this if SRS is not your final goal?

[postopadmirer]

To all pre-op & non-op ladies,Simple question.
Why do you become more lady like if your long term goal is not to have SRS surgery? I'm not questioning the validity of the reason, I want to understand a side of the transgender community I don't know much about.


I'm not making any value judgments on your reasoning and would ask that others respect your answers. I just really want to understand.


Thanks in advance.
POA

[postopadmirer]

P.s I have a bias towards postoperative women but I have a respect for all of you and what it takes to be you.

[rodinuk]

Perhaps the individual doesn't want to undertake surgery in general as it is always a risk to health and srs can require multiple surgeries.

the expense involved in said surgery(ies).

they have a level of contentment with themselves in terms of their gender identity that doesn't require that particular physical alteration

[caliuncut]

I've always figured that srs surgery is extremely invasive, painful and probably has a long and difficult recovery. Additionally you never know how things will turn out and this is your sex organ we're talking about here...I mean what if something goes wrong, what if things don't "work" or "feel" the way you expected, it's a dive into the unknown to say the least. So, taking that into consideration I'm sure a good number of girls decide stay with what they know and that maybe the grass isn't greener?

Keep in mind this is just what comes to mind from my conversations with a few girls on the topic...beside, what the hell do I know?

I hate the terms pre op and post op for some reason....it just sounds bad. But should I declare my preference for pre op girls, more than a preference really...post op girls don't appeal to me in the slightest.

[Rabbiteyes]

"Transition" is so much more than what is in your pants... actually, it isn't even something I think about (or thought about before transitioning). I don't hate my parts... I don't really use them, or think about them ~shrug~

First off, hormones are amazing. The list of effects they have on a person is pretty long. Softer skin, less muscle, more emotions, complete shift in climax, looking younger and "prettier", even just generally how you feel (less aggression, more peaceful). For me, they just fit my life so perfectly (I saw all of the effects as bonuses...from aesthetics, to the real differences in how I experience the world).

Second, there are a slew of social changes when people see you as female. As I started to look more and more female, the world slowly shifted in how it interacted with me. Suddenly men were holding open doors, I would be greeted more friendly when I went into a store, women would become much closer to me (instead of being afraid of me or thinking I wanted sex when I said hello), people expected less physical action from me (this is a pretty neutral aspect though, I was pretty strong before and didn't mind showing off).

Basically, the world became nicer to me. I stopped being a "threat" to everyone as a strong young man (and, actually, hormones did a few mental shifts there too, I stopped being so competitive... I didn't NEED to always win).

Sure, there are down sides too. Lots of confusion... some bigots... and plenty of people who just don't "get it".

Sex? Dating? Expensive and traumatic surgery so I could add another hole for a guy? None of that was the reason I wanted to start transition.

It was simply a step forward as I shifted my body and mind towards something more feminine. I don't see femininity as a negative, I see it as beautiful and something worth enhancing.

Sure, transitioning has some down sides (especially social, such as dating...or even just the strength issue, being so tired from carrying up groceries definitely gets old fast). But, overall, it has been positive.

Pre-op...post-op.... it just doesn't really have much to do with transition (IMO)... or if it does, it is such a tiny tiny tiny aspect that basically comes down to issues like wearing bikini or adding a new way to make love to your partner.

[BrendaTG]

I am non-op....wanting to be and live and look like a woman has always been far more important to me then having a vagina. I was born as a girl in the body of a boy. It is a very complicated physical and psychological /emotional situation.

I would love to have a vagina but srs is not the same as having a real vagina for me.
Also I have fear of surgery of any kind.

It does bother me a lot...but the thing about being a TS that bothers me the most will not be solved with srs.

I was different because of the situation I was born in...and I will remain different for the rest of my life...and I will always be treated differently by most men because I am a TS. SRS does not solve this...instead it might even complicate it.

Just the fact that I would have a vagina surgically made...does not cure my transsexualism.

Being a woman in a male body means coping with that for the rest of your life (sadly).

Its less about being a woman because you will never really be able to in all aspects of life.

Reducing such a problem to just the surgery is insulting to me.

Also one of the biggest problems of being a TS is other Tgirls who do not resemble me. The majority is very different from me.

So it is inevitable that I will remain misunderstood by most people for the rest of my life.

I am convinced that the majority of Tgirls are men and not woman.

[amberskyi]

Ughhh...this is going to turn into another save the dick from "mutilation" thread.
I hope for it one day possibly and if a man doesn't like it than he never appreciated me as a woman.he clearly cared more for my cock

[DreadedFlower]

Getting my surgery in 3 weeks (god, about freaking time!)

Most TS I know actually want surgery, it's more of a question of when. Not only do they need the required letters, but they also need the money, the courage and the time, since not everyone can afford to miss work for 3 months.

Personally, I don't hate my dick. Most of the time I don't even remember it's there, but there's way more downsides to having that than not. I love swimming and since I started my transition, I can only swim at my parent's place when they are away. I also love sports but I fear changing rooms... I'm 100% passable but once in underwears, there's no more hiding, and sport wears are often much more revealing than jeans. It's also not very confortable and annoying with clothes, depending of your size.

It won't make me more of a girl. I'm already 100% female. It will only remove a big chain on my freedom.

[giovanni_hotel]

The OP is flaming.

Isn't it enough to know that some trangendered women get SRS and some don't??
Why do these girls have to psychologically unwrap themselves to satisfy your own personal curiosity??

IMO you're basically saying a TG who doesn't get SRS is dysfunctional.
Jeezus man.
It's really going halfway around the world to find pussy if the one place you hope to find it is between the legs of a postop transchick.

Just saying, if I was looking for vagina, I wouldn't start looking for it on HA.

[amberskyi]

Um that's weird