Why are many admirers flaky?

[altarica]

As you said not all guys are "Flakey" but a high number are.There are I am sure plenty of reasons for this. Having desires that they want to satisfy but are too scared to actually act upon. I'm sure that a lot of guys masturbate to their T-Girl fantasies or porn and after they cum then the guilt sets in for not seeming to conform to the "Norm", whatever that may be for them. Of course the same thing happens to a lot of guys when they go through with the real thing, the cum and run artists. The guilt can be huge.

The pressure to stay inside what society in general deems to be normal is huge, as is pressure from family and friends.

For me personally, my sexuality seems to have become more fluid with the passing of the years. I am totally comfortable with who I am and my likes and desires.

My reasons for loving T-Girls so much is that their femininity is much more pronounced than that of regular genetic girls. Plus they do know how to have a good time, be it in a club and social situation,in the bedroom or in front of my camera. They revel in their femininity and seem to enjoy it all the more.

As a photographer it's obviously not in my interest to be unreliable or make excuses not to meet. I go to quite a few clubs and am fairly well known in certain circles.

Another problem is that a lot of guys seem to think that the girls are basically just pieces of meat, there to satisfy guys sexual urges. This is not the case and girls deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, whoever they are. For me it's as much, if not more of a social and work thing than sexual, though I don't often pass on offers of sex. I always think of any girl I talk to or meet as a woman, not a guy in a dress, be it on-line chat or in real life. All my close friends are in T-World some way or another and they are all good loyal friends. My best friend is a T-Girl who dresses her age, mid 50s and who I have no problem going out with day or night in public, in fact a few people have thought we were man and wife. We were lovers but have moved past that to something much much deeper.

As for keeping it on the lowdown. I don't feel the need to broadcast my sexuality or interests, but don't deny then either. I keep 2 FB profiles, one for my vanilla friends and family and one for my T-World friends, not out of shame but it just makes life easier.

[littletwink]

What you describe is not at all uncommon.

There's no shortage of reasons, but guys that often show a high degree of interest in trannies have their own little club. They are tranny CHASERS. They love the chase and the fantasy of meeting up, but don't like actually following through.

Also many guys are whores. They go after multiple women, trans or gg, at the same time. A guy can be really into you for weeks, but never lets you in on the fact he's having similar convos with another GG or TG. He meant to go out with you, but was out on a date with someone else.

[GrimFusion]

What you describe is not at all uncommon.

There's no shortage of reasons, but guys that often show a high degree of interest in trannies have their own little club. They are tranny CHASERS. They love the chase and the fantasy of meeting up, but don't like actually following through.

Also many guys are whores. They go after multiple women, trans or gg, at the same time. A guy can be really into you for weeks, but never lets you in on the fact he's having similar convos with another GG or TG. He meant to go out with you, but was out on a date with someone else.

I think you got the wrong idea of what a chaser is. A chaser is a dude who 'chases' after any transsexual chick no matter how she looks with no attention paid to personality or individualism. Chasers don't usually flake; they take what they can get and more often than not boast about it afterward as if it were some kind of ego-boosting conquest. Chasers don't usually waste time trying to meet up just to hang out.

If a dude flakes on a meetup, it's probably because he's trying to keep it stealth, not because he's a chaser. Stealth guys have different motivations; sometimes it is their own sexual insecurities and the inability to come to terms with them. Sometimes it's pressure from peers and a reluctance to admit an interest for fear of exclusion or conflict, and sometimes the dude's just trying to hide an affair from his wife or significant other.

[Christastic]

It's the closet, basically.

[littletwink]

I think you got the wrong idea of what a chaser is. A chaser is a dude who 'chases' after any transsexual chick no matter how she looks with no attention paid to personality or individualism. Chasers don't usually flake; they take what they can get and more often than not boast about it afterward as if it were some kind of ego-boosting conquest. Chasers don't usually waste time trying to meet up just to hang out.

If a dude flakes on a meetup, it's probably because he's trying to keep it stealth, not because he's a chaser. Stealth guys have different motivations; sometimes it is their own sexual insecurities and the inability to come to terms with them. Sometimes it's pressure from peers and a reluctance to admit an interest for fear of exclusion or conflict, and sometimes the dude's just trying to hide an affair from his wife or significant other.

You're right. I was so excited about getting to the part where I could say many of us are whores that I completely jacked up the chaser description. lol

[Rusty Eldora]

As you said not all guys are "Flakey" but a high number are.There are I am sure plenty of reasons for this. Having desires that they want to satisfy but are too scared to actually act upon.

For me personally, my sexuality seems to have become more fluid with the passing of the years. I am totally comfortable with who I am and my likes and desires.

Another problem is that a lot of guys seem to think that the girls are basically just pieces of meat, there to satisfy guys sexual urges. This is not the case and girls deserve to be treated with kindness and respect, whoever they are. For me it's as much, if not more of a social and work thing than sexual, though I don't often pass on offers of sex. I always think of any girl I talk to or meet as a woman, not a guy in a dress, be it on-line chat or in real life.

Great post altarica, I know from the gg escort scene there are a huge number of flakes, even though the boards I am on the ladies ask for references to even book with them. Drop down to the Backpage group, it is much worse. This is for guys that just want meat with gg females, before adding the TG issues in their mind.

I too have gotten way more comfortable with myself, I got there about 5 years ago, well past 50.

I think guys that have limited exposure to TGs haven't even gotten to appreciating the woman as they would a gg escort. They are still very hung up in the "Is this OK, am I Bi, or am I Gay?". As all the porn appears to be pictures, it might not be real, still have a lot to learn that the person they are with has gotten comfortable with their sexuality and they should too.

Strangely, I think I got comfortable with Tgirls once I realized they were persons I enjoyed being with.

[Rabbiteyes]

Some guys seem to have gender issues also. I was dating one guy who eventually revealed to me he wanted to transition too ~_~ He had dated a lot of transgender people and I guess he was trying to kind of live vicariously through them / me ~_~

[Dino Velvet]

Some guys seem to have gender issues also. I was dating one guy who eventually revealed to me he wanted to transition too ~_~ He had dated a lot of transgender people and I guess he was trying to kind of live vicariously through them / me ~_~

If he's furiously writing in his journal after probing speculation that could be a bad omen too.

[MsDazzler]

I agree... I remember one night where I had sex with a guy after meeting him at a club and getting drunk and we slept together afterwards, in the morning, he practically bolted like a rabbit without saying so much. He was into his clothes so fast and out the door before I could wink.

Shame, guilt.... it is a terrible thing.

[canihavu]

Because some of the chicks we're into are batshit crazy!

That has been my experience, lol. Many seem to be more into guys who are not into trannies instead of the guys who are.