What type of lover do you prefer?

[Maxim616]

Hi all,

I've been a member of this board for a couple years but only recently changed my username. The nature of the board itself has changed especially from the early days when Mimi, JWBL, Jennifer Justice and others used to moderators. However, I do like that most of the women and dudes are around my age - mid twenties. I'm hoping we can have a frank discussion about preferences and expectations. I realize this topic has been covered before but please indulge me.

Let me give you a little background of myself. I reside in a city in the Northeast not named New York. Also my closest friends know that I am equally attracted to ts and gg. Furthermore when I date a gg, I indulge this information too since I don't believe in hiding who I am.

Recently, I met a beautiful ts women at a club in my hometown. It was a gay night at a straight club and went with some friends who are both straight and gay. It was packed and there were a couple of really hot ts who caught my eye.

I met this one girl who is in her 20s and happens to work as GoGo dancer. We get flirty, dance a bit and make out for a bit. Later in the night I get her number and we meet up for a date.

Long story short we are about to have sex and she asks me to go down on her. I told her that it's not my thing and point out that I barely to never go down on ggs. She was a little irritated by this statement. She then pointedly asks me "What do I do?" I frankly told her that I like to kiss and caress then have sex. She then asked me would I bottom for her if she lets me inside her? I told her no and that's something I'm not interested in. I explained to her that I went down on a ladyboy once in my early 20s in Shanghai and didn't really enjoy it.

We both agreed that this wasn't going to work. She was visibly pissed and asked me how can I be with a TS if I'm not going to be versatile? I told her that everyone is entitled to each its own. We went on our separate ways and haven't talked to her since. I'm not too broken up by it but was I wrong?

My question is do the ladies on the board prefer a versatile guy? Fellas do you prefer to be with a ts where you actively engage with her penis? As for myself, I am attracted to both preop and post op but strongly prefer post op. I don't mind a woman with a penis but that is no longer the attraction to me. My attraction to ts women revolves around their hyper femininity. I am attracted to a transsexual woman who views herself mentally, emotionally and spiritually as a woman. I know some girls like their penis and that's cool but it's just not my bag. Sorry for the long post but I'm curious to read people's thoughts on this matter.

[HarajukuDollxoxo]

I don't think you were in the wrong, it's your personal preference. Just because you're with a transgender woman doesn't mean you HAVE to bottom and be vers, because she has a penis. I personally enjoy a man who's 100% top, just something about it..

[Merkurie]

I thought whatever happens in Shanghai is supposed to stay in Shanghai.

But seriously,
I don't see how you can begin a sexual relationship with someone and not be willing to give oral sex. A pay for play situation, sure. But you said this was a date.

[undercvrslut]

personally don't get how people are into TS girls without being vers. Whats the point then....you should just go gg. My preference is the cliche... best of both worlds.

[MdR Dave]

I don't see how you can begin a sexual relationship with someone and not be willing to give oral sex. A pay for play situation, sure. But you said this was a date.

I agree. This is about as selfish as a guy can get.

Why wouldn't you?

You will not die. It's not poison.

[asianphoenixx]

Hi all,

I've been a member of this board for a couple years but only recently changed my username. The nature of the board itself has changed especially from the early days when Mimi, JWBL, Jennifer Justice and others used to moderators. However, I do like that most of the women and dudes are around my age - mid twenties. I'm hoping we can have a frank discussion about preferences and expectations. I realize this topic has been covered before but please indulge me.

Let me give you a little background of myself. I reside in a city in the Northeast not named New York. Also my closest friends know that I am equally attracted to ts and gg. Furthermore when I date a gg, I indulge this information too since I don't believe in hiding who I am.

Recently, I met a beautiful ts women at a club in my hometown. It was a gay night at a straight club and went with some friends who are both straight and gay. It was packed and there were a couple of really hot ts who caught my eye.

I met this one girl who is in her 20s and happens to work as GoGo dancer. We get flirty, dance a bit and make out for a bit. Later in the night I get her number and we meet up for a date.

Long story short we are about to have sex and she asks me to go down on her. I told her that it's not my thing and point out that I barely to never go down on ggs. She was a little irritated by this statement. She then pointedly asks me "What do I do?" I frankly told her that I like to kiss and caress then have sex. She then asked me would I bottom for her if she lets me inside her? I told her no and that's something I'm not interested in. I explained to her that I went down on a ladyboy once in my early 20s in Shanghai and didn't really enjoy it.

We both agreed that this wasn't going to work. She was visibly pissed and asked me how can I be with a TS if I'm not going to be versatile? I told her that everyone is entitled to each its own. We went on our separate ways and haven't talked to her since. I'm not too broken up by it but was I wrong?

My question is do the ladies on the board prefer a versatile guy? Fellas do you prefer to be with a ts where you actively engage with her penis? As for myself, I am attracted to both preop and post op but strongly prefer post op. I don't mind a woman with a penis but that is no longer the attraction to me. My attraction to ts women revolves around their hyper femininity. I am attracted to a transsexual woman who views herself mentally, emotionally and spiritually as a woman. I know some girls like their penis and that's cool but it's just not my bag. Sorry for the long post but I'm curious to read people's thoughts on this matter.

call me

I don't like my dick touched. Just suck my titties and fuck me hard and be a man yeah........

but remember that you have to be as hot as Raphael Nadal or as macho as Evander Hollyfield (the Champ of boxer). Yummy!!

and if you want to wait for 5 years...i'm going to be as pretty as Adriana Lima with a new pussy cat between my legs.

Joke! Obviously i'm bored....lol

[amberskyi]

you dont have to be verse but if you cant lick it before you stick than your wack homie

[Maxim616]

Thanks Harajuku for responding and I found your response to be considerate and honest. Hopefully, more of the ladies will respond and we can get this conversation along.

As for the gentlemen who view me as being sexually selfish, I think you are missing the point of the post. This is post is ultimately a conversation on sexuality and attraction but without the veneer contempt or smugness.

I have preformed oral sex on both TS and GG in the past and never been poisoned before. Frankly giving head is not something that churns my gears. It works for some guys and not for all. Why admonish someone for his or her preference? There are a lot of transwomen who do not like their penis and prefer their partner not engage with it. Yet I'm not going to hold it against a ts woman who receives sexual satisfaction from her penis. The point was to share my experience in order to hear other people's perspective.

Like the guy who's judgmental on men who are not versatile. Are you the sexual police? What happened to each his own? Maybe I should have placed a poll but I was hoping to elicit thoughtful reactions. Again the point is not to judge but to share.

People this is the 21st century and we are on the cutting edge of sexual relations and gender norms. I remember a time on this board or in chat where we used to have these conversations. So again what type of lover do you prefer?

[Merkurie]

No judgement. I asked a question, not so different than your date did. How do you not reciprocate in oral sex? How do you manage to have a relationship with anybody outside of Lancaster County or Uganda on those terms?

It may not get your gears going but what about your partner?

[HarajukuDollxoxo]

you dont have to be verse but if you cant lick it before you stick than your wack homie

LOL!