An escort has changed my whole perception on Transwomen

[GrimFusion]

if you paid for this experience then that's your answer right there.

btw: can someone explain how they consider "escorts to cost less than girlfriends"? do you equate time spent with someone you love in monetary value?

That's not necessarily true. You shouldn't assume all escorts are just money-grubbing, soul-less, emotionally manipulative cheats. If not for the expenses incurred by transitioning, many transsexuals would prefer not to escort at all and everybody needs a few close friends they really meld with no matter their profession.

[bluesoul]

That's not necessarily true. You shouldn't assume all escorts are just money-grubbing, soul-less, emotionally manipulative cheats. If not for the expenses incurred by transitioning, many transsexuals would prefer not to escort at all and everybody needs a few close friends they really meld with no matter their profession.

no assumptions necessary: it is a byproduct of working in the escorting business. in order for it to work (and as many have mentioned), a person has to separate their heart from the "work"

i also don't subscribe that "many would prefer not to escort". it's almost vogue now

[GrimFusion]

i also don't subscribe that "many would prefer not to escort". it's almost vogue now

Ha ha ha ha... wait, that was a joke, right?
I'd assume it's hard to overcome the reality that escorting is likely the most feasible option while transitioning because there aren't very many regular jobs that pay enough and would be willing to hire a transitioning transsexual. I know a chick who's dealing with that now; she never thought she'd be reduced to a cam model (no offense to avid cam models; it's just her opinion) and even that doesn't bring in enough income to pay all the bills and afford her all the hormones, treatments, and counseling she needs, but she's been looking for a normal 9-5 for the last four years and has come up empty-handed mostly due to discrimination. I've been trying to help her set up a membership site so she doesn't have to consider escorting, but she's still faced with the fact that she may have to as a last ditch option.

I'm a little worried that if she's forced to choose between postponing her transition or escorting, she'd sooner choose escorting. I mean, you do what you gotta do, but once you get used to that lifestyle and get over the initial "what the fuck am I doing", it's hard to give up and scale back especially when not changing anything ensures financial comfort, but it's rare that anybody can escort long-term without ending up at least a little psychologically screwed afterward; especially where ideas of consensual and intimate sex are concerned.

It's also good for business to paint a happy face on and pretend it's all gravy even if introspectively life seems more like a disaster and realistically, escorting is anything but comfortable (lol... "butt comfort"). An escort who's honest about their feelings is probably an escort who doesn't see much business because clients don't want to hear about any of that. They just wanna get their rocks off and leave.

I'd assume part of the problem is that clients aren't comfortable with penny-pinchers either. They'd sooner prefer an escort who spends her income on nice clothes and lingerie, breast augmentation, reshaping surgeries, ass-fat injections, and expensive makeup (basically focusing on everything but the eventual end of their transition) to the homely type that save all their money for SRS (or to escape escorting and finish their transition) and to appeal to their own self-image rather than the expectations of their clients. Eventually, enough exposure to that likely makes spending money feel like second-nature. It's a double-edged sword, as I'm sure there are a few escorts that are just in it for the money and glamour. I just don't see how any of this could be considered glamorous unless the chick's intentions are all ass-backward and completely screwed.

I regress; maybe you're just in with a different group of transgirls who think differently and would sooner agree with your view. I'm just throwing my perspective and experience out there.

[Dino Velvet]

Nice to hear things went well with this girl. I've broken the rules with escorts having my share of "What if?" kind of thoughts. Just remember by occupation she cannot be monogamous and other men are being intimate and sexual with her too. Have fun but watch out for yourself.

[GroobyKrissy]

If you're not an escort, then you've got no right to talk about escorting (or something like that). Oh wait, that was a different thread.

Anyway. To the OP...

Good for you

My current relationship is an actual transition from a escort / client relationship that happened over several months, so it does actually happen.

I suppose it is nice that we only see each other for a few days each month or so because he travels for work, so I guess you could debate the term, 'relationship'. But, we consider each other BF/GF. So, hang in there... you just never know what kind of chemistry can develop over time.

[GrimFusion]

If you're not an escort, then you've got no right to talk about escorting (or something like that). Oh wait, that was a different thread.

You're right. I admit it. I talk to quite a few girls who don't post around here and seem to feel that way, but it's not my place to speak for them.

[bluesoul]

Ha ha ha ha... wait, that was a joke, right?

nope.

If you're not an escort, then you've got no right to talk about escorting (or something like that). Oh wait, that was a different thread.

not sure if this was a joke (and/or directed towards myself)- it's another mindset or philosophy i don't subscribe to. i don't have to be x to talk about x.

i've always found this type of logic to be held most dear to those that cannot articulate themselves clearly enough for someone else to understand their situation.

[GroobyKrissy]

not sure if this was a joke (and/or directed towards myself)- it's another mindset or philosophy i don't subscribe to. i don't have to be x to talk about x.

i've always found this type of logic to be held most dear to those that cannot articulate themselves clearly enough for someone else to understand their situation.

Totally a joke...connecting it to a different thread where the 'if you're not X then you can't say X' line of reasoning came into play. I don't subscribe to that belief either but when it comes to escorting, I do think some of the vicarious living is rather amusing sometimes.

[GrimFusion]

Totally a joke...connecting it to a different thread where the 'if you're not X then you can't say X' line of reasoning came into play. I don't subscribe to that belief either but when it comes to escorting, I do think some of the vicarious living is rather amusing sometimes.

Not my intention at all, but I saw what you did there and had a good chuckle. I guess you do have a sense of humor. Thanks for the laugh.

[OrlFla89]

In response to the OP, I wish you all the best.

I had a similar experience with a ts girl a few years back and have met some real cool girls I seemed to mesh well with. Perhaps she was attracted to you and deeply enjoyed her encounter with you

Escorts or not, they're people with feelings too. I actually met a couple at work once and the woman admitted to me (she was a GG) that she escorted and that's how she met her bf, he was a client. Honestly, they seemed happy

In my opinion though, I would take this slow and proceed with extreme caution. Dating an escort (TS or GG) can be very tricky, I dated one and it was a very bad experience. Hope thats not the case with you, but do take caution and see where it goes. Start as friends, and have some fun